Do you think men are still gentlemen these days? (Page 3)

[CarpetDenim]

Most men today aren't, but to be fair most women don't act like ladies and aren't deserving of gentlemen.

[jeremythedrummer]

A gentleman who pays full amount at least like on the first two or three dates, was taught right. A man who goes dutch or doesn't pay on the first few occasions was not taught right. On the other hand, a lady who knows that it is not fair to let the man keep paying, and so starts chipping in after a few dates, was taught right. But, a lady who doesn't respect that a man's wallet has limits and orders the most expensive item, or expects the man to pay every single time, was not taught right.
Exception is, if the woman is the one who asks the man out, she pays. and similarly the other way round.

Each gender has people who are the black sheep of the flock, fair enough.

Respect is utmost in these situations, and caring for others' needs more than the self's should be a desired trait amongst all people, not just men or women.

[jeremythedrummer]

I was using the dinner date as an example. But it also comes down to the daily small things.

I've personally not seen many who will hold the door open for the girls, or a person carrying groceries or a baby, or handling large suitcases. Which i find lacking in most men. I try to do these when in my range of capabilities. A man, being the stronger (physically, no other way) gender should step up and be a helping hand. won't hurt right? Man gets the warm feeling of helping someone. And that someone benefits too. He will be willing to help when he is needed. He will be understanding of her emotions, and not blame ourbursts on her period, or make fun of it. Instead he will be accomodating and empathising of her situation. He will walk lone girls down dark alleys and streets for her safety, etc. He knows how to respect women, and their rights as well.

[jeremythedrummer]

A lady will know to receive and give back, and apreciate what others have done to help her. Something as simple as a cooling facial towel after the man has carried her heavy belongings is a good example, i think. In this way she cares and understands that the other party is not obliged to offer his/her help, and decides to show some gratitude. A true lady also understands that even when a man tries his best to please her and offer to help, he has his limits. She will carry the smaller/lighter items for him. She also admits that she is wrong at times, and understands that the man is also a human being with his own emotions, even if he does not show them. And (this goes to some girls) she will not kick his nuts for "fun", or to make an easy win over him.

[jeremythedrummer]

And this applies to both sides. Both know how to respect the other person's right to make her/his own decisions, and accept it. Both know not to take advantage of the other party, and realise that the situation in ANY CASE is always give AND receive, not just to receive. Both will consider the other person's needs.
Its pretty much a two way thing.(feel free to add on any other pointers people. Cheers!)

[CarpetDenim]

Dang dude, that was an excellent interpretation

[jeremythedrummer]

well, thanks!

[9teen]

There are but not very common. Has to do with how society is changing.

I also think that a guy in love would turn automatically a gentleman towards the girl he likes/loves.

[chris1984]

i think gentlemanly behaviour is heavily maligned by certain feminist groups, so it is becoming less common.

i used to consider myself a gentleman. now i don't risk it.

[duces]

well sure they can it depends on the person and there life like how the are raised and the way they think everything on this site hast to do with brains and the way people use the and how they were ither taught or figured out on there own

[ToasterMcLovin]

My opinion being that I do consider myself a gentleman and very polite if a person is we only get friend-zoned and we never find somebody who actually looks towards us as a relationship, if you would like to find more gentlemen out there you need to find those men that are your friends and not the ones that actively look like they're pursuing a relationship.

[ariadneR]

there are some. But girls dont know when they have them. They think they have ulterior motives

[Highlander984]

I tell my dates "I would like to get your door. I know you are perfectly capable of doing it yourself but when you are with me I expect you to be respected as much as they respect me. If it offends you I understand but that is not my intention."

[CT_CD]

Men have no reason to be gentlemen anymore because most women don't act like ladies

[CarpetDenim]

Agree

[CT_CD]

@CarpetDenim Thank you

[jacquesvol]

Some women

[CarpetDenim]

Most

[jacquesvol]

@CarpetDenim in your country, city, neighborhood or school?

[CarpetDenim]

Country.

[jacquesvol]

@CarpetDenim Cultural problem thus.

[CarpetDenim]

The exact same or a similar problem is plaguing the majority of modernized first world countries.

[jacquesvol]

@CarpetDenim Where did you find stats?

