What are early warning signs that a girl is just a player?

[paulthree]

With guys it's usually obvious,no? I think just as many women are players but they are MUCH more likely to pretend otherwise, since for better or worse society judges women much more harshly for that behavior.

I have been misled a few times by such women. Can someone tell us some things to watch for? I think women's answers might be more insightful but guys are welcome to weigh in here too.

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Gee so far the answrs really aren't that helpful. Most girls are not so obvious as to keep in touch with all their exes.and if they do that doesn't at all mean they are players.

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Fascinating that NO ONE has a good answer to this!

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How did they play? Several ways, mainly by avoiding any comment about their personal lives.which you can't take as a sign since it's not polite to pry on those issues, especially on a first date, of course.but naturally the subject comes up.

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Still no one has come up with any early warning signs. Some of the suggestions would equally apply to any girl who isjust plain busy.and several of the guys say it's IMPOSSIBLE to tell!


Maybe they're right!

[huntusa]

Here are few things that you should check to see if she is a player.

#1 She has boyfriend/husband and she is messing with your head.

#2 She gives IOI's to every Tom,Dick and Harry.

#3 She talks to you but only about herself and what she wants from you.

#4 She never asks/says "how are you" or "How was your day" or any sentence that shows that shows affection.Remember girls who are really interested will never forget to ask you these type of questions.

#5 She always has a flirty reply to your questions.Sometimes its good but always is too much.

#6 She talks to you about "Shopping",Movie,"Mall", or complains that you haven't bought anything for her.Dude she is gonna sell you in auction or may be she will donate you to salvation army.

Well so far this is what I can think of.

Have fun!

[dannyboy187]

Only the women knows if her interest is sincere or not, that is what makes it so difficult to tell if she is messing with you. Generally you know the chick is bad news if she starts flirting with the dude at the next table while on a date, lol. Sadly, it usually isn't that obvious.

[OnoNw1]

i suppose there could be two types of female players, one who enjoys just physical intimacy and another who enjoys companionship. the physical one will want to sleep with you but basically be like a typical guy about the act, she is able to walk away and sleep with her many other bfs right afterwards. the companionship type will seek out different things from various men; if her own boyfriend is bad in bed, she'll keep him around and sleep with some other guy who can perform better; and if she's lonely and you're not available she has someone who is already ready to be at her side, this can be the best friend who will always have a crush on her or an ex who won't mind spending time with her.

key sign: she keeps in touch with all her ex's if she can.

[Anonymous]

signs to tell you she is a player:

1. she is taken (whether you know it or not) but she still flirts with you shamelessly whether in person or online.

2. she does not flirt only with you but with other men (she likes variety)

3. she will ignore you one day and be all over you the next day ( she likes to f*** with your head)

4. she's a big tease

5. she stands you up after inviting you for a hook up.

6. she likes to talk sex with you or in general

7. she won't care if you care, she will still hook up with you or your friend.

basically what guy players do but society hasn't fully accept that girls can be players too that's why there are sluts whores skanks. but men aren't branded as such. geez hope this helps

[blondie45]

I think the easiest way to know is if she dates more than one person at a time.same with guys!

Maybe for different reasons though. Players only care about the here and now with either sex.

I think if a person is reluctant to speak of their personal lives.major red flag.because its just part of learning about someone. Watch the body language.pay attention to how they relate to you.not only in words but in actions. I don't necessarily believe that a woman that sleeps with you right off is a major player, I tend to think she wants to explore that area and see if it works!

Dating .when you become more mature is extremely difficult. Players are players no matter what the age!

[Persois]

Well, I think it's the same for girls as guys. They lie. They're non-committal. If you're looking for an exclusive relationship, then most people would put you as a priority. Unless they have a demanding job, have more than one job, or in school as well, they'll make time for you. And not lame time periods but as they say, "PRIME" time. Saturday Nights, blah blah blah.

If you want something exclusive, you can always just ask the woman. It's not necessarily a needy thing but part of your sexual health and what not.

Does that help?

[Sweetpea27]

I really don't know this one? I have never played anyone before! (no really only had serious relations). But I do have a few shady girlfriends that play men, (not that they don't get played themselves) but anyways, don't buy a woman a big ticket item until you get to know her. eg you're about to meet the relatives. I would also not act like a player as a defense because it could back fire and you could scare off a quality woman. Other warning signs: She runs into old bfs all the time, flirts with other guys aroud you or even worse she flirts with your friends, but the number 1 red flag a girl is a player is if she sleeps with you right away.

[girlsguys88]

BEST ANSWER.

but the number 1 red flag a girl is a player is if she sleeps with you right away.

->or that she'll cheat on you

[tasha417]

If she almost always has a boyfriend. I have an example.

This girl at my school (junior) was dating a guy like a week ago and then broke up with him, 2 days later she had another bf, they broke up 2 days later and now she has another boyfriend

defiantly a sign

[OnoNw1]

maybe everyone's a player until they find the right one. unfortunately mr or mrs right is not always available, so people play if they have no moral scrupels.

[wally]

I have the same concern that you got , I wish some girls or even guys tell us about these signs.

[Sweetpea27]

Maybe you should give more details? How did they play you?

[Just-A-Random-Guy]

You won't know till it's too late. Trust me.

[Persois]

Geez, dude. We're just trying to HELP!