I'm an incredibly shy guy and most people I've dated were people who I've had conversations with over messenger foremost. It's reassuring when the online conversation goes well so that I know I'm able to speak freely in person but after that I try my hardest. Not sure about others but maybe some are like me in that respect
Shy guys won't engage unless the gates are wide open. You have to be really open about your liking for him. Shy guys want to be 100% sure that you like them. If there is any doubt, they won't make a move.
Is it true that if a guy's into you he'll make a massive effort with you? no that is not true just because i like you it doesn't mean you like me and iam not going to risk gettign embarassed and humilated to get a woman who is not showing signs of interest that works in movies not real life
It honestly varies from guy to guy. Personally, I'm very awkward with social interaction in general, so even if I'm genuinely interested in someone, I either try and somehow mess it up, or I'm to nervous to because I'm worried about messing it up.
Well when I was a kid I was shy as fuck and wouldn't dare approach a girl no matter how much I liked her... Then when I was 14 this 19 yr old girl tried to take advantage of me and I gave her the best 2 pumps ever... And I was like the first of my friends to get laid and I thought I was the shit... No more shyness.. so just take on the guys role and go after what you want... Because he's not gonna make a move on his own
I'm a shy type. Honestly I feel but scared asking a girl because I puckered a lot of guys to ask a girl or once and she rudely rejected me and said who wants to our with out. There were quite a few people standing and saw it. It was one of most embarrassing moment. I guess she was out of my league. I don't have much talking skills to charm or attract a girl.
If someone is really trying to go for me, I will too.
It's harder for shy guys to make an effort. Also they do a lot of thinking about what they want in a woman and don't just chase after any pretty girl. Don't expect them to make the first move. If you are into a pretty shy guy, spend a lot of time with them.
Shy guys are guys that won't make a "massive effort" with you until they trust you. It's up to you to build that trust. You can build that trust through your actions in mutually shared environments, and your actions towards him.
No, shy guys won't necessarily do anything because most will talk themselves out of their chance with you. They'll convince themselves that you'll reject them because they have a painful history of rejection.
Honestly, take they hand and in a non sexual way put it on your breast and say dont act so formal with me, its a turn off. And to just get him comfortable in general with a womans touch would help greatly! Lol
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Most guys don’t make moves most of the time. There’s often a lot of planning and working up to approaching a girl. If you like a guy then approach him it’s that simple and I think the notion of looking somewhere else because a guy didn’t make a move is something of a dick move. Not classy. It doesn’t look good.
I've learnt shy guys will try to make a effort but it's possible to be not enough for us /me to notice so if it's someone you're interested in make a move yourself so you both know where you stand
If you are confident and social, why wait for the shy guy? Approach him instead. He'll be hugely thankful for it and you will have caught a guy who listens and thinks rather than talk and act.
Like most of these answers say, shy guys need the girl to start the convo/approach them then they'll start talking. I'm a guy with major social anxiety and the times I can open up to a girl if she's one of my friends or approaches me.
As a shy guy with social anxiety, my advice is: you have to approach him. I would rather live alone than risk rejection or worse. If you would rather not do that, try spending time with him to make him comfortable around you.
The shy guy needs to conquer his own fears and issues, but you could help him by being friendly, supportive, and helping him break out of the shell he's trapped in.
I could really like a girl, but unless she shows some kind of interest back, I'm just going to assume she isn't ever going to be interested. I'm not going to chase some girl to the end of the world if she isn't at least reciprocating interest.
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I'm an incredibly shy guy and most people I've dated were people who I've had conversations with over messenger foremost. It's reassuring when the online conversation goes well so that I know I'm able to speak freely in person but after that I try my hardest. Not sure about others but maybe some are like me in that respect
Shy guys won't engage unless the gates are wide open. You have to be really open about your liking for him. Shy guys want to be 100% sure that you like them. If there is any doubt, they won't make a move.
Is it true that if a guy's into you he'll make a massive effort with you?
no that is not true just because i like you it doesn't mean you like me and iam not going to risk gettign embarassed and humilated to get a woman who is not showing signs of interest that works in movies not real life
It honestly varies from guy to guy. Personally, I'm very awkward with social interaction in general, so even if I'm genuinely interested in someone, I either try and somehow mess it up, or I'm to nervous to because I'm worried about messing it up.
Well when I was a kid I was shy as fuck and wouldn't dare approach a girl no matter how much I liked her... Then when I was 14 this 19 yr old girl tried to take advantage of me and I gave her the best 2 pumps ever... And I was like the first of my friends to get laid and I thought I was the shit... No more shyness.. so just take on the guys role and go after what you want... Because he's not gonna make a move on his own
If you've given them multiple opening (s) to approach and they're still too shy to approach, move on.
Signs that she's open to me approaching
1) She's facing me
2) She's smiling at me
3) She's not in a hurry to be anywhere
4) etc.
I'm a shy type. Honestly I feel but scared asking a girl because I puckered a lot of guys to ask a girl or once and she rudely rejected me and said who wants to our with out. There were quite a few people standing and saw it. It was one of most embarrassing moment. I guess she was out of my league. I don't have much talking skills to charm or attract a girl.
If someone is really trying to go for me, I will too.
It's harder for shy guys to make an effort. Also they do a lot of thinking about what they want in a woman and don't just chase after any pretty girl. Don't expect them to make the first move. If you are into a pretty shy guy, spend a lot of time with them.
Shy guys are guys that won't make a "massive effort" with you until they trust you. It's up to you to build that trust. You can build that trust through your actions in mutually shared environments, and your actions towards him.
With shy guys, you need to approach them yourself. Most won't build up enough courage to do it themselves.
No, shy guys won't necessarily do anything because most will talk themselves out of their chance with you. They'll convince themselves that you'll reject them because they have a painful history of rejection.
Honestly, take they hand and in a non sexual way put it on your breast and say dont act so formal with me, its a turn off. And to just get him comfortable in general with a womans touch would help greatly! Lol
Most guys don’t make moves most of the time. There’s often a lot of planning and working up to approaching a girl. If you like a guy then approach him it’s that simple and I think the notion of looking somewhere else because a guy didn’t make a move is something of a dick move. Not classy. It doesn’t look good.
I've learnt shy guys will try to make a effort but it's possible to be not enough for us /me to notice so if it's someone you're interested in make a move yourself so you both know where you stand
If you are confident and social, why wait for the shy guy? Approach him instead. He'll be hugely thankful for it and you will have caught a guy who listens and thinks rather than talk and act.
Like most of these answers say, shy guys need the girl to start the convo/approach them then they'll start talking. I'm a guy with major social anxiety and the times I can open up to a girl if she's one of my friends or approaches me.
As a shy guy with social anxiety, my advice is: you have to approach him.
I would rather live alone than risk rejection or worse.
If you would rather not do that, try spending time with him to make him comfortable around you.
The shy guy needs to conquer his own fears and issues, but you could help him by being friendly, supportive, and helping him break out of the shell he's trapped in.
Shy guys are kind of hard to tell what they want so maybe try to ask him yourself
I could really like a girl, but unless she shows some kind of interest back, I'm just going to assume she isn't ever going to be interested. I'm not going to chase some girl to the end of the world if she isn't at least reciprocating interest.