My boyfriend isn't that affectionate anymore.. why?

[jessica_81101]

We have been together 1.5 years, we also live together. We hardly fight, and have a good time together..but well we used to be the pda couple and now we hardly ever kiss, make out, and such. I don't want him to drool over me or anything but I can't even tell you the last time we made out... we still have sex and that but he stopped "going down there" too... and I am very clean, shaved, etc...I'm not really sure what's going on..Help? I don't wanna come off clingy..but hell I'm really needing some more physical attributes int his relationship..

[xremz1217]

There's a small possibility that he's lost interest, but I doubt it. Don't worry.

You've been together for a while, you should be able to ask to for certain things (sexual/physical/emotional needs). Take it from a guy, you won't sound clingy, you've been together for a year and a half. If you were together for just a a week then yeah, but that's not the case. Just ask him why you two stopped doing so much. Again, take it from a guy, tell him you want to do a little more than what you're currently doing, and that you miss making out/plain old kissing.

Unless the conversation goes horribly wrong (highly doubt it, near impossible), bring up the oral.

Oh, and please ignore the girl below that suggested you check his cellphone/MySpace. Seriously. You two have something nice (special in my opinion). You've together for a fair amount of time and live together. Don't screw it up by doing what she suggested.

[cuteguytex2004]

you can't "make" a guy be affectionate. there are probably some things in your relationship that have "dulled". Maybe he never really liked "going down on you" and yes, maybe there are things that he wished you would do too!

[Whathappened07]

I have the same situation, been in my relationship for 5 years... my man no longer touches me, kisses me, gives me oral and no longer says I love you. However, I attack him constantly for sex, give him oral sex regularly and always tells him how much i love him and need him.
It gotten to the point that I'm losing interest with being intimate altogether.
I've tried talking to him but he avoids the conversations and basically refuses to talk about us. Plus we rarely text or talk anymore. It's pretty much like I should bee grateful he still comes home. I'm gotten really depressed and just don't know what to do.

[Dresmomma8603]

This is what is happening now in my relationship. Is there any hope? He won't talk to me gets mad at me and tells me I'm needy and a crybaby. I tell him it hurts that he doesn't want to touch me. Please help

[sheenaxo]

Then you really need to talk with him about it.. And you never sound clingy when it comes to sex.. honest... just let him know how you feel.. he may just be stressed about something and need someone to talk with.. let him know how you feel.. he is definitely NOT cheating.. and maybe not to sound rude, but maybe you smell or something down there? You never know until you ask him.. be honest and upfront.. maybe he wants you to go down on him first? Try it out :)

[_JustSmile_]

Don't wait on him to make the first move. The next time you see him, push him up against the wall and give him a giant smooch.

Send him a dirty text message and then surprise him when he gets home.

Spice it up a little.

He might be waiting on you, too. So just swallow your pride and make the first move.

[Marissa21]

Same thing is going on with me but we been dating for 7 months now and are having a baby on the way.. at first we had sex all the time. He would touch me all over kiss me and talk dirty. Noe he does none of that. I send him nudes almost every day I give him oral sometimes 2x a day and i recieve nothing. He does still tell me I love you etc but he doesn't really show it any more. Before we would havr sex 2 to 3x a day now its maybe once a week if i keep bugging for it. Its not as good as before. i try to be freaky as possible try to make it fun but he just doesn't have it. I don't know what to think. He has cheated once I don't know if he's cheating again

[mercedes987]

well if he not doing to yu and got somebody else on the side I think yu ned to check and see if he cheatin if he got a cell phone check that if he got a MySpace check that he's probobly cheatin on you or he's just not atracted to you no more that's what I think

[Julia_Dorst]

He's probably cheating on you?!? Probably?!?

Hunn, He's probably not cheating on her. He's just a man, men do this sometime. Untill you remind him how it could be. He won't do anything. I you make the first move a couple of times, he'll probably respond. If not, then ask him/ talk to him.

Good luck!:)

[mercedes987]

Naw naw he is cheatin on her I think yu shuld shut yur mouhth and dnt comment on what I gotta say boo ok lol

[veectoria]

Uhm, this is a stupid answer. Just because a man isn't affectionate doesn't mean he's cheating. Guys aren't mind readers. I agree that she should talk to him about it. He doesn't know what's wrong, and he won't until she tells him.

[phenenna]

There's really no sign that he's cheating on her.

And of course should she NOT check his cell phone and stuff.

That's a nogo and will destroy every kind of trust in the relationship!

[Xenophobia]

This answer misses the point completely. This answer is full of insecurity and paranoia.

[mercedes987]

Look yall dnt kno what yall talkin bout ok yall probobly dnt gotta a man anyway and yes he is cheatin idc what yall b words and dnt be commentin on what I gotta say cus I ain't said nothin to yall ugly asses so yu shuldnt say nothin to me booskie ok

[sheenaxo]

Honestly.. He is not cheating.. and calling people "ugly asses" Just shows how immature and clueless you are..

Listen, he is not cheating, Some guys just don't want to have sex all the time because they are afraid you may get bored of them.. Talk to him and tell him how you feel, I assure you that he may be stressed, tired, or unsure of what you want. I have been with my boyfriend for 6 years.. trust me I know what I'm talking about.. Just talk to him and make sure not to attack.. Good Luck :)

[sheenaxo]

And please learn how to type so people can understand! It drives me insane when people type like that.. Learn some English please..