Its just an aggressive place to be. Everyone goes to clubs so they can get wild/meet new people/get laid. Everything in a club is a warzone because everyone wants something from someone else. Its not because of the way people dress, its because of the implication they put up by trying hard to look more attractive - to which end - they are probably more successful lmao
All in all, everyone is a pig. Whether you indulge in drinking lots of alcohol, relationships, sex, dirty dancing, all of it. So everyone needs to stop labeling others and maybe look a little deeper in yourselves first to realize we are all human here.
-besides rapists of any kind. Dont get me wrong here.
There are females who go to clubs who crave that kind of treatment. It's definitely not all by any means, but it's enough to make some guys think all girls are the same in that building, and mix loud music in a dark chaotic setting with plenty of alcohol flowing, and they feel comfortable enough to treat anyone and everyone like an object.
Sucks, but this actually makes sense to me. Thanks for explaining.
I feel you girl. I work on a club bar at night and I can't even count the guys who came at me "demanding" to talk to them, asking for my name, If I want a ride home, If I want to do something... And I'm only there for like serve them drinks but of course I have to be polite and smile all the time so that sends them mixing ideas.
Their behavior Its just natural for those type of guys who go to Clubs. They're stupid and are only there because they can't find a girl like normal people do. Plus with the alcohol they become animals but deep inside they are some pussy too scary of rejection.
Alcohol/drugs, and/or on a mission to get laid. Plus, they probably have their friends hyping them up or something. Who knows. Some girls are into it. Most I know, aren't. I always have at least one friend that has my back with me. You never know how far someone will go!
I feel you girl. I love me some clubbing. Wednesdays, Fridays and Saturdays are the days for where I live. And when I'm drunk I love to dance, but what I don't love is having a guy grab my ass so hard it bruises, yes that actually happened.
Ouch!! Mine wasn't THAT aggressive, wow! My most recent (and most aggressive) experience was a guy basically trying to pull my shorts off while dancing.
All the skin they see gets them riled up or they think women in clubs are looking for the same thing their looking for, a quick lay.
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It is commonly known to guys or so they "Think & Believe" that females only go to clubs to meet guys. Therefore, with that dumb ass thought in their $hit for brains, they believe & feel it is necessary to grope up on all the females they can, just hoping and thinking that they just might end up getting lucky.
I work in a club that is intentionally targeting female customers. So, my experience will not quite be like most other clubs. We have 3-4 security guards and 2-3 actual police officers on site during open hours and 99.9% of their job is dealing with men. I could fill 100 pages with all the stupid shit I see on a nightly basis. Maybe 2-3 times a year there will be women getting into a fight or something, but the rest is all men. Men being too aggressive, creepy (had a guy get caught hiding in a womans stall, taking photos of women on neighboring toilets), men jealously fighting each other over women, you name it. I am of the opinion now that if I were to go out to a club to relax, I would want to find one with least amount of men present.
Because even if a good guy were to go to a club, a girl would ignore that guy and pay attention to the guys being aggressive. Whether they are being annoyed about them or going along with it, the bothersome guy is still the one taking their attention and not the guy who nicely asked them to dance (Which is actually deemed socially weird in a bar under most circumstances) if you wanted it to be different you would have to take control of the atmosphere yourself. That is all there is to it
That's a bit deep.. personal experience maybe?
Clubs nowadays for guys are used as hook-up starters. Society has let it get to this point where anyone can't just go out and have fun in public places like this without being harassed by the opposite sex. Case in point: reality TV shows like Jersey Shore.
Usually women who love to drink go to clubs. So men think they can get away with aggressive behaviors towards drunk women. Also, women dress up very sexy in clubs. So guys who are generally aggressive can't help themselves but to look at women who look sexy and see what they can get.
There's a place for all types of people - and clubs is where you find not the most mannerable guys hanging out (and some bars). It's just where they know they can hang. It's more of an unspoken rule. So, they expect the women there to be okay with the club culture and how things go. I can't do clubs, it's so dangerous on so many levels. You're likely to get some kind of super staph infection just from sitting down
Because it's a hunting field pretty much. It's like imagine a group of lions go into a field full of gazelles who have purposely broken their legs and are walking around saying eat me, eat me. Group of guys go out where there's countless hot girls all dressed like they ready to fuck and then are like oh nah sorry I got a boyfriend. Plus all the testosterone and shit all the guys trying to be top dog and shit. its all fkn animal shit
Because they're drunk. I find that these guys also tend to be narcissistic. Most guys who go to clubs are shy and just sit at the sidelines where nobody notices them. The second largest group is the narcissists. And the smallest are the genuinely confident men.
Right? I even go to LGBT clubs where they can almost bet every woman in there is NOT straight, and STILL my ass gets grabbed and I have weirdos rubbing all up on me. Some nights are nuts, and it's exhausting. Other times I make a game of dragging the creeps right off the dance floor. They never expect me to be that strong and determined that I will shove them backwards through the crowd.
