He blocked me after I went PSYCHO on him? WHAT SHOULD I DO?

[Anonymous]

so this guy I’ve met online blocked me after I literally flipped out on through text for a week. I went off. I guess I knew something was up. We never met in person but we’ve talked everyday for months. I adore him. But I’ve been going through a lot lately and let it out on him. I went OFF. blew up his phone. He begged me to stop and finally blocked me. I don’t know what to do. I know I’m going to have to back off. He blocked me on iPhone but not Facebook. I’m thinking if I let the smoke clear for a month and then reach out it should be okay? I really liked him. I know I was wrong. I’m going to wait it out for a month. Then reach out. I might even get over him by then. But still. What should I do? I blocked him back on iphone. He knows deep down I’m not crazy and he has to know to some degree he caused this. I don’t think he wanted to block me because he kept telling me to stop and all. I feel like he doesn’t care at all!

[SirenDep]

Don't block him, also don't flood him with messages. A simple 'I'm sorry for my outburst' will do. Be patient, pray for the best and give him time to calm and reach out to you. We all have times when we loose it, but you have to learn to control yourself and not reach that point again

[Repa33]

He probably doesn't know that stuff and doesn't want to deal with someone who will go psycho on him

[Asker]

Yeah like I had a really bad moment. Think of worst case scenario and that’s what I did. I went off. He literally begged me last night to stop. Then today blocked me finally. I don’t want to throw in the towel. I’m hoping I might have one more chance...

[Astoriana]

Girl. You burned that bridge and brought it down with a ballistic missile. It’s time to move on.

[Asker]

I don’t want to. I don’t think it hurt to reach out again. It’s just how long should I wait

[Astoriana]

Girl. No. When someone blocks you, they’re done. Forever.

[Asker]

I know!!! But he didn’t block me on snap or fb messenger

[Asker]

Usually when I block someone I block them on everything. He only blocked me on iPhone

[Astoriana]

So you immediately think of ways to abuse that?

[Asker]

What do you mean? I know I’m wrong I just need help.

[Astoriana]

Yeah, and the kind of help you need will run you like 100$ an hour.

Don’t contact him.

He doesn’t want to hear from you.

Leave him alone forever.

[Asker]

Stfu. That is rude to say. So easy to throw out the crazy card. If he didn’t wanna hear from me he’d BLOCK ME ON EVERYTHING. he’s not an idiot.

[Astoriana]

I would believe you if this was the first dude you did this to, but he isn’t.

[Asker]

The other guy was my first long term boyfriend who was two timing me. He actually deserved for me to blow up on him. I have really bad trust issues now. I’m not crazy. The ways he’s been acting recently took me back to how it was with my ex so I flipped out. He’s the first guy I let in since my ex. Prior to this, this guy was really into me. Like really really into me. I am genuinely sorry that I acted that way and I know he didn’t deserve it.

[Asker]

So far all I know is he blocked me on iMessage not on fb or snap. If I were in his shoes and I really didn’t wanna speak to someone I’d block them on everything. He’s not dumb. So I know he is aware I can reach out to him on either. I just need advice on how to fix it. I really liked him and I know I went off the handle.

[Astoriana]

Are you?

Because you don’t seem sorry.

Someone who was sorry would be thinking of ways to show that they’ve changed, and takingb advantage of his trust by reaching out on different forms of social media does NOT show that you’ve changed.

Too late, girl. You blew it. You blew it a week ago when you started asking him if he was done with you. Now you’ve only ensured that he would be forever.

[Asker]

How can I show him I’ve changed? I am sorry. If he was actually done he’d block me on everything. I’m willing to wait it out awhile if that’s what it takes. I’m not going to blow up his phone ever again or act like a nut. I know I was wrong and what I did wrong. I know in my heart I still have a chance.

[Astoriana]

You can’t guarantee that.

If a slight decrease in his interest is all that it takes to turn you into a psychopathic barnacle with itchy thumbs, then you can’t guarantee that it will never happen again.

All you’re looking for is attention. You’re not actually sorry.

[Asker]

I’m going to distance myself. I can guarantee that I will never act that way if I’m given another chance. Me posting this shows how much I care. i know I am so wrong. But Im going to try one more time just to see if he’ll forgive me and give me a chance. I’d have to prove it to him. If he doesn’t want to I respect his decision completely but I do think it’s worth it to try one more time. I won’t try right away of course. But eventually. I’ve calmed down and I know I’m wrong. If anything all I want is for him to know I’m sorry. I don’t care anymore if I look crazy at least he’ll know I’m sorry. I’m wrong. Period. I was wrong. But I do have a feeling I can sway him back in my direction.

[Astoriana]

And violating his trust by reaching out again shows that how, exactly?

[Asker]

I see where you’re coming from but I don’t see it as violating trust. I do see where you’re coming from. You might be right. I just wanna apologize...

[Astoriana]

It won’t be sincere.

[Asker]

Yes, it is sincere! I’m so sad this is happening. I don’t want to lose him forever. I am actually sorry. I won’t do it ever again. How long should I wait?

