Guys, If a guys says “maybe” to making plans is that leaning more towards a yes or a no?

[Anonymous]

I met this guy at a sort of kickback thing about a week ago and we really seemed to hit it off, we’ve now hung out about 3 times through out the course of the week (he’s asked me first both times) and I think I’m starting to be really into him. Last night after I got home from his house I texted him and said thank you for having me over and he said something along the lines of of course, anytime. Then I asked him if he’d maybe want to go get dinner or something after school one night this week and his response was “yeah maybe” and that’s all. He’s not the best texter in the world, but yeah maybe just doesn’t sound very enthusiastic and makes him seem uninterested. After I asked the question I just kind of dropped it and we started a new conversation and he was complimenting me and everything seemed normal. What does this “yeah maybe” mean? Is he just trying to sound like he has better things going on, or is he just not near as interested in me? Pls help!

[Aysen]

Usually, a guy that says "maybe" either isn't interested in the idea or the thought isn't a top priority for him.

He's in the phase where he's not quite comfortable enough to go out to dinner or to be more intimate to you just yet. Most guys that are interested in you would clear out or change their schedule as much as they could to make open time with you because they want/love to be with you! Saying words like "maybe", "I'll think about it" or "I'll let you know later" means there are other things in the back of his mind that he wants to prioritize first. If you pay attention to how he responded positively to you after you changed the subject of asking him out for dinner or just to hang out, he wanted to dodge that question without appearing as rude to you directly.

I'd just suggest continuing to be patient with him and see where this friendship goes. Maybe he just needs more interaction with you to feel more comfortable around you before trying these things or maybe he doesn't see you in a romantic manner for now. Either way, you can try bringing up the question again later to see where you two stand unless he asks the question first. Sometimes, men prefer to keep their limits to a point without getting too personal with someone that can catch feelings, intimacy and other feels of affection. He sounds like a great guy to be around, seeing how he's initiated meeting up before and compliments you! Just be patient with him and try not to overthink this.

[Apope16]

As an expert on these things let me tell you the truth.

If a guy says "maybe" it means he's not excited to see you. If he thinks you are hot or is in love with you he will MAKE TIME. Shit. He will even cancel his plans. It means you are a low priority.

Is all hope lost? No. Just be confident. Play it cool. Dont act desperate l. Dont text him 24/7. Start texting him to set up dates only.

So what is actually happening? It sounds like he likes you as a friend and he thinks you are sexually attractive enough to fuck. He has likely already fantasized about having sex with you, maybe even masturbated to you. But he doesn't see you as his type for a relationship yet.

A friends with benefits relationship is highly likely if you are sexual, give clear signals, and offer drunken sex. Your chances of a relationship are slim but not impossible. Youd have to be patient and play the long game. In the end, if he falls in love with your personality there a 10% chance you get married. The fact that he hangs out with you a lot give you a 50-50 shot at a relationship.

[Apope16]

Apologies. I didn't see you were under 18!

[coachTanthony]

It means just that "YEAH MAYBE"

Let him think about it, check his schedule and see if he gets back to you. If he doesn't then he's not interested.

I wouldn't ask again that is for damn sure!

[hellionthesagereborn]

Well if it was a straight maybe, that would be a no but a yeah maybe and in the casual way you said it I would guess its him saying it depends on what he has going on right now (work, school what have you). I wouldn't read to much into it right now as you've already been hanging out and he was more then willing to keep talking to you, could be awkwardness or scheduling. If it happens again, where he kind of brushes off dinner or something "serious"(as that tends to feel more serious then just hanging out), then I would say he is trying to avoid the topic but again, if its only once I would say don't read into it.

[drsexthingy]

kinda sounds to me like a " i'd like to, but i have to see if i can" type of maybe. You see, for a lot of guys. When they say maybe, their really just muling over all the other things they have to do, trying to see if they can fit it in and if they feel like it'd be really fun, like going on a date with a fun, hot girl. Then most guys will do their best to make room and go on that date. Then again, he could've just been in the middle of something, and just didn't want to keep you waiting for a reply.

[spartan55]

The is no 'sound of interest' or any other feeling or emotion when it is through texting. You girls just can't/won't believe that for some reason.
Pro tip: use text as little as possible, your life won't suffer. Use that time to build some relationships the real way. And always use texting as it was originally intended: as a supplement to daily communication.

[jgokgotit]

There is no hidden meaning. When we guys say something, we mean the literal definition, not the guessing game stuff. Ladies, you need to know that men do not attach as much meaning to words as you do. If he did not want to hang out he would say no straight away. One of the biggest pet peeves a woman can do is try to find a hidden meaning in a man's words. Fair or not, we see it as not being trusted. Just a tip since you are kinda young.

[ronaldo75]

When I say maybe it means MAYBE. It means I want to but I dont know my schedule so I have to get back to you OR I really like you but I"m still trying to figure out if you're a bitch or not.

A guy's maybe means MAYBE, not like a woman's maybe that 100% of the time means no.

[holograph]

It totally depends on the person. I give people a "maybe" and they are always assuming one way or the other. Very frustrating, because to me, when I give someone a maybe, it really does mean maybe. As in I'm not sure myself at that moment.

[wman14]

Okay so there's two ways here. He could honestly just not know what he's doing or if anything is going and and he says maybe because he seriously doesn't no. If its not that then definitely leaning more towards no... sorry

[BCA6010]

That's going to vary depending on the guy. If I ever tell someone "maybe," I will also tell them "it depends on..." and that'll be the honest answer, because I may be busy.

[billyboy37]

Honestly.. unlike women if we say maybe.. thats all it really is.. he just isn't sure but we always pick the girl.. use those wonderful woman manipulative powers and make him say yes