It's because they are the loudest guys in the room. They go to clubs to pick up women because they assume that women in clubs are there to pick up men. I personally find the club scene to be utterly repulsive. They keep trying because they're SO overconfident they just assume that after a few drinks, she'll change her mind and that if they try hard enough, they can get what they want.
The guys that hang out in those places probably feel if they do that to enough of women, they will find one that likes it or desperate enough to go have sex with them. It is a shame that the good women has to put up with this also. If you don't want to be around this, find another place.
sorry hun this is the world we live
I was actually dancing with a girl one time and her dress started to come up and i pull it down for her, she told me the last guy was trying to pull it up and im thinking like seriously
WHY? we are here to dance kick back have some drinks and have fun
when I go to clubs im not trying to sleep with anyone
even when the girl wants to fuck
I still don't
im a guy I understand its tempting but trust me some times its best to say no to a girl
1. A high proportion of guys there only see you as prey.
2. Cause they never ran into:
Mace
Stun gun
Knife
Fist
Knee
I can't believe so many of you women are gullible enough to believe that guys who go to the club are actually there to bounce to music and "dance". Not saying the groping and forceful behavior is appropriate but come on, alcohol, loud music, girls in revealing clothing, late night setting etc. like what do you think is gonna happen.
I didn't downvote, but the whole "what do you expect to happen" is kind of a lame thing to say. Takes the accountability off of the stupid guys and sorta blames us for being available to harass.
@Kronky Thanks
@Asker Well as I said in my previous comment; their behavior is inappropriate but so many of you women act like you can't believe that it's happening. The club doesn't attract morally ethically people. A lot of guys are scumbags looking to get laid and a lot of women are straight bitches. That's how the club works it's always been that way.
it's a question of is and aught. do you want to dance and have a good time or do you want to be the rosa parks of girls at night clubs
I would be more concerned if your question was "Why are guys in libraries so disgustingly aggressive?".
If you want to meet guys who are not normally disgustingly aggressive, try going to museums and libraries.
Guy's no they can touch and grab girls without getting in trouble. The worst that could happen is security kicking them out if things got out of hand. It still doesn't stop most from reaching and grabbing girls.
Most guys go to the club to get laid, combine that with alcohol and a certain type of guy and that's what you get. Sadly.
We are not all like that though, I don't even drink.
I know not all guys are thirsty toolbags. Just wish I didn't have to deal with guys who are. 😑
then don't go the places that attract those types of guys
Hahahah they do notice, they just don’t care whether you’re comfortable or not.
Yep I think you're right. Tools.
i don't care as long as the girl doesn't fight back
The type of guys who often go to clubs are the more aggressive type, and they get alcohol in them, and lose their inhibitions, and it can be a mess.
Mostly because they are drunk I guess, men and women are very different. While women mostly go to clubs to dance and have fun, most guys go to “hunt”
If the club environment makes you uncomfortable then you shouldn't go there. Man go to clubs to meet women and then after they get a few beers and then remember they get taller smarter better looking alcohol is a big influence in that
Its funny it might be which country you live in? Every club or party I've been to, it seems like the guys are the sensible and controlled, and the females are the ones who get provocative. That's just my experience though.
the reason I stopped going to clubs was because of this. I got pulled by guys, rubbed on forcibly, and it was bad. Never again.
They are agressive because women in clubs are desperate
Because of lack of consequences and abundance of options
I'm afraid you're probably right.
Because they think all girls who visit clubs are sexually aggressive. And won't mind if they touched one or two of them.
No matter whichever club you go it will be the same.
Ego... get laid... drunk as hell... its a club and some not all are just looking for a one night stand. My own opinion.
Because they is some assholes, who dont even have the audacity to have some common sence or at least some decensy to pay attention how they act, and or even think about the others.
Its because they dont have the guidance that the older generations had
Theu do what they think is normal for a club and to be fair it is. Although some guys are waaaay too pushy.
It's normal for people to basically have sex on a dance for at a club. Now I'm not saying that ass grabbing random chicks on the dance is but intimate dances is even with strangers is normal. You should have seen the shit that was happening at dances in high school. Don't be unrealistic.
Anyone that thinks going to the club in the first place is a good idea is totally ignorant. Clubs are highly overated, don't go there in the first place. But i dont know anything about guys at clubs
Isn't that just the club culture? It attracts that sort of people?
Its a way of getting a girl. Doesn't work on you. I'm sure it's work before
because it's proven that most heterosexual girls prefer aggressive guys, many nice guys turn into assholes to be noticed by women and it often works
Guys at clubs are young dumb and full of cum. Then put them around a bunch of half-naked girls with short dresses and no panties on. That's like throwing Chum into a shark tank.
You sexist BITCH! NOT ALL MEN FUCKING GROPE WOMEN WHAT THE HELL? i bet you dont even get fucking groped bc ur so fucking ugly, ugh. But in any case, your sexist as fuck you THOT
😂😂 I can't with you.
