I'm confused by my guy friend and need advice! (Page 3)

Anonymous · 2015-01-10T02:11:56Z

I was hanging out with my guy friend not that long ago. He's kinda confusing me and I'm not sure if he is becoming friendlier because we have become closer friends or if it's something else. First off he jokingly asked if I would marry him and then when I said I was going to leave if I would take him home with me. Then he said that he likes spending time with me and asked if I wanted to hang out for awhile. Clearly that's being a good friend. Once in his dorm room, he came up beside me and pulled me into a side up and then reached out his hands for a front hug, he wouldn't let go right away. I let go and he wanted another hug. We were watching a tv show on his bed and one point he was rubbing my face with his thumb and then he was rubbing my back as he was staring into my eyes saying how time felt like it was going so fast. He kept asking me if I found certain guys attractive on the show and when I said one was good looking, he thought it was weird and asked me if I would like him then since he didn't look like the guy. He picked up a strand of my hair and said it smelled nice. Another time he was at his desk on his computer looking at fb and I came up behind his chair. He reached his hands up and grabbed my shoulders and his one hand travelled down my back to my hip and up to my waist and then leaned his head back against me. Later he asked if something he was doing was a turn off. Lately instead of giving high fives, he reaches out his hand for me to grab it. I'm just really confused, maybe all these things mean we are becoming good friends.

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stevieG1234 Follow
Xper 4 Age: 40 , mho 34%

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Are you sure he is gay?

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  I know he is not gay just by things he has done/said.
  
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- stevieG1234
  
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  Maybe you should ask him? You are friends. Do that way you can always be honest with each other. I would ask him has it would put your mind at ease.
  
  Can you do me a favour please and answer my question it's on my profile page about my best friend who is a female? Cheers
  
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- Asker
  
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  Maybe I'll ask him, I kinda did when I was first talking to him. Sure, I'll answer your question.
  
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- stevieG1234
  
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  I would whats the harm, unless of course he takes offence :/. Some people take longer to come out but there again his behaviour doesn't strike me as someone who is gay. If he gay then happy days you have a gay best friend however if he isn't even better because by going what you have mention he likes you. A quick question if a girl says she is a bit upset then you ask her in a few days and she says she is OK can I take that by face value or is it women's double language of meaning something different lol
  
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- Asker
  
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  Hmm... When a girl says she is okay a couple days later, she might be okay. It depends on what made her upset. For me I know if it's been a few days, I probably mean it. Was it you that made her upset or is it something else? Depending on that, it would be easier to tell. If I was really upset, even a couple days later, I probably wouldn't exactly be okay.
  
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- stevieG1234
  
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  Basicly I told my best friend who is a girl that I couldn't spend so much time with her as I was developing feelings for her and I have a partner. I texted after telling her to make sure she was ok. Then again in a two days later to double check, I didn't like seeing her upset.
  
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- Asker
  
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  Okay in that situation, I would still say she probably is still upset. I would give her some time and don't keep asking if she is okay. You probably hurt her feelings when you said you couldn't spend as much time with her and there is a possibility that she was developing feelings for you as well. This time it probably is a double standard when she says she is okay, just wait awhile to check on how she is doing.
  
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Donaldduck Follow
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Damn he wants you? Is he cute? ;)

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  Yeah he is pretty cute. :)
  
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YeahRightOkay Follow
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He reaaaaalllly likes you! Make a move if your interested or confront him if you're not

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  He does know that I like him, but maybe he is questioning whether I really do. Since he said I wouldn't like him because he didn't look like the guy that I said was attractive on the tv show. I'm not sure if he is just trying to test me and see if I do like him. He did ask if I was scared of him. I feel like he is always observing me, to me this was a little weird but comments on what I was wearing. He was saying that I must own a lot of college apparel, just because I was wearing a college sweatshirt and I guess he remembers me wearing another one. I just hope that he isn't just after a hookup.
  
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Anonymous
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Yes, I do think apple pie is the best.

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  Pumpkin pie is even better.
  
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Anonymous
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If he was "just a friend", you wouldn't be asking such a thing

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  He is just a friend, but I'm confused by how he is acting because I'm not sure if he is.
  
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- Opinion Owner
  
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  Like I said if he was "just a friend", you wouldn't be asking such a thing
  
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- Asker
  
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  Oh I see what you mean. Thanks!
  
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- Opinion Owner
  
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  Let me know what happens with your "just a friend"
  
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- Asker
  
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  Yeah, I'll let you know what happens.
  
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- Poppykate
  
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  I would love to know what happens. Although i know what WILL happen. He is going to say YES!! I have been with my guy for 8 years and he is not so touchy feelly. He is Soooooo in love with you!
  
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- Opinion Owner
  
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  Then what's "complicated" about it?
  
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- Asker
  
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  It's complicated now because I guess I'm not sure if he just wants a hookup or something like that. I want to say he wouldn't do that because he seems to like being around me and even shared some more personal things about how he feels about himself. He wanted to know if something he did was a turnoff and wanted to know he didn't sleep around like this guy on this show he compares himself to. I feel like he does listen and I don't think he would force me to do something.
  
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- Opinion Owner
  
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  I was talking to the answerer, not you
  
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- Asker
  
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  Oops...
  
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american_girl Follow
Xper 4 Age: 27

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I think he likes you! :) be happy!!!

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  Thanks for the help! I really appreciate it. :)
  
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- american_girl
  
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  any time
  
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Gabby21924 Follow
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He sounds interested

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  Thanks for the help!
  
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correylon Follow
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wants to shag
answerm ien

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penetrationstation Follow
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He want to hit that

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Anonymous
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He def liked you.

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