'Shy guy' and his behavior really pissing me off?

[Anonymous]

I was pretty sure this guy at work likes me, a lot of body language and his behavior says it all. The other day, he was OK with talking to me and he was confident and talkative when his friend was around. Today, he drives on a (John deer vehicle) in front of my window at the concessions stand but walks over to the other girls window just to get coffee. The last time he did something stupid like that, it was his day off and he walked past my window, looked me right in my eyes, I got pissed and walked over to the other window where he was and "said it's just me here!" He goes "oh I didn't see you in that window". Also today, he has a full blown conversation laughing and joking with the girl I'm working with in here. I could just brush it off but it's pissing me off so bad. Especially because they act like I'm not here. I hate this bitch behavior.

[Anonymous]

He's not interested in the other girl. It's his lack of interest that makes it easier for him to talk to her. The reason why he went to the other window and avoided the OP is because he really likes her. But also, a lot of this behavior seems to come from the ego.

He doe not want to show her how much he cares, but this energy still needs to go somewhere, so he dissipates it by talking to the other girl that he's less interested in. The more the OP reacts, the more his ego will respond... but he may not be conscious of any of what I've just described at all. To be conscious requires a determined effort.

What you will find is that he will stare at you, keep long eye contact, deep eye contact, but for the most part, he will totally ignore you, keep away from you, keep a distance and end up being rude or short.

[eric1104]

that's my opinion too

[DamonGill]

so... you talk to him? he's probably thinking you ignored him too.

[Asker]

Yeah, I talk to him. When I first started working, he completely walked by me looking while the night supervisor and everyone else introduced themselves. I have to initiate conversation to get him to talk, he'll seem interested in conversation when I do

[Anonymous]

Are you pissed?

[Vyxzuw]

Um, maybe he's actually interested in the other girl? Would make sense for why he went to the other window. He was hoping the other girl was there...

[Asker]

No, he does it everytime. I work with different people each day, one was even a guy and he went to his window to get cleaning spray

[Vyxzuw]

Fair enough.

Although, if he is picking up on you being upset with him, then it's going to make him think that you don't like him, which will lead to him avoiding you more.

[Asker]

I was going to ask him why he avoids me but I figured it'd be weird or freak him out

[Vyxzuw]

If his actions are upsetting you, then let him know.

Otherwise he'll keep doing it, and things won't get better.

What have you got to lose at this point?

[spidersspiders]

Sounds like he likes the other girl. And based on your other response. Why the hell would a guy try and make a joke out of not talking to his crush? You said it yourself he's shy. He probably accidentally gave you the impression he likes you and may possibly actually like the other girl

[Asker]

He has done that with everyone I work with around me including a guy

[Cosytoasty]

Lol this guy hasn't even lifted a finger and he has you getting all bothered and frustrated over him. He might well be saying exactly that to the other girl.

Chill out and stop overthinking it. Until he makes a move assume nothing. If you like him that much then YOU make he damn move.

[Asker]

Oh wow, no one gets it

[Fuentes]

Lol so talk to him, say hey you talk to everyone else but me these days and see what he says

[Ex786]

Why are you taking it so personal. if you have any problem talk to that guy. This will helps you

[SadDude37]

Why take it so personal?

[Asker]

It bothers me because then I think it's done purposely as a way to exclude me, to try to make a joke out of it/me