Why are more men these days "effeminate" and not so manly as compared to men years ago?

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pantyhose8 · Accepted Answer

When do women admit emancipation and freedom to dress?
The fact that some of you do not like that men dress nylons, which are also produced for men since 1974, already in the former GDR. So think about your debility and especially women. Women think about yourself, because you yourself have discussed the complete clothes closet with us! And nobody is puzzling about wearing pants !! .. Nobody's blaming you for it, laughing... if we acted like you, men on the street will treat you the same way, ... mock and point at you with your fingers that you're dressed like men and that you are perverse or mannequins in men's clothing. Your comments are just about your character and stupidity. I am not surprised by the idiom because of the rule about the history of dressing, they know nothing at all who first wore stockings and when women started wearing pants, etc., but you women, if you want to criticize someone, also study history and then write embarrassing comments because your opinions they are more primitive than in the Middle Ages and have no logic.
Feminine selfishness, recklessness and arrogance make me incredibly dialect, and that women think that they can only wear whatever they want, as well as male things. After all, nothing happens... I am a woman... but when a man does it, there is a fire hnet on the roof that as we dare to wear something worn by women !!! suits more. And who doesn't like it to jump me... you know what. When women can be we men. And you women have only one option, ... to respect it. Have you been thinking about why stockings are calling stockings? ... so kindly study the history of stocking, who wore them, first and erased, etc. They beat it. At present, women have discussed the complete clothes closet, including action underwear. And the men take part in the women's wardrobe. And what is the reaction of most women? .. protest and write hate speeches, taunts and insults under videos and articles !!! Women can be me because we are women. You men can only wear what women give me, we will let you and suggest it. Otherwise, you are men of refugees, freaks, fetishists and psychopaths. When will women's oppression and fashion dressing end? Are we going to see men end to end women's privilege in fashion? Women need to realize that there are men in the world who are nervous about classic and boring suits, and that even men have the right to diversity, not just women !!! Evidence, url links, that I'm not making up.

ChurchOfIron · Accepted Answer

Because Western society upholds femininity as the epitome of human evolution and masculinity as the antithesis of morality. This is ironically as women adopt more masculine roles and masculine energy for ambition and drive to succeed. So it's not only men getting more feminine; it's women getting more masculine. Which would be fine, if it was balanced properly.

This isn't only an opinion of mine. It's fact at this point. The American Psychological Association recently came out with a statement saying "masculinity is a mental disorder."

Christina Hoff Sommers predicted a lot of what's going on in Western society now with "The War on Boys" book she released in the 90s. She's a feminist, so no one get your panties in a bunch. Granted, she is not your typical 3rd wave feminist. Having two sons, she's naturally concerned about their future.

The positive aspects of masculinity aren't talked about as much anymore: protecting, independence, courage, risk-taking, heroism, etc. So if kids grow up only hearing about how masculinity results in violence and oppression, naturally they're going to gear more towards the feminine, right?

It's an issue of balance. You see the reverse in Latin America, where femininity is looked down on as inferior. The result there is abject violence and abject violence directed towards women significantly more than other places.

The result here is the emasculation of men. Which has a host of side-effects, as well. Particularly for romantic relationships. And certain social side effects.

We're two parts to the same whole. We need each other, and we need to be balanced properly. Too much femininity is a bad thing; too much masculinity is a bad thing.

c0ral_reef · Accepted Answer

I'm a feminist but I say that they're less masculine because of the feminism movement where women can take on traits that are seen as masculinity and men have less responsibility (such as paying some on a date, etc) . Every movement and change has its positives and negatives

Answer my question please
Guy keeps Ignoring me then come Back. What should I do? ↗

SarahsSummer · Accepted Answer

You mean more manly like these guys from many years ago?

coachTanthony · Answer

I think there were a few back in the day.

ChronicThinker · Answer

It was otherwise deemed sexist.

lollollollolx4 · Answer

Women today, at least young women, have a different aesthetic appreciation of men. Both in the West and East, women are becoming increasingly fond of effeminate men rather than masculine men. The trend is most evident among male pop stars and male characters in popular TV plays in various countries.

This seems to go against common sense. According to evolutionary psychology, women are supposed to fall for masculine men. Masculinity conveys the message of more power, a greater possibility of survival and better access to resources, indicating better life guarantee for women who have to conceive and raise children.

