How do you comfort a crying man?

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This question may seem completely odd to you. But the only men that I've seen cry was a single friend of mine. I'm one of those people that must comfort another person when I see them upset, but I don't know how to do it in this particular situation.

With those who have experience, how do you comfort a man who's weeping?

SensualScribe · Accepted Answer

A hug, rub his back gently (not like a massage, just with one hand like you would sometimes when hugging someone). If you are more than just friends... what I do with my boyfriend is let him rest his head on my chest, cradle his body and stroke his hair, back, arms and hands, wipe his tears with my thumbs or sometimes kiss them away. I would not suggest all of that if you are just friends though... Hope whatever is going on with your friend is nothing too bad and he feels better soon.

XNicholeMariex3 · Accepted Answer

Rub his back and give him a long quiet hug.

puncakegirl · Accepted Answer

If I see them crying I'd start crying too.. Can't help it.. So I really don't know

adamski24 · Accepted Answer

Ok I'm going to give you one off our guy codes to use in this situation.
When we want to talk about our feelings or console a friend if we see , know they're down we say let's go down the pub or get a few drinks.
To us its more manly to talk about stuff over drinks.
Iv just reread it as he's weeping just do the same as we have to do to you girls just hug him without saying a word.

genuinlysensitive · Accepted Answer

Comfort them they way you would want to be comforted when you are crying. Put your arm around them tell them its going to be all right keep him warm, encourage them about whatever has gotten them down, make him feel like he is in a safe place.

martyfellow · Answer

I don't think it's any different from a woman weeping. You ask them the problem, you try to help them put whatever happened in perspective, that it's not, hopefully, really all that bad... generally, people cry over things that can't be fixed or helped.

Despondency · Answer

Punch him in the shoulder and start a power tool near him. The sound is like a lullaby to a man.

musicbrain5 · Answer

Unless he makes it clear that he wants to be alone, sit with him, hug him, and don't say anything until he speaks first. Just let him know you're there for him.

Anpu23 · Answer

Quietly with hugs, no words need to be said, just hold him and let him have it out.

peachblossomluck · Answer

Hug him, hold him until he feels better. Fix him something to eat. Let him play with a chainsaw. Those things make guys feel better.

Hidden_P · Answer

Give them a hug. I've seen a few men cry. My dad, my brother, my ex boyfriend, my current boyfriend, my friend, my friends boyfriends... same way every time - give them a hug and stroke their hair.

Tormentarian · Answer

Take a knife and threaten to harm him and you will see stop crying

meatballs21 · Answer

Hold his hand, hold his arm, gently hold him and let him get it out. Let him do the majority of the talking. Be reassuring but don't say too much.

SexyTexas · Answer

Awww, this is one of those rare feel good posts that GAG needs more of. Great Question!

GoldenSunshine · Answer

The same way you comfort a woman. You hug them and ask what's wrong :)

dreamingincake · Answer

Put your arm around him, some sort of physical affection, after he's calmer i say some good treats would help. Like a brownie sundae!

Illusive_Man · Answer

I don't really recall crying but when I feel empty , filling me up with chocolate chip cookies and milk usually does trick.

elainebryce · Answer

It depends on your relationship with him and if you know what he’s comfortable with. My best friend has never been a big crier but on the rare occasion he does cry, just a hug and gently rubbing his back goes a long way. I don’t talk much or try to solve his problems. If he wants help with that, we’ll work on it after he’s finished

Alexious · Answer

Give him a shotgun and some beer. He'll be back to his normal self in no time.

chrisbigman · Answer

Hugging is definitely good, whether it's by the side or the traditional head-on type hug.

SROMFTW · Answer

pass him a fork and a jar of pickles

Your_boss960 · Answer

You hug him and tell him it's going to be okay.

genericname85 · Answer

a hug helps a lot!

Drast · Answer

You don't.

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