How to stop liking a guy with player tendencies?

[Anonymous]

Okay so I have been friends with this guy for a year now and there's always been this feeling of more than friends but nothing more. I have always liked him very much and I know I shouldn't considering he flirts with many other grils and tells me about it, but evendough I dont start any conversation he is the one who looks for me and teases me about being wife material and such. When he gets asked about be, he always answers that he doesn't try anything because he fears that he will ruin his chances with me. I feel like this is just some excuse he says for not liking me enough. Should I move on?

[tony72722]

Players have traits in them that exude confidence. It's actually almost always arrogance but there is a fine line in between the two. You like him because he posses the traits of a dominant and self motivated man. You want him because you can't tie him down. It's all just down to our biological wiring. We are humans though so we have a choice in our actions despite urges. As we get older we start to see the truth to all this. I think the key is finding a nice guy who is confident. That is like the ultimate winner aka husband material. Most nice guys have been dumped on so much though that they carry zero confidence.

The guy you are talking about is probably the first one that I described and no he is not going to change. It's up to you as to whether he is worth the risk of getting emotional involved with him. Goodluck brah.. we all gunna make it.

[Conflustered]

You could try being a bit cheeky. If he says you're wife material just give him a wink and say you better believe it, there's a doctor out there waiting for me and walk away. If he tells you about girls he likes or is flirting with say I'm not your mother why are you telling me and walk away. Get yourself a back bone. Talk about other guys. Don't be the sad friend zoned person that is his safety net. Don't seek his approval or ask him why he doesn't see you that way. Transform into the beautiful swan you are, walk with pride and confidence and you can be sure he's gonna sit up and take notice. If it's too painful for you to be his friend and you can't be assertive then maybe you need to decide if he's worth this

[Asker]

Thank you so much, you literlay just made it clear for me.

[Conflustered]

My tip is read the book why men love bitches. It's not bitch in a nasty way it's just how to be confident and know a bad guy :) I found it brilliant

[Agrmel2211]

Yes because it well just hurt u if u don't move on