A research by New York University and Princeton University in 2011 showed that the long-term evolutionary "instinct" was changing gradually. Researchers showed more than 1,000 facial images of the opposite sex to male and female participants - the pictures had been airbrushed to make them look either more effeminate or masculine. It turned out that men and women both have fondness for the feminine facial images of the opposite sex, suggesting masculine men are not as popular as before among women.

The results go against the traditional view of evolutionary psychology, according to which masculine men should be more popular. Researchers say the study indicates women's preference when it comes to men no longer relies on simple evolutionary concepts; they show more modern characteristics.

So why is women's aesthetic appreciation of men changing in modern times? A study in the US covering 4,800 white women in their 20s provides the reasons for women's changing appreciation: progress in the medical field and improvement in health levels. In areas where people are generally in good health and with higher medical standards, women like effeminate men more. In areas with relatively low-level medical facilities, women favour masculine men more.

The conclusion is easy to understand: In a comparatively safe and stable society in which health is not a huge threat to the survival and raising of children, masculinity - which implies health, strength and power - is not so important to women.

In fact, masculinity means a high level of testosterone, which could make women feel insecure instead. Studies show that men with high testosterone levels are more likely to divorce, run away from home and be prone to domestic violence than men with low testosterone levels. On the other hand, women suppose that effeminate men are more considerate and caring. All these show that there are complicated social transformations behind women's preference for men.

Another reason for the change could be the increasing equality between sexes. With economic development and popularity of gender equality, women are making increasingly more contributions to and sharing more responsibilities of society. Both sexes can freely develop their individuality despite traditional gender restrictions. As the number of "tough guys" gradually reduces, women's preference also changes accordingly.

Anonymous · Answer

I believe young men are too effeminate, as a result of family breakdowns, divorce 50% Of all marriages, has led the sons to grow up without a father figure. The mothers are over mothering their sons. If it is a difficult Mother-son relationship, the son will be even worse off. In my experience mothers can push these sons away from women and become GAY. This gay behavior will just drive him further away from women. SORRY LADIES these CAUSUAL facts are all too real. Then the son starts getting a friendly male that is older, and gay then seduces son. The older gay guy is usually quite well. Gay men don't want to seduce a woman, it is too expensive and time-consuming. I have been married for 20 years, the wife does not realize that a man needs as much sex as possible. women have always used sex in her power struggle with her husband. If there is no or little sex before you get married, I would leave that woman. What's the point in being married, divorce her and find a woman that can fulfill your needs. I did not get married to a friendly companion, I married MY WIFE

SkipStop · Answer

Because of feminism / misandry / liberalism dominating society. Society sees being manly as a bad and dangerous thing. That being manly means you're violent, a rapist, and plain toxic. So loser men who listen to that crap follow the orders and become feminine. And manly men and boys get punished and abandoned for being their natural selves. All these modern movements are destroying society. There are more single moms than ever because of misandry and #MeToo sh*t. If we can turn things back to the way things were in the 90's and earlier, everything would be fixed. We need more republicans / conservatives in power again.

DuskDanger · Answer

So i see a lot of stuff about feminism and similar stuff but tbh im pretty sure that its because guys are more accepted as not having to be extrenly manly, there has always been a boundary with men about not being able to express feelings or emotions such as saddness or love and the such and as that is torn down with more gay men coming into the spotlight it makes non homosexual men realize that always putting on a mask of manliness usually ends up with saddness and selfhatred one of the reasons the suicide rate of men is so high. But what do i know im just a stupid teen

NxWxW · Answer

There are masculine men. They have their own opinions and beliefs and those opinions and beliefs may not match yours. They probably don't want to have deep emotional conversations. They won't go with you to feminist rallies or wear vagina hats.

There are feminine men. They will listen to you. They won't always stand up for themselves. They won't speak over you, but they may not challenge your beliefs either. They may be willing to go to feminist rallies and wear vagina hats.

One isn't good, one isn't bad, they're just different.

If you want a masculine man, date a masculine man. If you want a feminine man, date a feminine man.

But don't complain about the feminine man not being masculine enough and the masculine man not being feminine enough. Men aren't perfect.

Which is good, because women aren't perfect either.

