I have an anxiety disorder so maybe this question might be irrational but I'm just tired of overthinking this. Especially when I hear men complain about women being desperate almost all the time, it just makes me question my actions. Plus I constantly hear sophisticated women saying that it appears desperate to text guys first. I'm not the type to text guys first, because it's a mental torment to me and I would hate to appear desperate. I have male friends, and most of the time they text me first but sometimes I feel it's just right if I do the same, and I really do care about my male friends, I'm just scared that some might think that I have a crush on them or that I'm being desperate for their attention, or even worst what if I'm annoying or bothering them? I just get paranoid and jump into conclusions...
I really just want to know if it's okay for girls to text first.
Yes, it's ok! More than ok, it's great. The vast majority of guys worldwide would like girls to reach out. You will not be anywhere remotely near the "desperate" category until you persist in communicating without receiving responses in reply. You must ping, then back off, and wait and see.
If these guys really are your friends, you have nothing to lose. But either way, you need to get into the psychological habit of stepping outside of your comfort zone. Think of this as your new mantra: Choose courage over comfort.
The year now is 2020. We don't have to wait for him to text first. You might be missing out on something you've been wanting if you wait, I say, "You slow, you blow". I had much of a success when I chose not to wait. Men love a confident woman. And women love a confident man. Confidence is very sexy to the other person. So build up your confidence and be first in texting the one you want to talk to.
everything will be just fine. take a deep breath and relax. there is nothing wrong with this at all. I find that when I get a ding on my phone sometimes and it just happened to be a girl that I've talked to you before and she wants to get together later or something, it's kind of like opening a present. you didn't expected, but it's great! just go ahead and do what you want. you don't have to, but it sure makes everything easier for the guys. Which makes the first date way better. takes the pressure off the guy to impress and blah blah blah.
@Sweetener_ OK first, you're about the last person I'd picture with an anxiety disorder. You seem so incredibly poised, popular and perfect. anyway , don't worry about it too much. You might want to let them text first in light of your desire not to lead them on, but a random text every now and then probably wouldn't cause the end of the world.
If you can't show a guy you are interested, you are doing it wrong. Of course you don't want to push yourself upon someone right away - but to just wait for mister knight on a white horse to come by is ridiculous.
Sure, being honest and straight-forward can sometimes hurt. Like telling someone you like them and they do not reciprocate. But it's better to know right away where you stand than living a lie of uncertainity.
Hello, thank you for sharing your opinion. But I'm currently not interested in any guy. If you want to, you can read my caption for better understanding of the situation 💞
if you are trying to be a lady , then do not text him first for your making the first move is not lady like ! however , if you are not wanting to be a lady then do what ever you want to ! I am a lady and have never made the first move or paid for my part of the date either ! I have had a lot of dates , been flirted with from 12 year old boys to 60 some year old men too ! so you do not have to make the first move to get the guys to talk to or date you ! thanks
Not at all. For some reason it's socially more accepted guys should send first but i have no clue why this is the case when guys who message first tend to be creeps lol
It's like wouldn't it solve the issue the other way around. So you don't get random creeps trying to talk to you and can just see who seems like not and massage them. Also i have never texted a girl first without context before of them basically saying i can.
Yes, it's fine for a girl to text first. You're definitely over thinking it. Don't listen to gossip a lot of people say the opposite of what they actually do or say negative things because they're insecure.
Absokutely 100% no. in fact i find it lovely and liberated for a girl to make first move. As Sir Ken Robinson said (paraphrasing) if you're afraid to be take a chance then you'll never grow to your potential
It's not desperate as long as you don't get weird about it. If you send him 300 messages because he didn't reply straight away that's weird, but one message first is just how people talk to people
I consider it a blessing that a woman contacts me on social media or calls me on the phone, it shows that there may be something there, and I don't consider it desperate.
Let me put it this way, if the guy your are interested in would see that as desperate, and would judge you because of it, you probably shouldn't be wasting any more energy on him to begin with.
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