Why was my coworker trying to get me drunk?

[Anonymous]

We've been friends for 3 months and hang out once a week maybe.. he's never showed any romantic interest in me. Last night he asked if I wanted to come over & watch TV, and I didn't think anything of it and said ok. At first we were watching the movie, but then he opened up a bottle of tequila and kept pouring.. even when said I didn't want any more and he kept (jokingly) urging me to have more, but of course stopped when I said no more firmly. We sat at opposite ends of the couch & didn't come in contact at all, he just kept asking me questions about my life and stuff. I feel a little confused now after last night & felt awkward seeing him at work.. was/is he trying to get in my pants lol?

[mwin2030]

Let's be realistic here. You work together and you state your friends, and have been for 3-months. Within that time, I can only assume the two of you have talked and begun to ask about each other's lives and slowly becoming close. Then when he asked you over to his home and you said yes, I can only again assume he felt this was his opportunity to get you in bed. I can then imagine he was nervous about the whole affair and probably thought you were too, therefore he may have felt getting you intoxicated would lessen your and his fears and anxiety, and if this had continued to its logical conclusion, we can only hazard to guess that he would have eventually got you into the bedroom, gotten you naked, and then you both would have had sex, and you would have woken up the next morning next to him going, "what the fuck just happened." Thankfully you kept your wits about you and said firmly enough he got the hint that although you accept his invitation to watch a movie and you were willing to have a drink or two with you, that didn't mean you were ready to stripped down and jump into bed with him. You are to be commended for being confident enough that when you said no, you meant it, and stood by your choice. Good for you and great going!

[krash2002]

If he attempting to get physically close to you and act upon anything of that sort. Then I would definitely say he was attempting to get into your pants. However, I cannot make that judgement call as he was only openly joking about having more drinks.

I'd say keep it casual, and relax around him a bit more. People in general like to think too much in assumptions rather than truths. If you think he's a good guy, and worthy of a long term friendship. It might be best to just ask him if he thinks of you than more than just a friend, or wants more. Then clarify whether or not you don't want something with him. Hearing those words from yourself, and then hearing his response. Will clear the air fairly quickly and you'll have your answer.

[Anonymous]

I think he was trying to get you intoxicated and then go to your pants for obvious reason.

[RedRobin]

That kinda sounds like he was trying to get in your pants

[JuicyBrain]

I think he was just trying to get drunk with a friend.

[madhatters4]

he may have just been trying to get drunk with a friend
he may have had ulterior motives

kind of hard to say

[ScottieO]

Yeah I'd say like 95% he was trying to get in your pants. But was too nervous or scared to make the moves and was hoping the tequila would get things moving.

[Browneye57]

Likely yes, but too weak to be upfront about it.
Continue to do this only if losing your job is fine with you. In other words, don't poop where you eat.

[fuqthegovt]

Maybe, maybe not. Maybe he was just doing a bro thing and just didn't want to get drunk alone. Maybe he did try to get in your pants. Who knows.

[OlderAndWiser]

Sounds like he was wanting to get to know you better, for sure! Do you have any interest in him?

[jameson187]

You must never heard the phrase " tequila makes her clothes fall off"

[brewersfan01]

oh deffinitly, why else would you inivite a girl over? haha, and the boos is just a rookie move cause he knows he dosnt got the skills too get it done the right way.

[dudeman]

Sounds like he was trying to get himself drunk with company

[Anonymous]

Maybe you're more fun when drunk? I personally find being drunk, stupid

[scuff1986]

By the sounds of it yes he was...

[Pyrofox]

Probably miss took you for the party girl type.

[TheButterfly]

He wants to get in your pants

[Flurr]

Obviously he wants to fuck lol

[breathofreshair]

for sexy time.

god you dont know at 25 lol

[Finalphilosophy]

Yes he does want to get in your pants.

[Username3568]

He wants to buy your panties online

[hellminski]

I'd put money on your coworker trying to get laid.

[Sabretooth]

sex.