DunceInAwhile · Answer

Because people are finally easing up on boys and men about what makes a man a man. Of course, most men 27ish or older are going to turn up their noses at that, claiming that it's wrong. Fortunately, there are a lot of smart people out there who realize it's not wrong, it's just different. I say, if you wanna act like a "man's man," great. I'll just be here expressing my feelings, telling people I love them rather than not doing so, for fear of others opinions, and directing those natural energies into beating women and drinking to drown my "shame."

MecheD · Answer

Well society has been changing a lot. Back then it was kind of frowned upon to be a homosexual so every man was portraying to be the tough guy. Not only that a lot of men these days grew up without a father figure, so they are forced to learn how to be a man throughout the view points of women. Last but not least today’s day and age you have to be “Politically Correct “ or your racist etc... so there is so many things to point the finger at. I just know with everything comes pros and cons the older generations were always looking for guys like this generations and now this generation of women are looking for men more like those of the older generations.

englisc · Answer

Many reasons:
* Feminism influencing the destruction of the traditional male role, "toxic" masculinity as they call it
* The rise of single-motherhood leading to fatherless homes, lack of strong male role models, boys being raised mainly by women who by nature have no idea about masculinity
* Comfort of modern life making men weak
* Endocrine disrupting chemicals in our water, food, and the environment

Browneye57 · Answer

Cuz the FI has said that's what they want, then spurn them cuz it's a lie.
And way too many are raised by single mother with no man to learn what it is to be a man.
So we have a whole crop of girlie-men that can't lead, are indecisive, whine and fuss a lot, are crappy in bead, and break down into tears every time you do. Gah!
Others are byproduct of new-age helicopter parents that have told them since day-one how much they 'deserve' everything - success, romance, an education, a good job, and on an on. That is also a lie - you don't DESERVE anything, you get what you get for the effort and work you put in, just like everybody else. The whole entitlement attitude makes them ineffectual and weak. There's no drive, and everything is 'meh'.

bamesjond0069 · Answer

Because men aren't encouraged or rewarded for being masculine. You can't take masculinity and remove one or two things from it.

Personally, the biggest struggle is most women view masculine men as the men to have casual sex with (which im glad) but they dont really want a masculine man to have a serious relationship with... why? Because naturally masculine men won't tolerate a woman putting him down or nagging him, he will want to be the breadwinner, he will want kids, etc. Most women don't want this stuff anymore. They instead want someone they can walk all over and thus many men adapt to be whatever they have to in order to get a girl.

Trolloween · Answer

Do you mean looking effeminate or acting it? Because there's loads of examples of men looking effeminate throughout history, with long hair/wigs with the richer folk wearing lace and frills. But it does seem boys now are being taught masculinity is bad and that they're all evil little rapists and women are always right. They essentially fear women because they know even a hint of anything sexual or just being friendly and their entire life is over if the woman decides to call it inappropriate.

Anonymous · Answer

Because 'manliness' is deemed to be possessive, domineering and controlling. And you don't want that, because "that's RAPE! We're not YOURS, you don't OWN us- let us run wild and free!" And so, you turned all manly men into incels and proclaimed 'rapists', fucked around with whoever you wanted whenever you wanted 'cause 'SLUT PRIDE', projected your fantasies into 'woman's novels' (i. e, literary porn) like Twilight and Shades of Grey instead, and lamented "where have all the REAL MEN gone?"

CapitalDelta · Answer

I'm not sure if your familiar with medieval and classical clothing men wore, but it's more feminine than things women wear today. Powdered wigs, long flowing coats, high heels, makeup, tunics, jewelry, and possibly long and unkept hair since that was the easiest thing to do.

wstewart1 · Answer

Because true masculinity is not what men are raised with anymore only non masculine men use, abuse, and treat women like garbage, masculinity is knowing that women are to be protected, loved and treated as equals while still maintaining a good physical form and having good morals

Pathokuhle · Answer

The world is changing, preference as well as taste is also changing. I've seen men who look effeminate but still give off masculinity vibes. In my point of view it's new age generation taking advantage of the fashion trend and what the youth world has to offer. Most women or specifically the new age generation dig effeminate men. Unlike before, men are now very particular about their looks and hygiene. they spend so much time on their skin, hair more than trying to look more masculine. I actually like it.

i1T2daty · Answer

To some extent, it had to change due to political correctness but there were never any truly tough guys. Hollywood har far more gay than straight men and many gay men played the most macho parts, I think the trick is knowing when to be polite & knowing when her shirt, panties etc should be ripped off and she should be fucked like he can't control himself.

