My boyfriend called me ugly?

Question

My boyfriend is really handsome, and he's really out of my league, but never made me feel ugly until today. We were fighting about something really silly, and he said 'shut the f**k up, you're f**king ugly, you should feel lucky to have me". It really broke my heart. Why would he date me if he thought that I was so ugly? Should I end it or forgive him? Thanks... :(

dipta · Accepted Answer

'Shut the fuck up, you're fucking ugly and should feel lucky to have me'

Being called ugly was the light part of the whole thing. It seems there are other issues to consider.
He's taking you for more than granted, apparently he feels way superior to you. By forgiving him, you're basically agreeing with him and sealing the way this relationship will work from now on.
It matters little how attractive you're, and even less what he may think. He broke your heart and your trust. You be proud of who you're as a person, your character and values, because those are what will get you through life. Just don't betray yourself and your own wellbeing and rest assure he wouldn't even be dating you were you that ugly.
Think carefully about what's best for you.

shynessisntnice · Accepted Answer

You should end it... No one can say that you are ugly, no one is ugly... Actually the one that is ugly is him for thinking he is the best looking man in the world... You should just break up with him, you deserve better, he is just another guy without a personality... His handsome face doesn't mean a thing he is still a horrible person... And don't forget you are beautiful...

dominiquois · Accepted Answer

That's really cruel and really harsh.
He feels like you are really under him. With that mentality he could feel justified in doing something worse like cheating or more verbal abuse even physical abuse.
You should either just end it or find somebody you will really value you.

hellionthesage · Accepted Answer

Well, what where the circumstances of the fight? Basicly when your angry you generally want to hurt the other person your angry at and to be honest attacking a womans looks are the easiest target especially if she is self concious. I'm sure you have said things that cut deep, whether or not you realized it. That is not to say what he did was right but there are circumstances which should be accounted for first. If this is a one time thing then it was probably just an insult if it has occured frequently then it might be a good idea to leave the relationship. However I would also ask what you did in this situation, since usually both parties are equally guilty of something.

GamerArtNerd · Accepted Answer

He may have just said it out of spite without really meaning it but based on what you described, he may truly believe what he told you. Regardless of how true it is, that shows that he is very conceited. You should never tell someone that you're out of their league and they are lucky to have you no matter what. I don't see how it's possible to heal from something like that unless he admits he was wrong and gives you the most sincere apology in the world. If he really believes that, he obviously cares about you enough to where it doesn't matter so there is still hope as long as he is willing to admit his wrongs.

TripleAce · Answer

Meh some people know there hotter than the other and feel you should appreciate the fact that he's with you

Let's be practical here for a moment, we all know there is invisible lines of sexiness and hotness. So i guess in a way he's not wrong that you should feel lucky to be with a guy much hotter than you because it doesn't happen very often

But either way, if he finds you ugly I wouldn't want to be with someone who doesn't find me attractive. I think that your biggest issue, your not willing to get rid of him because guess what? He's hot (that partly has something to do with it lol)

Anonymous · Answer

I think he just sees you as a lowquality girl who he can fulfill his sexual needs. Becuse he is in a relationship with you even tho he knows he can have someone who looks like a model and the fact that he says:'shut the f**k up, you're f**king ugly makes me belive you are just a temporary fuckbuddy. It won´t be long until he finds another beautiful girls and you are geting thrown away like grabbage. It´s sad i know but if i were you then i would break up with him immediately. I feel sorry for you becuse you must have thoght you found the right one knowing he was just using you and i'm think you are a really sweet, caring, loving girl who doesn´t deserve to live throgh this.

AleDeEurope · Answer

You should break up right now. A boyfriend (or gf) should never hurt the one they care about like that. I understand things get heated up in an argument, but he went too far.
Like you've been told, that's a possible sign of an abusive boyfriend, you better leave now before it gets worse.

Prof_Don · Answer

That's the sign of either a REALLY immature, or an abusive, boyfriend. That's a huge red flag, that would simply be stupid to ignore. The next step is him calling u a cunt and slapping you. :(

Weirdlifegurl · Answer

END IT
he doesn't deserve you
and no he is not out of your league
he is obviously as asshole and you're not so i guess he is the one who should feel lucky to have you
just be strong and end it
you will find another one who value you and never hurt you like that..

Smiley26 · Answer

Forgiving him will be your biggest mistake.. He will do it again i know and you know even if he says he won't.. thats really messed up someone who loves you wouldn't go there even if you two argued badly

XNicholeMariex3 · Answer

Kick his ass to the fucking curb. His personality is fucking ugly.

