My boyfriend caught me 'Cheating' he was dangerously calm... He told me to delete his number I'm confused? (Page 2)

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First of all I say 'cheating' because we never actually did the act but me and this guy were kissing which was all. His response was I had the intention even thou I never had sex. It's been a week now and when he caught us at my mums house he opened the door and closed it as soon as he realised something was going on. Now I'm not saying what I did was OK but I feel like he should forgive me because nothing actually happened except a kiss. The boy left but my boyfriend was talking to my mother about general things at first I thought he was speaking about me. Anyway he said goodbye to her and declined offer to stay for dinner. I tried to explain nothing happened but he was slapping my hands away from grabbing him. He kept saying its about the intention to cheat and not the act that's the issue. He didn't care that I was crying which was the first time that he's been like this. He never even raised his voice throughout he kept demanding that i delete his number. He has covered for me when my Mum asked what was wrong because we were acting suspicious. Anyway he walked out by shoving me away from the door. I'm just really confused he never said that he'd break up with me and he never looked like he was angry at all. I sent him a bunch of texts and called him a lot but there's no response. How can I get him to forgive me? I feel like normally he would forgive me but he seemed like he wants a reason to be angry.

dudeman · Answer

Sounds like an emotionally mature young man. Good for him.

CoolSky01 · Answer

i would do the same really , i am genrally calm and cool and laid back and when things like this arise i will calmly stare at you , tell you that you're out of my life , and simply move on , you're gone for him so dont bother , i can't say he did the wrong thing its what every guy would do...

Krillanr · Answer

I like that you defend it as just a kiss. XD

What he did is what we know as "My rage broke, I'm going to leave before I do something to end up in prison."

Pretty much, ya hurt him by being with another guy romantically, and he decided to disconnect himself from you.

TripleAce · Answer

He sounds like a real gentleman. A man that has honour and pride. I think he's the good guy and he's right to leave you even though it was 'just' kissing, right.

The next girl will be lucky to have him

Prettygurl12 · Answer

You have no right to be forgiven. You should be thanking God you're alive to question his lack of action. Expect never to hear from him again. Your dumping is implied by the fact that you're a bitch.

hopefulandwaiting · Answer

What do you mean by 'normally' he would forgive you? Have you done this before? The question you have to ask yourself is, why were you kissing this other guy in the first place? If you can't answer that then you cannot ask him to forgive you.

Anonymous · Answer

He's not mad. He just thinks you're worthless as a girlfriend, so he turned his back, and moved on. He's more likely sad then angry.

lyssabugg35 · Answer

Kissing is cheating.  He's done with you.  He was calm because not only was he just that done, he was around your mom.  He won't forgive you.

Southern_Shorty · Answer

I'm thinking you should look up the definition of cheating. You sound beyond misinformed. Maybe you should remain single for a while.

hifromkai · Answer

Fuck off nothing happened kissing in my books is still cheating and if he hadn't shown up you had the intention so you were probably going to have sex with him.

I wouldn't forgive you for that you're supposed to be in a relationship

erandal · Answer

It sound like he loved you (he covered for you with your mum) but you just broke his heart. I hate to say this but what you did was cheating and he may never forgive you and I wouldn't blame him.

liyahh3 · Answer

i think he expected something like this has been going on and now that he has found a reason he just wants to go through the emotions of being mad.

give him some time and maybe in afew weeks bring him a nice offering?

Baggz · Answer

Put yourself in his situation, how would you react if you found him kissing another girl and not you? Please use common sense.

Anonymous · Answer

Just leave him alone you weren't "cheating" you were CHEATING that's why you had the door closed, if you have to sneak around and do it it is cheating and he doesn't have to give you the satisfaction on seeing him angry he handled it the right way.

Katy16 · Answer

First of all a kiss is cheating; second delete his number is a good indication it is over. He was speaking like that because he was probably extremely pissed off and hurt.

squeelz · Answer

What do you mean nothing happened something did happen you kissed him he doesn't have to do anything respect what that man wants give him his space at this point the ball is in his court.

Kira88 · Answer

As everyone else has said, you're a cheater. You deserve to be alone until you grow up.

Matchmaker7072 · Answer

Don't cheat next time. Reading this you are clearly trying to justify what you did. He made a good call.

Antonio_Carbonny · Answer

For some people trust is so important, he probably has serious feelings for you that's why he covered for you and never raised his voice with you. It will take him time. if he's important to you as you are to him then don't give up jut stick it out. He most likely feels betrayed. Hope i helped

Jersey2 · Answer

He sounds like a good guy in that he covered for you, didn't rage etc but he is so done with you as trust is brokenmand he is smart enough to onow that it cannot be repaired. Live and learn.

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