DepressedBean · Answer

I think that humans have evolved to not have such strong gender standards to uphold. For example, most 20 year old women (millenials, I suppose) do not know how to cook and wear jeans whereas in the past, they had to cook, clean, jeans were a no no, etc. I guess the best way to explain it is, people can express their genuine personalities more and not be as worried about not being girly or not being masculine enough.

HungLikeAHorsefly · Answer

Hahahahaha I knew it

When I read your question in the Feed, I thought to myself "there's gonna be some bitch on there whining about how Feminism ruined men". I was not disappointed.

I could go on for days about this topic, but first off, I gotta say I'm not convinced it's true that there are more effeminate men now than there were before. It's just more visible now.

John_Doesnt · Answer

Compared to men many years ago:  Yes, back when they had curled hair, wore lace and mascara the men were much manlier.  Just stay in the kitchen woman!

Pamina · Answer

There's always been effeminate men. There were times throughout history where this was actually the beauty norm. These things always come and go, change and evolve. Nothing new.

EugeneQWhipplewart · Answer

#ToxicMasculinity #FalseMeTooo #MenAre Pigs...

Men are too afraid to be men for fear of being called names. As a result, men aren't passing on manliness and masculinity on to their boys. Single Motherhood by choice is another factor (single mothers can't teach a boy how to be a man)...

TheKack · Answer

There are a lot of reasons. Societally, men have been demonized to point where it's not only unpopular to be masculine, but can create problems for them in school and work. Also, hard work is looked down on, so manly roles have been reduced, and masculine male role models have been in short supply for a few decades.

JimboGB · Answer

Next time you go shopping, check how many products contain soya (You will be surprised). Secondly, break down of the family, boys being raised by their Mothers (and acting like it) without a man in the house. Societies pathetic acceptance of feminist ideology, poisoning the youths mind, last, prosperity, suicide isn't a problem in thrid word counties.

TacocaT6969 · Answer

Men back in the day were raised to have no choice. It was be manly or be seen as a disgrace.

The definition of “manly” will vary based on who you ask because it technically doesn’t exist... we made it up...

Jersey2 · Answer

Have you seen early pictures of David Bowie? Lol. And girls loved him.

Feminists are making it such that masculinity is demonized as they want some fucked up hybrid for everyone.

Great jobs now are based on intelligence, not muscle and aggression. Smart guys are killing it there but they don’t look like the stereotype... Gates, Zuckerburg, Elon Musk and the tens of millions of lower level versions of them.

Massageman · Answer

Because as a society, we have been force-fed a bucket of socialist bilge about being OK with men walking into women's washrooms and so many other idiotic "feminist concepts". If a male calls himself a "woman", then women are nothing special (since anyone can claim to be one). Ironically, new socialist feminism has just shot itself in the foot - again.

motownplayer2000 · Answer

The problem is your comparing it to men before. Why can't we just accept that people are the way they are. Men back then I would argue were manly. They just made the woman's roles to be a certain way and keep the system of subjugation for woman in place until they fought back.

I don't think that, being racist and have segregation, thinking of women as property, owning slaves, or any of the behavior of the men before to be "manly"

Hispanic-Cool-Guy · Answer

No idea. People blame single moms, but single moms raised boys in the past without fathers in some cases and the boys grew up to act like men.

It can't be feminism, because no one can force you to act a certain way without your consent.

I just think lots of males for some strange reason just desire to act like pussies and effeminate.

DDpsy · Answer

You mean like in the good ol days when before we were born...

jennifer_bloom · Answer

It depends on the culture because my instructor told me in class last year that in ancient times men who had soft and feminine features were prized while rugged and masculine men were viewed as less worthy of respect and romance

smartyanne · Answer

Because we don't put so much pressure on men to be manly anymore. I'd rather a guy be open about his feelings with me than keep everything bottled up in a dumb attempt to act more manly.

Aiko_E_Lara · Answer

What is "effeminate" according to you? Here's what men wear years ago. You want that?