[CarpetDenim]

I didn't provide any stats. Women around the world have largely become very entitled, self-centered, and inconsiderate of men and men's issues. You don't need a study on it, it's observable behavior present all around you. The majority of women on this site are a perfect example.

[jacquesvol]

Indeed, no facts img.haikudeck.com/mg/MLQmwqkA7q_1399919120403.jpg

[CarpetDenim]

It goes farther than just gag. As I said, it's observable behavior present all around you, all you have to do is look around and take notice of it. Good women and good people in general are few and far between these days, but I admire your optimism.

[iNsaneMilesy]

Men are, women just ruined it. So we stopped caring. Only a lady deserves a gentleman, act like a whore and we will treat you as such.

[someho]

Lol i think we kind of forgot what gentlemen be like since there is literally none around...

I wish they were, life would be so much better...

[HIGHFLIII]

I am curious on what a gentleman would look and act like. Tuxedo all the time? Skinny or buff? Tattoos or not?

[The_Gentelman]

Its not the looks. It is the behaviour

[KingZeus]

I wish you spelled gentleman correctly @The_Gentelman.
All men have at least one gentleman like quality. If you want a prince charming on a white horse, you are better off just watching a movie.

[The_Gentelman]

It was on porpose. I am using this name when gaming since the "right" vatiant was already used in one of my fav. games so I just tooked a form anyone should still be able to understand and which is not to far from the right form

[Wytdrgn]

Those who are raised to be gentlemen are. Those who are raised to see women as objects of conquest aren't. It depends on you and the circles you choose to associate in.

[PinkandSparkles]

Yes, they still exist. There are some really great guys out there. Some are here as well! Unfortunately, you have to wade through the bad ones to find the diamonds.

[moonsent]

I believe that there are still gentlemen but is is a dieing breed because there are fewer each generation.

[justjoshky]

Sadly, less ladies are being ladies and less guys are being a gentleman.

Society as a whole seems to be more liberal and more accepting of some things that you originally considered to be nonsense.

[ImagineSketchy]

I view being a gentleman as simply being cordial. I'm cordial to everyone. Nothing extreme or out of the ordinary. I hold the door for people, use my manners. Anything special goes to someone special.

[Momin2kol]

Yes still men are gentleman nowadays. Otherwise the existence of women would be ruined. Yah... Some men are very rude vulgar and harsh. This behaviour of men is only because of their nature or for any situation. All the men will never be the same like all the fingers are not same. I can tell you at the same time that all the girls are not same. Every one has some good quality. You have to find this out. Best of luck

[Dreku]

Some can be, some not at all, I'm a strange mix of gentleman deviant, treat them like lady, have sex like a beast, though I have a "harry potter" complex soooo ha

[jimjam567]

Yes I do. We're getting exploring r sexual preferences at younger ages which is starting to make men in general see more value behind true relationships because you can't get that by watching a video on the Internet

[Sanchez88]

I hope I am gentleman too, but I also agree with some people, there are not so many gentlemans today as there were a few years ago... I think it goas hand in hand with a fact, that real ladyies are missing more and more... In the past year I have met thousends of woman, but just 5-9 of them were real ladyies...

[beast_driftmaniac]

Well, no one's a gentleman in all aspects, but women nowadays want a bad boy who's good just for them. So the idea of a perfect gentleman is kinda lost there.

[nitesho]

It depends on how you treat him. Just like my girlfriend, she frequently ask me "do this" "don't do this". Sometime I feel sorry for her. Because it gives me irritation. So, how can be a gentle guy for that girl, I don't know.

[innoxentt]

yes there are some decent persons who are just narurally gentle and decent or some of those who are betrayed by their love can also be transformed into gentle 😁

[illekhore]

Like father like son if your dad is a gentleman you will like him but not vise vers
by the way being a gentleman doesn't depend on your partner. ...
It depends on yourself
If you are a gentleman you will treat all women as a lady even if they are sluts with no offence to sluts

[anonishere]

I think women are too demanding. They want everything, a night in shining armour and all that shit. I like women who keep it real, pay for their half of the check, shit like that. Women (and people in general) who realize that I'm trying to support myself financially and I dont need a drain, and knowing that choosing to pay rent over your girlfriend's dinner doesn't make you a dick. Most men will know exactly what I'm talking about.