[Astoriana]

At least a month.

[Asker]

Already sent the message. I apologized sincerely. I’ll let god do the rest. Im sorry now. In a month it’ll be too late to be sorry.

[Asker]

I’ll send the I’m sorry and in a month I’ll reach out with a simple hi

[Asker]

How are you

[Asker]

Post a hot pic. Lol I really am manipulative

[Astoriana]

My armchair diagnosis is borderline personality disorder.

[Asker]

I believe I have that also but not severe.

[Astoriana]

Ha, your behaviour says otherwise.

[Asker]

Hopefully I can manage it or change it. I know I’m wrong. And if he never speaks to me again, lesson learned. He did play a role in this also.

[Astoriana]

No, he didn’t. Your illness created this issue. You need to get into treatment.

[Asker]

Bitch shut up

[Celtero]

You're still being crazy. You fucked up with him and he doesn't want to talk to you anymore. Find a different guy and be nicer to him.

[Asker]

I don’t want another guy. I want him. I know I messed up. I wanna try at least one more time. How long should I wait?

[Celtero]

I can tell by the language you used that it's not going to work between you two.

[Asker]

I know. But I don’t think it’d hurt to reach out again eventually. I went crazy with other guys before and they let it go.

[Celtero]

... Stop going crazy on guys. No decent guy is going to put up with crazy. He's making the right choice by blocking you.

[Asker]

But I’m not actually crazy!!! I made a mistake!

[Asker]

He’s not making the right choice. He just spent months talking to me being devoted to me. I don’t think it’d hurt to reach out once in like a month.

[Celtero]

What did you say to him that made him block you?

[Asker]

I kept messaging him over and over. I flipped out. I said you’re really going to keep ignoring my messages instead of answering me?

[Celtero]

... And what were you trying to talk to him about?

[Asker]

I kept accusing him over and over of being done with me and not being man enough to tel me. He begged me to stop last night and today I just went OFF. And he blocked me.

[Celtero]

Sounds like a lot of bullshit drama. Maybe you should grow up a bit before you start having relationships again.

[Asker]

I just want advice on how to fix this. I don’t know what to do. I wanna try one more time. How can I go about that? I’ve been in such a horrible place lately. Like suicidal and everything. I’ve lashing out on him. Maybe subconsciously I wanted him to be done with me because I know I might do something stupid soon.

[Celtero]

Apologize to him and let him reach out to you after that, which there's a good chance he won't.

[Asker]

Okay I’ll do that. How long should I wait to apologize?

[Celtero]

Whenever. Just don't spam him anymore, and make it a real apology that takes accountability. No "I was having a hard time so it's not really my fault" bullshit. Message him once, and wait until he gets back to you. If he doesn't, it's time to move on.

[Asker]

Okay. Should I do it over the weekend? Or next week?

[Celtero]

Just do it now, and make it a good apology without excuses. No selfishness.

[Asker]

You don’t think it’s wayyyy too soon?

[Celtero]

Do what you want, but if I wrong someone I apologize as soon as I realize it.

Though, it seems like you're just upset he blocked you and want him to resume contact. You don't care that you're bothering him and being crazy, and now you want to continue being manipulative so he'll talk to you again.

[Asker]

How am I being manipulative? I genuinely am sorry. I care about him. I don’t wanna lose him. At all.

[Celtero]

You're sorry that he blocked you, not sorry that you tried to manipulate him.

[Asker]

How did I manipulate him? He’s part to blame for this too!!!

[Celtero]

Lemme quote something you said:

"I kept accusing him over and over of being done with me and not being man enough to tel me."

What's not manipulative about that? How is he blameable?

[Asker]

He’s not. I did this. I feel bad.

[Asker]

I’m completely wrong. I shouldn’t have let my emotions take over.

[Celtero]

Maybe you should take some time to do some self-reflection. Otherwise you'll just drive him away again.

You need to come to terms that he probably won't take you back either. Apologizing is still the right thing to do.

[Asker]

I’ve come to terms with that. I do wanna apologize if anything. I’m actually fine with him and I not having anything to do with each other. I tried my best. So did he. If he doesn’t want me I have two other guys who do. I went nuts. I care about him. I was scared and paranoid. I adore him tho.

[Asker]

I know I’m wrong. I wanna try to fix it. I won’t act like that ever again if I’m given another chance. I’ll reach out on fb messenger to apologize. Not sure when. And if he blocks me on that too I have my answer. I mean if he’d rather block me then work through it and find a solution then he’s not worth it anyway. Despite me acting psycho I’m a sweet girl who cared about him. It’s his loss.

[Celtero]

Goodluck.

[Asker]

When do you think I should do it

[Dzokson00]

I've read your replies

apologize now
and tell him you wqnt to work this trough

[drpik]

He might forgive you if you give him space before talking to him again, but it's not enough to apologize. You need to be better.

[Asker]

Thank you for being positive. How long should I wait? I’ve been acting horrible for like two weeks. I’m going to reach out on fb. I know I’m blocked on iPhone.