Well this is a place made to look for someone to have sex. They assume you are horny. The hormones are so intense in these places some have a hard time controlling themselves. (Even tough they really should be)
Stop going to shitty places that are known to have shitty people in them then complain. That’s dumb.
Girls are why guys go to clubs, it's hardly surprising and of course the guys that go to clubs are going to be the guys that are most intense about it.
I’ve done it. I’m not proud of it. But I’ve gotten a lot of girls doing it. Kicked out of places too.
Probably because it's somewhere where it's unlikely to get noticed. Crowded, loud, dark, drunk, drugged-up, etc...
Clubs are full of immature people and guys who want to get their dick wet. Women can be too. Been to two and it’s literal cancer.
Consider going to a gay/lesbian club for all your dancing needs... cause booze and drugs roam all over night clubs.. be safe
That's the type of guys that go to clubs. The overly aggressive, pushy, overly confident asshole. I understand not all are that way but the statistics are in that favor.
Cause it's the meat market. You need to stay on guard. Do not accept open drinks. Go get it yourself. If they want to pay for your drink, then let them know you are not going with him.
Probably because they’re drunk and incredibly horny. Not an excuse by any means, though!
Probably because that's what they think works or feel how you act in a club.
Shit we have to be.. have you ever been behind a chick determined to prove she can twerk? can't be soft lol
Well. You shouldn't go to clubs. Guys go there to try and get laid they don't give a crap about dancing.
It's a shame, I hear this often from gyms to clubs it seems like an epidemic.
I'm not sure what the answer is..
I had the same experience with some older women in a club. They harassed me and wanted to take a photo of me, and when I told them no they still sneakily took the photo.
Around 40 probably.
I didn't really find them attractive.
Because most the guys that go to the club are aggressive
because they're guys in clubs?
just like it's just girls in clubs... ho's and sluts
Not I. I go because I like to dance. I don't even drink much.
just sayin'
Think for a moment about the types of guys that go to clubs... Enough said.
Have you ever watched grunions spawning on the beach? That's what clubs remind me of.
They never been around women. So they feel entitled to everything.
Because they want to show off infront of all the other men
Because there only after one thing, and will do anything to get it.
It's so pinned up from not even being able to sneeze at a girl at work.
I see. They sexually harass at clubs because they're not allowed to at work. Solid.
Sneeze vs sexually harass? - That is a great leap to say the least..
But either deal with it or stop going to clubs screaming out sexual harassment. Tuck yourself in bed like an hag and go to sleep.
If it's really that serious of a problem.
You're the one acting like there's some sort of "witch hunt" that'll lead to a dude actually getting fired for sneezing at a woman. Aren't you being just a tad dramatic?
I have gotten a guy fired for sexual harassment only once, and believe me, he deserved it. Made my working life miserable for months. Wouldn't leave me alone no matter how many times I said stop; it was a game to him.
But sure, guys are the victims here. Poor guys not being allowed to grope women they don't know.
Ahh, no wonder why your so sensitive toward my proper response to your ridiculous thought processes. FYI, it doesn't have to be anything extreme within the double standard world of femininity. Girls'll take a polite compliment the wrong way "if she happens to be having a bad day". Or on some emotional rollercoaster that week.
Example 1. - Your hair looks great.
Example 2. - That's a nice dress.
Example 3. - Nice glasses. They look good on you.
Each of those non invasive comments could be considered fraternization. Therefore creepy af. Therefore grounds for harassment. And ultimately grounds for a guy'$ termination. Which may severly effect his household and well being / lively-hood. All over a f#cking compliment towards a girl who based off of merit and integrity alone doesn't even deserve one to begin with.
Doesn't have to be comments that over and over again either. Twice is enough to can a guy. I don't know about "your" particular situation but who give a flying $hit. I just hope that he learns next time not to $hit where he eats.
He touched me inappropriately, got super rude (for the entire day) if I ever let him know his advances were unwanted, and WOULD NOT STOP NO MATTER HOW MUCH I TOLD HIM. That's what makes anything harassment. Is when you continue after you know it's unwanted! It's ridiculous that I have to spell that out for you.
Knowing that it's unwanted is agreeable. But you have women out there who complain no matter what and that's what I'm hear to address specifically. Period.
But why would you address that here, of all places? At a question about groping in bars? To take the focus off of the issue for your own agenda?
The point that I'm making is most guys want to to girls at work in any kind of flirtatious way because of the fear of them screaming out fucking rape for crying out loud. So yes it's pinned up. So yes, they should be ferocious animals in the club tearing you apart.
Sorry - won't talk to girls in any kind of flirtatious way.
So you're in favor of dudes being gross at clubs. Got it, that's all I needed to know.
Damn straight..
Because they are up all night to get lucky.
Haha nice.
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