[Kaze69x]

Chivalry has somewhat changed over the years and with each generation. Being a gentleman comes with experience and who their parents were to teach them values, I use to be a real jerk to women I feel bad about it now thinking back. Hope this helps.

[Sr_Oceano]

There are men now a days that treat persons (not only ladies) like them deserve, and there are others that think that we don't need to take care about the others, but of course, there are gentlemen these days, although you must be observant, I think so :)

[Red-Blaze]

I think some are, some are not, just like always
Even that its not as much what is shown in media as much to be the thing to be so there will be less of them around, but there are yet around

[hobbes1332]

There are. I strive to be one every day. However in the dating world a gentleman is often undesirable. Women in today's world choose looks over personality. Not to mention no woman would give a gentleman a chance as she would automatically assume its fake behaviour.

[silverhand21]

I don't think looks have any differing factor on it than in generations past. However, I agree that the gentlemen behavior may not be taken as genuine as it would have in generations past.

[amidoingthisright]

Collectively, no. The male species has fallen far from gentlemen status these days. There are a few of us who still respect women, but that quantity dwindles by the day. However, adversely, women aren't what they used to be either. Given both parts of the equation, it has made finding someone I am compatible with quite the challenge!

[907doc]

They are definitely out there. Hopefully being comfortable with them selves and open to a lady not looking for... anywho I believe their are definitely gentleman out there.

[saifi258]

To be honest, now adays women tends to like fuckheads more and not gentlemen, that's why many of those gentlemen are still single, and when those guys hurt your feelings than women says all of men are same

[ashleyRenee1989]

No, and it really sucks because i was raised with the idea that men are supposed to treat women a certain type of way esspecially if they wanted anything from them but now men seem to think it's ok to just whip out their dicks and they expect a female to just be magnetized to it, its disgusting

[haze360]

How many young men do you know who aren't decent people and amount those how many do you know closely enough to make an adequate judgement call and of those that you do know well can you truly accurately tell me that all the billions of young men on earth are not gentleman?

[Guanfei]

Why would they act differently? Women goes for the "bad guys" and treat the nice ones as free meals and walking wallets.
Don't ask for a gentleman if you can't be a lady.

[ashleyRenee1989]

@Guanfei i do agree with this tho because there aren't too many true ladies out ther anymore. the worlds become a contest of whos got the most of money and what someones gotta do to get that said money

[Guanfei]

Real world is some dark and miserable place, indeed.

[jacquesvol]

Gentlemen would be too PC towards women. We have another POTUS now.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WhsSzIS84ks

[Caesar88]

Well I've been a gentleman whole of my life, but I'm not sure if it is an appreciated trait anymore, I think that today's girls don't understand it.

[milleraj321]

Bingo

[The_Gentelman]

Yeah right

[DrJo3]

"Chivalry is dead... and women killed it" - Dave Chapelle

[chandlerfrye]

Women didn't kill chivalry their idols did and they reflected.. Worse news, their idols didn't have a say in changing

[triff]

There are some gentleman but I think they Are usually an older generation I don’t see there is much respect in the world today Just sexual conquest

[aquarius97]

Gentlemen still exist. We might be meeting the wrong type of guys making us think there are none but I know there are decent guys out there. We just gotta look properly

[lawandfitness]

Not all are. In fact most aren't. But then again, most women aren't exactly ladys these days either (sometimes literally even 🤣😂).

But there are still some good people left out there.

[Anonymous]

Not really I think with the whole equality thing women stand for, there's no more chivalry. You can't be equal to a man AND be treated like a queen lol.
Too many expectations on men from women I reckon

[kentlevi]

This is so true and what I have to deal with on a daily basis. I go to date and they want it all. I'm so fed up with it. Well said my dear.

[Opinion Owner]

@kentlevi Yeah basically if you're not a proper etiquette lady, how do you expect to be treated like a queen? Women don't see the problem with their behaviour, they think he should accept her for all she is yet are unable to accept men for all they are and want to mould men and "fix" them lol. It a double standard in todays society lol.

[Opinion Owner]

If you want a good man you have to be a good woman. Like attracts like, law of attraction - you get back what you put out energetically. If women always attract losers and are fed up then they need to stop accepting losers and take responsibility for who they allow into their lives.

