What goes on in a shy, antisocial guy's mind when it comes to girls?

[Anonymous]

I really wanna know what goes on in a shy guy's mind when it comes to GIRLS. Like there's this guy I know that's super manly who goes to the gym & plays sports & is super outgoing when talking to only his friends & other GUYS. But when he encounters a female, he completely avoids them & makes no effort in making a conversation at all.

I just wanna know if he likes me because he does try to make a conversation sometimes but it literally ends up going nowhere and I notice that it takes him a lot to try to talk to me. And I do notice that he does avoid me too lol like when he sees me he would go somewhere else. I heard that when guys avoid girls or a certain girl it's because they're nervous to talk to them or are sexually frustrated.

this guy is not that cute nervous, type of shy. he's ANTISOCIAL to girls like he acts as if he wants no female interaction at all he's not mean he just appears rude because he doesn't wanna talk to anyone who's not a guy. And I FOR SURE know he doesn't have a girlfriend

So I just wanna know do shy, antisocial guys WANT to talk to girls but are too afraid to, is that why they avoid them? Or do they just hate women lol. And do they think about sex at all?

*SORRY IF THAT WAS A LOT TO READ*

[5k1nny]

Coming from a very shy guy, the simple truth is some of us find it very difficult to talk to girls, I mean, I can talk to them but it is very hard for me, there is usually something that makes him shy away, whether it be his lack of confidence, or he may be insecure about something that he feels would be a problem if you two did get to know each other better, or in my case a lot of times, I've always felt like I wasn't good enough, I didn't feel I had anything that a girl would want, or anything they would find interesting, and many times I felt like trying to talk to them and attempt to take things a little further would be a bad idea because I felt like I would be a dissapointment, so I just avoided them. Now I'm not saying that is this guys problem, but these are a few logical reasons behind his shyness. So there are a lot of reasons why a guy could act like that, and it can certainly be exasterbated if a guy does in fact like a girl.

[Anonymous]

Your description of the guy is like the way i was when i was younger. i grew up with brothers and no sisters and went to an all boys school, i was very uncomfortable with girls and it was hard to relate to them and talk to them. However all i ever did was think about them and desire them!

I would suggest that you be bold and make the first move and make it as easy as possible for him, you should even ask him out! the worst that can happen is he says no and scuttles away, if that happens at least you will know not to waste any more time on him because if you make it that easy and he's not interested then he could be gay or you may just not be his type and thats all good, you can just move on.

[Mesonfielde]

I think he's just not interested in talking to you.

[oldanddecrepid]

Its pretty simple really..

He has all the urges to feel she is pretty and smart, but just can't act on them because he beats himself down for thinking he is worthy.

They do not hate women... au contraire, they put themselves down so much that it can even make them angry for thinking that they should approach... its like a battle gong on in their head, and the easiest thing is to do nothing or feel nothing towards women.

[apexalpha]

I think he might have a special type or being super picky in his type of girl

[JackPack]

he's either gay or not sure what to do

[JackPack]

Legitimately gay, not being mean

[Asker]

But he has such a typical guy attitude like he loves sports, works out, drinks, smokes weed & all that. It's just as if he has no interest in girls at all. Like he hasn't hit puberty lolll

[kiler1000]

question: why go after a guy like that?