Does he like me or is it wishful thinking?

[Anonymous]

I've been friends with this guy for around 7 years. We used to do everything together and I'd go over to his house as soon as he got off of work. We've never been single at the same time though. We've gone on trips, he's listened to me botch about breakups, took my side even though he was friends with the guy too, and he's tried to help me to reach goals. I've never thought of him as more than a friwnd. That is until after I moved away for 3 years and only got to see him a few times. Now I ended up in the same town he lives in. We started hanging out again and now I feel even closer to him and have started having some feelings. Although I've never let them show. We talk to each other about everything dreams, marriage, sex, kids, I mean everything. We give each other looks when we go out and someone is getting on our nerves or we want to leave. He calls me if he has to go somewhere and doesn't want to go alone. We are making plans to go on a spring break together. He buys me beers at the bar and pays for me to get into shows. The other night I was staying at his house. He told his roommate he was going to bed and then told me he had just got a new king sized bed if I wanted to sleep in there. He has 4 couches but I went to sleep in his room. I thought we would just sleep. But he asked if I wanted to cuddle and we did. He kept talking like nothing happened and I fell asleep. We woke up and he took me home like everything was the same. I'm just confused on why he would want to cuddle... does that mean he likes me or I'm over thinking

He likes you

He doesn't like you

He's scared to ruin a friendship

[kovalinkie19]

A combination of A and C it seems. People who are fans of the film When Harry Met Sally are envious of you. It pretty much depends on what your heart wants. Does it want him to be there until you find the person you end up with, or do you want him to be that person you end up with?

[Asker]

I always thought he would be the friend that was just always there until i meet the person I end up with. But lately I've been thinking maybe he's the one I'm supposed to end up with. I don't know if he feels that way. He played a song for me the other day. Which, was all about a guy telling this girl he likes her possibly loves her but they can keep it a secret and don't need to explain it and go on how they are. I'm not saying he played it on purpose but for me that song is how I feel. I don't want to ruin this great thing we have by telling him I like him. The thing is I could be leaving in the spring and not be back for 2 years and we'll before that happens I feel like I need to know. But I don't know how to go about it.

[kovalinkie19]

Well a two thoughts really... The first is that people don't tend to regret (at least as much) what they say, they usually regret things they don't say. At least they can say to them self, I gave it my best and things didn't go my way. The second thing is, you sound like you have a great thing going on, but it's not really about being friends anymore, for your side at least, possibly his as well. So I would just keep that in mind. Remember, you miss 100% of the shots you don't take. Good luck! Thanks for the most helpful.

[apple24]

nooo... Is it to late to understand this question? I think you should go directly to the guy and ask him!

[Asker]

I've thought about it. But, he's the type of guy that hates hurting someone's feelings. So, if I did straight up ask I'm worried how he would react and if he didn't like me hed probably just not talk to ne for awhile until he figured out how to handle it. I should have asked when we were cuddling but, my mind was to busy processing the fact that was happening. It just sucks that I'll possibly be leaving for 2 entire years with no chance to come back to visit until the end.

[apple24]

I guess in this case senario you have to ask yourself is he worth your time and effort? So is he worth it? What makes you think he will stay faithful for so long?

[Asker]

I know everything about him that's what makes me think he would. He's only had 1 one night stand ever and felt bad about it. He doesn't play girls around and I've seen how he is in every relationship he's been in. Plus, he could come visit me which he already said he would when I do leave.

[Asker]

He is worth it. He's the one person I can tell anything to and that can make me laugh when I'm having a horrible day. Every trip I've been on has been with him and they're t b with best times. He's always there no matter what and I can't explain it.

[apple24]

Do you think he can make you a better person?

[apple24]

Because if you believe so! Then go for it but know it won't be easy but I think you already know that much.

[apple24]

Also don't believe everything he says! Just judge him by his action. You don't know if he really had a one night stand he could have had many one night stand he probably won't even tell you.