[billybobbyjoey]

Yes there are but they are becoming rare and they aren’t people that usually get much attention from others anymore.

[aagonyaunt]

If man meets a lady he's gentleman. Yes they exists, and it's absolutely charming. Big thank you for all gentlemen :)

[drshan]

To an extent, however most girls are not interested in.

[DancingDaffodils]

I wish... I am still very young, but from the guys I've met, none are gentlemen. I wish one day to meet one.

[BrianMerritt]

You're only 13. Nobody is a gentleman at middle-school age.

[B2785]

Let ask a couple of questions.

1. What is your definition of a gentleman?

2. Do you like a classic gentleman, or a modern gentleman?

3. Will let him open doors for you?

[readywriter]

I am always a gentleman as long as the woman is a lady. I enjoy being a gentleman but it is impossible , at a certain point, to remain acting as such when your date insist on acting unladylike.

[Beexn]

Definitely. However, being nice with girls make people think you are a douche or weak. Sadly we can get mocked so we try not to be too open, just in case, so we make sure we can't get hurt.

[Mexicoman101]

I try to be, in public at least. A lot of guys who try to do it online just look like thirsty ass dudes trying to white knight & blow smoke up womens' asses tho

[Theuninformed1]

through social conditioning maybe they had a following of gentlemanly men , but then we graduated high school and realized you get more pussy/ affection by NOT BEING A Gentlemen from the start

[7193444244]

Yes there I like opening doors for a woman , pushing in her chair at a restaurant and bringing her flowers. I once did a candle light picnic at a park the moon and stars were out. No there was no sex but the evening was really wonderful

[Diana123]

No not really that why some women become lesbian but there are good men out there just hard to find

[shephardjhon]

I am not sure if this counts but I try to be by refusing to initiate conversation with women, if I do talk I keep it brief and to the point and mostly about work, I don't make eye contact. I try not to even look at them. Is this good enough?

[SDegler]

Um, it seems as if you're frighten to death by women. This is not at all the same and is rather depressing. You should try to do the exact opposite but treat them the way you wish to be treated, always. Maybe get a gym membership and you confidence will grow with you biceps haha

[shephardjhon]

@SDegler I have a Gym membership but I am too afraid to use it. I also have a portable pull-up bar at home which I use everyday. I also used to do 50-70 pushups daily before I got the pull-up bar and I do keep in shape.

[SDegler]

Consistency is the key with working out. This is one of those things were you can get the best advice in the world but you're just going to have to take the initiative and conquer your hang ups to move forward.

[shephardjhon]

@SDegler thanks, but I am in shape. I am afraid of the gym because I would be going alone and I have a lot of social anxiety.

[SDegler]

I know what you mean, I do too :/
I don't like being in groups if more then a couple people, like I have to entertain them all or something. Have one friend or girl with me is perfect, anymore and I'd just rather not go out. You're not alone brother.

[ScarletAngelic]

I don't care for gentlemen. I like being the gentlewomen.

[admles]

I try to be, but let's face it, feminism has killed a lot of aspects of being a gentleman.

[Poppykate]

Amen to that!

[SebShaw82]

Some men are, some aren't. The same can be said of women being ladies.

[Supertst]

Yes but the definition of gentlemen is changing just as the definition of lady is changing. Not to mention we all would define it differently as well.

[MatthewJ42]

Whats the point? Women generally treat guys like walking ATM machines. Or freaking slaves. The men that act like Gentlemen are fools.

[laprincesa13]

Yes, it is such a nice thing to see that there are still gentlemen out there😊

[mattai787]

Do you think girls like gentlemen? I have normally experienced that girls love bad guys.. I don't know why?

[Naruto_Uzumaki]

Not really of course there are some gentleman around but they're really rare. Most guys can be nice if they want to but they don't really care

[dontevenplayyaa]

There are gentleman’s but I have also come into contact with a lot of nasty men but also nasty women. It really depends on ones morals and how they were raised and view someone... :)

[MlleCake]

With as many who hassle you to send nude pictures, and send dick pics unsolicited, and rampant sexism, I find the gentlemen few and far between.

[Morrock]

There's this kind of guys yes. But most part of guys are different. And better