I'm in a long distance relationship with a guy who has mild aspergers and depression/anxiety. Most of the time he is very loving and tells me he loves me, that I'm his future etc and we have a great time together. He was very full-on when he first got in contact with me (online dating) and despite the distance I decided to give it a go. And we spent time together and got on well, it's been 6 months now. So, it's mostly good and I try to respect that he is 'different' and he reacts to some situations negatively. It can be frustrating at times. But mostly we get on really well and have a similar sense of humor. We chat every day. He is supportive over my issues and we can talk about mostly anything.
However, once in a while he takes umbrage with something I've said and disappears on me. He did this yesterday after we'd been texting. I mentioned something completely random that I'd been shocked/upset about (nothing to do with our relationship) and he made a comment about life being wonderful (said sarcastically) and then said he wasn't in a bad mood. I said we could change the subject but he didn't say anything. I said I'd speak to him later, no response.
He is now out drinking. He's been posting pics on Facebook of this band he's watching but hasn't been in touch with me at all. We were supposed to Skype today but I don't know if I will hear from him. I worry he will dump me.
I try to be patient (I have some mental health issues too and understand that he finds things difficult) but it's hard not to be hurt by this. I empathise with his issues but we need to discuss a way to go forward so we can communicate better and hopefully avoid him giving me the silent treatment in future.
Advice would be greatly appreciated, thanks.
However, once in a while he takes umbrage with something I've said and disappears on me. He did this yesterday after we'd been texting. I mentioned something completely random that I'd been shocked/upset about (nothing to do with our relationship) and he made a comment about life being wonderful (said sarcastically) and then said he wasn't in a bad mood. I said we could change the subject but he didn't say anything. I said I'd speak to him later, no response.
He is now out drinking. He's been posting pics on Facebook of this band he's watching but hasn't been in touch with me at all. We were supposed to Skype today but I don't know if I will hear from him. I worry he will dump me.
I try to be patient (I have some mental health issues too and understand that he finds things difficult) but it's hard not to be hurt by this. I empathise with his issues but we need to discuss a way to go forward so we can communicate better and hopefully avoid him giving me the silent treatment in future.
Advice would be greatly appreciated, thanks.
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*was in a bad mood, not wasnt'! D'oh
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