Why do guys become shady after sexting?

[Mkats_84]

So, I've been talking to this guy for a while and we hit it off great and he did mention he wasn't rdy for a relationship and neither am I. So, we still was "talking". We were both cool with that.. Well, after a while he started to flirt hardcore and I flirted back because I like him. Well, one night he sent a nude pic. I didn't send one back that night. He respected that and we contained talking. He still seemed very interested. He even told me I interest him. Weeks went by and one night it happened again. That night it lead into sexting and yes I did snapchat a few nudes his way. Well, now he is acting really shady.. Like he'd normally text or snap me a lot more. Now we go all day without talking at all! and, it just kinda hurts because I really did like him. And even though he wasn't ready for a relationship and he did let me know in advance. I was fine with that. I would have waited till he wanted something even. I just don't get it. I wish a guy would explain.. Did I mess up somehow?

[Anonymous]

It's not about him it's about u. You let him play u,
He was open and honest. You need to know what you want. Why were you okay with not having a relatinship? In that case then what do u want... Guys wait for u, u don't wait for guys..,
U didn't stop him from sentIng u naked pictures. N u went along to send him stuff. You dropped your standard for him. He puts no volume on u. He will not date a woman like u.
He might have a girlfriend, he might be married...
Your naked pictures can be in the Internet for others to see...
Whenever guys do that I sent theur pictures to public then tell then n delet n block their #. I also insisted in phine calls around dinner dinner... If they can't talk at a certain time.., red flag... Move on...
Use this as a lesson. Put more value on your own needs.
You should not put any emotion in guys you have never met and that they have not give u an ounce of respect..,
Or should I say, resorct yourself first.
I m sorry for being harsh... Just too many young people nowadays put out then regreat.
I don't even let my boyfriend video type me while having srx... I know I m off topic.,, my point is.., as a girl, we have the power... Use it.
I will tell him about my fantasy about being video typed, he would get really turned on, n keep him having that thought... But dear.., I know vet well what the consequence might be... Blackmail, n what not...
Anthing u do, be safe, be fun. N think of the consequences...
Don't blsme the guy. lesson learned.

[cooldoude]

If your sexting sext for fun

[BlueMaze]

Something similar happened to me recently. I think they are talking to a bunch of other women as well, so if you give them what they want, they'll move on. I didn't send a nude, but a racy pic. He called me immediately that night because he had to verbally tell me how hot I was or whatever. It could have been a tactic to get nudes, and I was suspicious to be honest so I didn't. We did talk for 6 hours after that, and things seemed to be fine. Then he just... stopped. Maybe one text a few times a week, for the last 3 weeks. Before it was multiple a day for 9 months.

I know it hurts, and sorry for that. But once they start doing that, I detach and just move on. It tells me he isn't interested and got what he wanted (or didn't), and I don't like being treated like an indifferent stranger with someone I was close with before.

[Mkats_84]

I'm sorry that happened to you! It does hurt. It makes you feel like it will happen again with another guy if you let your gaurd down. Thank you for replying :)

[BlueMaze]

It has happened a few times now. That's why I don't let the feeling linger, and detach quickly. No sense in wasting negative feelings on someone who really isn't worth it. Just keep going and hopefully you can find the right guy. :)

[cooldoude]

Are you bored and you wanna sext hit my snap 👉honyozi

[xobrowneyedbeauty]

He wasn't not ready for a relationship, that just wasn't his intention. Usually guys start acting what we consider to be shady because we gave them what they wanted. Usually that tends to be sex but I guess in this case it was just nudes.

[cooldoude]

Do you like sexting too?

[teawrecks]

He saw what you had and wasn't interested to pursue it further with you, physically.

And y'all already discussed not pursuing things emotionally, so it kind of leaves you with nothing.

[Mkats_84]

Harsh, but it makes sense. Thank you!

[cooldoude]

Do you like sexting too?

[lightbulb27]

Sex is often times a release right. people think it turns into wanting more sex... well... maybe... but maybe not. It is a release for a guy, so he's released and went about doing other things until the tension builds up again.

Are you concerned that he left after seeing your photos maybe you aren't that attractive or enough? I could see why ou'd feel that way. Guys don't think about that though.. It is possible, doubt it.

A lot of the whole sex thing is the mystery. By exposing everything, the tension is lost.

you just have to re-build tension by communication, if that is possible. Without a relationship, it is a waste of time.

[Anonymous]

You didn't mess up some guys you meet on the Internet when they get nudes from a girl will no longer talk to them because they only wanted those nudes that's what it sounds like happened to you sorry to say not all guys are like that but some don't like to continue the conversation after receiving nudes they think there is nothing left for them this may not be the case but it seems like it is but you did nothing wrong it is his fault.

[Mkats_84]

Well, I didn't meet him on the internet though. I've known him for a year almost. A friend of a friend

[martyfellow]

He's probably doing this with multiple girls. You didn't stand out as anyone special to him...

I think it's silly to sext if you've already made up your minds not to take things any further. Maybe he also thinks that way?

[giggleswilmington]

This is the problem with pointless texting back and forth. Eventually someone stops and then the other thinks something is wrong when often times there is nothing wrong.

[Anonymous]

That's all he wanted from you. Next time be careful.

[cooldoude]

Hey do you also sext?

[Opinion Owner]

Fuck off.

[Anonymous]

Because either now he thinks your an undateable slut or after jerking off to your pics he's lost interest or your nude snaps turned him off as you are unattractive.

[Mkats_84]

Well, he seemed very into my snaps and was asking for more. So that wouldn't be the case I don't think. He also said that he wouldn't find that slutty since we had been talking for a long time. So that's confusing if he does after he said he wouldn't. You could be right on loosing interest.. I don't know. Thanks for your input though

[LPinth]

Shady? How do you mean?

[Mkats_84]

Like. Was into me texting wise. Then after a night of sexting. He goes silent. Like ghosting. Yet, not fully. Just shady.

[reixun]

Maybe he got what he wanted.

[Mkats_84]

Maybe, or maybe I'm overthinking. I dunno. Girls think too much! But, I appreciate your input :)

[cooldoude]

Sext for fun only

[blondfrog]

seems like he only wanted to fap to your pictures.

[madhatters4]

had he seen your body before you sent the pic?

[Mkats_84]

no, but we had hung out once all night long with friends. We wasn't into each other at the time so.. But I was talking to his friend.

[Bluegold007]

I bet he has a gf!! Tread carefully

[i1T2daty]

I won't

[Tanfoxy]

Girl you messed up big time

[Anonymous]

You cannot be 31!

[Mkats_84]

no reason to be rude