Sorry this is long. A couple weeks ago, this girl told me right out that she liked me as more than a friend, and I admired the fact that she was brave and said I'd go out with her so we started dating. She got really caught up with the question of whether or not I would have said yes to any girl that asked me, and I really didn't know or think it was important at all. It was my first relationship and my first kiss and everything, and I thought I was enjoying being with her all the time and talking to her. She would always tell me how happy I make her and how much she loved being with me. Well it only took me about two weeks until I started to feel like it wasn't working for me. I wasn't comfortable and I didn't feel at all the way she felt anymore and I didn't like being with her all the time. My friend said I couldn't rationalize it, I had to feel something for her, and I didn't; I just wanted to be single again because I was happy. I seemed to have caught her off guard when I told her how I was feeling and what I wanted because she thought I was so happy and she was so happy too. The next day I see her again and she says she isn't okay and I tell her I just want to be friends because she is cool but I don't have feelings. She says that she is really hurt by the way I am acting because she feels vulnerable about being so open. She told me that I couldn't be sure about the way I felt because it hasn't been that long and just a few days ago I was really happy about it and it must have deceived her when I said I liked her. Then she throws guilt cards saying that she probably won't eat, she can't just be friends with me, she doesn't care I have hurt her she just wants to be with me, and she feels vulnerable and for the first time has to beg for me to give it another chance and do things slower than before and maybe I'll like her if that happens. In that moment of panic I say okay and say I'll give another try but I don't think I can change the way I feel, so I don't hold her hand or ask her to do a lot of stuff or kiss her so she doesn't get the wrong idea. But I'm very unhappy and I just want to end it. I have gone against my morals by being in a relationship out of pity and also in one that doesn't make me happy. She knows I have no feelings, and I told her I'll probably just break up with her later, but I don't know what to do now. I just liked being single and hanging with girls and worrying about myself, but now there is someone who gets mad if I show her no attention and I don't like that right now. Why is she acting like this? I'll take criticism, but I'd appreciate if I don't just get straight-up bashed.
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it's over. Yay! First breakup successful
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