My boyfriend forgot my birthday. What should I do?

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Today is my birthday and he completely forgot about it and i didn't say anything about it yet, we are in long distance relationship for the past 2 years. by the way he only staying at home and went out for playing pokemon go today (that's what he told me) he is not that busy, school also start on August but why he forgot... I feel hurt... this 28january is his birthday, what should i do? And what do you think about someone who close to you forgot your birthday?

EmbraceThePain · Accepted Answer

He’s just human for crying out loud. You know how many times I’ve forgotten friends and family’s birthdays? Many times. I’ve even not noticed mine was coming up until close to the day. Your relationship is also long distance, so maybe that further makes it difficult for him to remember everything. Humans forget shit, but that doesn’t mean he doesn’t love, care, or wouldn’t die for you. Honestly, I couldn’t remember what I had for breakfast, lunch, or dinner a few days ago, let alone always remembering someone’s birthday. You have to write it down on your calendar to remember it and eventually it’ll just sear into your memory.

ImagineSketchy · Accepted Answer

Happy birthday. Plenty of people aren't good with dates. It is also a long distance relationship. It may impact how he sees the importance of the date, maybe. You could ask him if today is special at all. You could just flat out tell him today is your birthday.
I don't remember a lot of birthdays... Of everyone in my life, I only remember maybe 6, but they happen to be around a specific date or it's just an odd number.
I don't even celebrate my birthday. Last year, maybe 5 people said anything about it.

EssenceDawson · Accepted Answer

Happy bday girly! And I’m in a long distance relationship too, he actually remembered mine surprisingly but that’s cuz it’s on a day memorable lol. Anyway, honestly I can’t remember any of my best friends birthdays and it’s not cuz I don’t care, it’s because I’m forgetful in general. Just subtly bring it up, be like “I’m just celebrating my bday rn how’s your day”

jessie1985 · Accepted Answer

cut the idiot! Life is not that chaotic that you can forget your favorite human's special day. What a dweeb!

perislav85 · Answer

My sincere opinion is that he doesn't care about you so much. Away from the eyes, away from the heart. It's a common phrase in my country and its true. I had a few serious and long relationships. Two of them were long distance. I've never forgotten the birthday of my girlfriend and I think, I never could forget something like that. Rethink all of his behavior and if there is plenty of mistakes, try to find someone else. If it's not the case don't be a dick and "forget" his birthday, congratulate him, maybe he's gonna remember that he was forgotten. But I think you really need to get someone better.

rishisethi3 · Answer

I think he is not love with you properly , he is with you only for name and if on 28 jan , you have to be wish and celebrate his birthday as you want. I have not any gir5 but if i have then if she forgets then no matter because its not a big thing but if she is free and wasting her days then i will tell her today is my birthday and wait for her reaction and how it affects her then only i would do something.

Mustang_Steve · Answer

It's just a birthday it's not you wedding day. I'm a little biased, because I think birthdays are stupid. I just feel people blow the day out of proportion. If it really bothers you that much you could have dropped a couple hints before your birthday.

StephenCF · Answer

He’s known you for one or 2 previous birthdays and he still forgets? I wouldn’t take that too kindly, not even from someone I recently met (especially when I’ve told them when my birthday is) 😨 I’d reconsider the relationship, or simply ignore him on his birthday later on, and explain your reason when he asks why

Anonymous · Answer

If I were you I would not say anything about it at all, but I would also "forget" his birthday later this month and see what he says. That should make a point.

Tommy2017 · Answer

Happy birthday.

I never see the point in birthdays.
I made it a point of never telling my friends and gfs which date was my birthday and then they started getting fb alerts on my birthday, so I deleted my birthday from it.
I always remember my girlfriends birthday but I never wish them.
One of my exes was into birthdays because hers was 24th December and she even broke up with me because I didn't wish her a happy birthday which I found to be absurd.

Substantialman · Answer

When it's his day either do the same or just send a late happy birthday message towards midnight. Or, speak to him now as you stated you have not spoke to him. Happy Birthday.

rockrewls · Answer

Some what insensitive of him, it could be an honest mistake, did you remind him it was your birthday?

serious · Answer

That is not at all good. I am not quite sure what to say here. I hope you are okay though. I think you should just speak to him nicely about this, if he is a nice, sweet and caring man then I am sure he will apologize to you.

Dinklex3 · Answer

It'd be impossible for any of my loved ones to forget, since I always count down. Towards the end of the day I'd just sat "So are you really not going to say happy birthday? Lol".

AlexFlorida99 · Answer

This guy is a loser for lots of reasons that you mentioned.  Forgetting your birthday is just another one. Either get used to be treated like a welcome mat, or dump him now and find a real man.

arizonaguy95 · Answer

I'd be furious if someone close forgot my birthday, I wouldn't get him anything but I'd say happy birthday at like 10pm on 28 January to see how he feels for the whole day but then just drop it.

Anonymous · Answer

Just remind him. dude, my parents even forgot mine.. people sometimes just forget what day it is.

CressDarnel · Answer

Because of the long distance I would say he maybe just simply forgot. Maybe find out why. You said he’s not busy, but there’s probably still an explanation.

FriendToBe · Answer

Happy birthday dear. I hope he just forget your birthday there should not be any other reason. It's being human nature not a big deal.

OddBeMe · Answer

Talk about it. Also, if you’re not in someone’s immediate area they will forget about you often. Which is why long distance relationships don’t work.

Nik1hil · Answer

Let him forget it...  Wait for his birthday and wish him nicely..  And then when he realizes he missed your B-day he will feel like SHIT

Browneye57 · Answer

LDR's are a waste of skin. Consider dating someone you can actually SEE and BE WITH. You'll get way more out of it, I guarantee it.

justme1171 · Answer

For fucks sake cut him some slack and quit crying about it. He’s only human.

SwankyJon · Answer

Tell him how you feel, see how he responds

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