[drpik]

I think two weeks is long enough to clear the air but not so long that he forgets about you.

[Asker]

Okay so two weeks?

[willygee13]

You need to take some crazy meds and realize you screwed this one up. Time to move on.

[Asker]

No lol. How long should I wait before trying to reach out on fb?

[ZELLxoxo]

Apologise sincerely and don't blame him even if he was the one who caused you to act like this.

[Asker]

Okay. How long should I wait to say sorry?

[ZELLxoxo]

A week

[Asker]

Might be too long

[ZELLxoxo]

Okay then 2 days. Apologise on the third day

[Asker]

I’m not even sorry though. He played a large role in my behavior. He in a way antagonized my behavior.

[ZELLxoxo]

I understand, but if you value your friendship you will just apologise even if he was the one to blame.
But if you don't, then don't say anything to him.
What do u want to do

[Asker]

I value it but I feel like since he blocked me he doesn’t. I deserved more of an explanation and a talk it out type thing instead of just being blocked. I don’t wanna lose him. But if I do I don’t care. I really don’t. He should have talked to me more. What would you say?

[ZELLxoxo]

You are right of course. But I have to know more about what caused this to give a valid opinion

[Asker]

Okay. So we talked every single day for months. Months. All day long. He expressed strong interest in being with me. We got along great. So as of recently he slowed up. It was a red flag. So I started going off on him and trying to force it out of him that he wanted nothing to do with me anymore. Well he wouldn’t. He kept playing along being short with me. Hot and cold. So I finally had it and started going OFF. I told him all I want is a I’m done with you text and he wouldn’t give that to me. I told him if he did that I’d stop. He wouldn’t say it. He kept just dismissing everything I said and called me crazy insane and tell me to stop. So today he just blocked me after we exchanged some words. What do you think I should say tomorrow?

[ZELLxoxo]

You were right to think that he wanted nothing to do with you.. I might have thought the same way.
But I mean he could just be extremely busy right
Personal problems? Exams anything..
But if he wasn't..
If I were you I wouldn't really apologise. I'd see if he unblocked me and then just say hello and see what he replies

[Asker]

He said he was really busy. With working and family. What do you think of me messaging him tomorrow saying “I’m sorry for turning into a psycho. I know was wrong for treating you that way. I don’t wanna lose you so what can I do to fix what I did?”

[ZELLxoxo]

Just say' I'm sorry for behaving the way I did. I over reacted but that's only because I value our friendship.
Can we put this behind us and be friends again 😃<3 '

Seriously just copy paste what I wrote.

[Anguished]

I see many cats in your future :')

[Asker]

They were going to be there regardless. Love cats.

[Myrdices]

Probably start by not going psycho in the future

[Asker]

I’m not crazy at all. I had a horrible moment. Horrible. I wanna try at least one more time before completely throwing in the towel. I look awful. How long do you think I should wait? I figure if I wait and post a really really hot pic on fb and message him I should be fine. What do you think I should do?

[Myrdices]

Therapy

[Asker]

I don’t believe in therapy at all. I’m being serious.

[Myrdices]

I'm also serious

[Asker]

I know. How long should I wait to reach out?

[Myrdices]

You know him better than I do

[Asker]

Like it doesn’t help that I’m hot?

[Myrdices]

Looks are meaningless

[Asker]

I fucked up really bad. I wouldn’t stop. I’ve done this with another guy and he forgave me and let it go. If anything I’m pissed that he treated me like that and blocked me.

[NicoleThePotato]

See a psychiatrist

[Asker]

Omg I’m not actually crazy. I had a bad moment.

[NicoleThePotato]

Whatever helps you sleep at night

[Asker]

Mhm. Watch what you say. Comes back on you.

[NicoleThePotato]

Yeah I can tell you're either a troll or you aren't really 18-24. Well I'm just gonna leave it at this because there's no point in arguing with you so, have a nice day

[dancing_in_nebulas]

Why. Just why.

[Asker]

I know!!! I feel so bad. Because I felt like he was being shady and I was basically trying to beat the “I’m done with you’ sentence out of him but he wouldn’t budge and kept asking me to stop. I basically kept accusing him of being done wth me and he begged me to stop and I wouldn’t. So he finally blocked me earlier.

[dancing_in_nebulas]

But if you like him, why would you do that?

[Asker]

Because I’ve been in a bad place and I’m not thinking straight.

[dancing_in_nebulas]

Not a good excuse. You hurt him for your lack of self control. Hopefully he will forgive but knock that annoying shit off.

[Asker]

Do you think I should reach out on fb?

[Asker]

I’m so scared he’s done with me.

[dancing_in_nebulas]

Yead Id try it

[Asker]

Lol god has blessed me with my fine ass ex

[Asker]

He only just blocked me today. Should I do it tomorrow? Sunday?

[dancing_in_nebulas]

Do it asap

[Asker]

I’m so scared to. I feel like he’ll block me on fb too. I feel like it’s too soon and he won’t believe me.

[Anonymous]

psycho.

[Anonymous]

there's nothing you can doo