Anonymous · Answer

Forgive him he dosn't c u as being ugly or out of his leag he loves u. He just said that cause someone else told him that like a friend/friends and he know u were insecure about your looks so he was pissed and used it against u. He was way out of line and he knows it

clara_leite · Answer

please do a favor to you and break up with this asshole. He is a dick and don´t respect women. You have to improve yourselve and never look back. Improve your soul, your knowledge, your image, do exercise, reading, courses, frienship and speak with other guys. Make him jealous and wish never say this things to you in the past! Go girl!

NatashaJ · Answer

END IT if a guy doesn't find you attractive what's the point of being with him your probably just a ego booster because he thinks you lick his shoes because he so handsome. You deserve better.

Anonymous · Answer

To stay with a guy like that is either shallow or deluded. I'm going to guess shallow given the degree of look difference you seem to believe there is. You think that he's out of your league yet got with him anyway so looks must be pretty important with you, which is the reason you haven't done the sensible thing and left already, instead questioning if you should forgive him.

MissNowhere · Answer

Dick move, do you really wanna be with someone like that? I wouldn't.

Touglyforfemales · Answer

Well he's Handsome so I doubt you'd leave him. If a man calls his wife or girlfriend Ugly he's scum of the the earth and white knights are there to defend the girl. But if the girl calls her boyfriend or husband ugly its oh I feel for you or you can and should do better. So what he called you ugly out of anger move on. At least you can get dates and be relationships.

MaskedSanity · Answer

I would end it right there and then. He's a conceited dickhole. "You're fucking ugly, you're lucky to have me" <--- full of himself and emotionally abusive. Dump him NOW.

DaddyRollingStone · Answer

Just dump him, it's not even worth staying with someone like that

Mustachekitteh · Answer

How the hell did the silly fight escalated so fast?  Did he truly mean it or was it out of the heat of the moment?  Still best to talk it out and then decide if you should end it.

Wesely · Answer

BREAK UP WITH THAT BITCH! Everyone is beautiful. No one should be called ugly. A boyfriend is there for his girl. Either that or he's just mad in a jealous ass rage.

sexyphil · Answer

Dump the shit very publicly. Wait until you are out somewhere in public and just walk off telling him in a loud voice that if he thinks you're ugly then he can stick it!!!

muspelhem_5 · Answer

"Why would he date me if he thought that I was so ugly?" It sounds like he's using you to soothe his own insecurities. I don't think someone who loved you would say something like that.

Iron_Man · Answer

He's upset and you prob have made comments before to him about you dont look as good as him so when you were fighting he used it against you. If he truly felt that way you would never have been together in the first place.

JillTaylor77 · Answer

End it! You don't deserve someone who feels superior because of looks! That's so shallow it's ridiculous.

Anonymous · Answer

Honestly if a guy makes you feel like crap and doesn't say sorry before the next day then i would break up with him because he made me feel like crap... I would tell him this... Im "lucky" to have you... REALLY... Your lucky to have me dumbass... Im beautiful and no one cqn take that from me so if you wanna break up then its your lost... NOT MINE!!!

Lulu15333 · Answer

LEAVE THAT FUCKING JERK. I BET you're HELLA GORGEOUS AND DONT NEED THAT ASSHOLE

Phoenix98 · Answer

Wow that is cold blooded, leave him if he doesn't apologize.

cinderelli · Answer

You should definitely end it.. you deserve better.. and you will have no problem finding someone better than that douchbag...

the_unknown_panda · Answer

If he treats you badly on a normal basis, dump him. If this is a one time thing and he apologizes, forgive him.

Surfofthenomad · Answer

Damn, that's pretty bad man. I would just get out of that as soon as possible.

QuestionMan · Answer

That was probably just him saying bs in the heat of the moment.

longjohndan · Answer

end it, tell him you are done and never look back

ruskodisco · Answer

Yeah that's not a healthy relationship at all, and you should leave him. But who knows maybe you really are ugly and lucky to have him.

Anonymous · Answer

You are being USED brake up with him... he's (hinting)

jmmmfi · Answer

Sounds like something the girl would say to the guy

Noneofyourbusiness1 · Answer

I don't think you should break up with him when people are mad they say stupid stuff

verticallyinsecure · Answer

sounds like an insecure guy

FedoraTheExplora · Answer

Dump is sorry little ass.

Anonymous · Answer

Sounds like you need break it off with him

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