Melvindraco · Answer

This is only seen with white men and Asian men but hey their body and face are effeminate to begin with , they just born that way

Black men on the other hand are the pinnacle of manliness it is impossible to make a black man effeminate cuz their genetics are masculine

You don't like effeminate men date black men

Enraged white men coming in in 3 , 2 ,1

Anonymous · Answer

This is a broad generalization and relative to what "manly" means to different people. In days past, where our environments were rougher, masculinity was often correlated primarily to physical strength. Society has changed and I think those seeking "masculinity" would be better off embracing traits in men like patience, wisdom, kindness and maturity rather than conflating a stereotype with actual values and worth.

CubsterShura · Answer

Because effeminate men in past could not express themselves so they had to stay hiding in the closet. Now men are allowed to be whatever that want and so men feel free to be effeminate if that's what they like doing.

DeshawnMGTOW · Answer

lol women can just stfu. on one hand we got women complaining about toxic masculinity and demonizing dominant men and then we have women complaining cos men are effeminate. done with your shit

311WasAnInsideJam · Answer

Because dudes realized they can be more neat and display emotions rather than rugged and cold without being considered gay.

winterfox10 · Answer

The rise of the stronger, more assertive woman. Creative trends tend to reflect society's thoughts, so the reason that men are being promoted as more feminine is because they have become more feminine.

Septyrus · Answer

Just taking a guess, but I think
that they just didn't fit the times. The industrial revolution, great depression, World War I & II, the Korean War... times were tough, and people had to be tough to adapt and overcome the challenges they faced. Conformity seemed to be more the norm and individuality seemed more frowned upon. Probably because people relied more on community, which is a lot easier when people are the same, more less.

FakeName123 · Answer

- Too much wealth and luxury and thus lackluster hardships - Too many single mothers - Lack of male role models - Estrogen in tap-water - Society, media, etc. taking a shit on all masculine.

Oram52 · Answer

Why are women less feminine these days? Exactly the same reason. Feminism mainly, and societal changes. Men want women to be feminine as well. Women stopped being feminine men became less masculine.

AaronKrieger · Answer

Look at the society we live in and there's your answer. Our society is based off of comfort, so what do you expect?

F4LC0N45 · Answer

In my personal opinion its because we are raised to fear women. Or at least I was. No touch. No looking for extended periods of time. So on and so forth. And that's when I was younger.

AD240pCharlie · Answer

Because our society considers masculinity to be toxic. Not just when masculine traits are being used in ways that hurt other people, but any time a man expresses a traditionally masculine trait, that it immediately "toxic masculinity".

AcidT0y · Answer

A lot of the traits associated with being manly like physical strength haven't been as valuable as they used to be now that we're in the age of technology. I think it's on it's way back in now though. More and more guys joining gyms every year.

Twerk4Me · Answer

Because of feminism. Feminists attack men for being men, scaring young men into acting more feminine.

DWornock · Answer

They are not allowed to be. Acting like boys is punished in schools, even in kindergarden. It is punished on college campuses and it is punished in the workplace.

PeterPan246 · Answer

You're looking in the wrong, go visit Afghanistan and see nothing but manly men coz they don't follow any man-made system that is designed to gradually feminise them.

Papajohns · Answer

Because back in the day you would get beat up or killed for being effeminate so most men learned to hide it well

Sevenpointfive · Answer

isn't that what you want? a pretty girl with a dick? make up your mind feminists

crazy8000 · Answer

Evolution. more and more people begin to be themselves or what the majority of some movement are doing... Little to many thing's that sums up and make it more noticeable.

God-vs-Satan · Answer

Culture through media outlets have softened men up to express themselves in effeminate ways.

Men are not discipled by their dads how to act masculine and embark upon a man's life. They basically want men to be pampered around.

Amanda269 · Answer

Being effeminate was seen as gay and gays were beaten up, disowned and worse.

PinkCherryBlossom · Answer

Their parents didn’t do a good job and western society not following traditional gender roles.

Cuppo_Mode · Answer

Becouse they all turning gay, becouse women are turning lesbian or they are filthy femenists or they are... Anti vaxx mom's!!!

whatever6846 · Answer

Lol hae you seen the men in the 70s, 80s and 90s? The 90s men had on crop tops with with short shorts lol.

Passinggas · Answer

Because the feminists stated the they would reduce the men to 10% of the population and they are doing it.

Why are more men these days "effeminate" and not so manly as compared to men years ago?

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