I asked him where we stood and got no response. Now what?

[Anonymous]

A guy I’ve been talking to and seeing for months who said I made him happy, and initiates conversation everyday, I felt close to so I asked him where we stood. He asked me if I was wondering if he was looking for a relationship. I said, I just wanted to know how he viewed me and where I stood with him. He never responded and normally he texts everyday but didn’t yesterday. I don't know what to do other than just back off. I never mentioned relationship I just wanted to know how he viewed me. I miss him already. Any advice?

[PettyBoop]

How long has it been? If it's been less than a day or two, give him time. Maybe he needs to think about it before he gives you an answer. That's not always a bad thing. I asked my husband the same thing early in our relationship and he didn't answer me right away either. When we started seeing each other it was supposed to be casual and I caught feelings fast. He had to sit with it for a minute to admit he had too. We got married 18 months later. That being said, no answer is an answer. If after several days he still doesn't respond, I'd cut my losses and move on.

[Yerrrr2405]

I mean I feel like that's putting him in a really tough spot. For instance, if he's too forthcoming, you may get weirded out and not wanna be as close as he wants it to be. On the other hand, if he says he just wants to "have fun", you may be disappointed that he doesn't want something more. So, if I were you, just give it time and let it manifest, he probably has to do thinking on his own of what he really wants out of the relationship.

[In_Trance]

That's a horrible question to ask. If you have a strong connection and communication, you'll always know exactly where you stand. He's probably taken back by this and really doesn't know how to respond.

[Asker]

Looking back, I feel like a piece of crap for asking him and putting him on the spot. If he ever texts again, I’m definitely going to apologize. This was Thursday night by the way, and I still haven’t heard from him. Thank you for the advice.

[gabrial97]

Play it cool and let come walk into the trap of patience 👀