Is it a bad thing if a guy asks you to pay for your own meal for a date? (Page 3)

[Adam_INTJ]

Guy should pay. But it sounds like you shouldn't date him because he sounds needy. The not initiating conversation plus shyness sounds like he's afraid of getting on your bad side. Unless you find him to be rather bold/assertive, I'd say don't bother. A needy guy is not boyfriend material, just a festering annoyance an infantile personal development. This is coming from a pretty needy guy too.

[FatherJack]

A first meeting should be kept simple and inexpensive , such as a meeting for coffee , no meals early on , this will weed out the users / leeches , also there is much less pressure this way on BOTH parties , I would eject quickly if , for one example , I ended up with a " phone zombie " that was glued to her phone. I don't date , but hypothetically , I would happily pay if she proves herself worthy of this later on. No meals for first encounters.

[datgirl]

I always pay or at least try to pay for myself. But if the guy doesn't offer to pay or doesn't demand that he's going to pay and ends up paying then i may not see him again. And its not cause I'm cheap. I can afford $30 worth of food 😂 its just hot to see a man want to take the lead and provide etc.

[datgirl]

If its a male friend I'm more than happy to pay for the both of us

[laughingwarlock]

If he asked you out, he should have paid.
If he was uncomfortable paying for a meal, he should have asked you to just go on a walk at the park.
My fiance paid for her meal on our first date, but that's just because it was at a crowded chipotle and we didn't want to hold up the line.

[SeaSprayBreeze]

Why can't people just pay for their own meals. Sheesh! It doesn't 't have to be a big deal. If one person gets something they pay for it, the other person does the same. Simple.
If for some reason one person feels like shouting the other, then they can, but it shouldn't be expected.

[alohaahyes]

No, I'd rather pay for my own meal, especially on the first date. I dont want to pay for someone else's meal or have someone spend their money on me. It just doesn't feel right having someone else pay for my food.

[GraveDoll]

Hum,
even my male friends cover me most cases and I tell them all the time I make my own money but my male friends always feel werid about a girl paying in thier company. Sunshine huh? creepy. I hate pet names

[MrNameless]

If your male friends cover you, they do it because
1. They like you and see you as a romantic prospect
2. If they see you as just friends, they expect you to pay them back. Maybe for the next lunch

[GraveDoll]

@MrNameless

*Shrug*

I always have my friends back regardless. AKA when one in trouble may it be 2:00 in the morning or afternoon. I am always there if the need to talk shit out hangs, or ponder. I also cook a lot for them on our camping trips etc. Again I just never had to pay with a guy before. Being a vegetarian probably works in my favor.

[Pinay_ako]

No it’s not bad at all. I can pay for my own thank you very much

[orangecherry]

I think whoever asked the other person out should pay for the date.

So if I'm like "hey want to hang on friday" then whetev we do then I should pay for if it cost money.

If he asks me then he should pay.

I think thats a fair way to do it

[colin77]

na... something in right there... first date and ask u to pay... if i were u i will pay my way straight out of that relationship... u all don't know each other and comfortable in a relationship to know each other situation like that... na he don't value u

[Mickey9999]

It’s not a bad sign and I’m on your mom’s side. Perhaps he’s low on cash or as @teamvic said, he’s been played before.

[Anonymous]

It's simple. Women want to be treated as equals... until it doesn't really suit them.

[markscott]

For me, I would not want a girl to pay for the meal on a date. Some girls say they don't want the guy to pay, so they don't feel obligated. I don't expect anything at all by my paying for the meal, except civility and respect, which I also give.

[annieO22]

I always pay for my own share, and I feel awkward when the dude insists on paying. Its 2019, I don't need a man to pay for my things.

[BluesheepOwl]

That would be a deal breaker for me. I would probably just walk out after that. If he invites you it would be common courtesy to pay. If I asked him out on a date then I would definitely pay. He sounds cheap

[purplepoppy]

It's ok for you to offer but it's poor form for him to insist on it.

[StingRayxoxo]

So awkward. I definitely would act normal about it but I'd feel totally awkward.

[Hurdleez-Swampede]

Women should have the common courtesy to always pay for her and her man. Men already battle enough unfair crap like shorter lives and less sexual pleasures. It is only fair that women recognize how much they love men.

[morimeme1]

Nice joke

[LuWe22]

Not at all. I'm a bit picky with money and rather pay for myself. He should not think that I take advantage of him and that he thinks he earn something from me.

[ILoveAnime]

No. I actually prefer it. I don't like people paying for me or to have to pay for people. With both paying their own meals is perfect.