- I try to explain it to him that he is good at it and it was just a joke. But things end up worse, he is more upset. How do I make him understand?
Because your boyfriend knows that people find jokes funny because they have elements of truth in them, and every man wants to think he knows how to satisfy a woman. I'm going to give you 3 pieces of advice that I am embarrassed to admit took me as long as it did to learn. I think I always knew these things deep down, but having someone finally say them to me was life changing.
1. Jokes aren't funny if the other person isn't laughing. If the joke isn't funny, you stop telling it. ESPECIALLY if the joke is insulting. The only funny thing about the jokes you're making is that they are really obviously way too personal.
2. Humor at someone else's expense, especially personal things, is never as funny as the person telling the joke thinks it is. It just isn't. It isn't shock value humor, it isn't "ironic," it isn't intellectual, you aren't subverting expectations: it's insulting, and your best case scenario is that the person you're telling the joke to is going to laugh it off while thinking "wow, that person is kind of bitter." This is doubly true if your timing is off, which your's definitely is, and that brings me to my final point.
3. Context is absolutely everything. There will absolutely never be a context where telling your boyfriend that he sucks in bed, will be taken as anything but an insult.
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Ok just read what you told him. That's not really a big deal. Just say "baby it's ok, that means my pussy is that good" look up statistics on the average time it takes. Itll surprise you. If he's always nutting fast that's easy look: if you give ANY woman a choice between a 15, 30, 60 minute good fuck with just wham bam thank you mama, OR 5 minutes making out, then kissing her neck, rubbing and sucking her breast, holding her and looking in her eyes as if there's no other woman in the world that matters, working your way down to eating her out for 10-30 minutes till she has had multiple orgasms and then fucking for 3 minutes, making p in v the icing on the cake, well, girls, you already know the answer to that.
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My fiancée too makes just "funny jokes" about our sex life.
I just go sleep in the other room and don't touch her for days.
If I should tell her how I feel about her performance, she'd not stop crying.
As for you situation, I'd suggest calmly telling him you are joking but also cut back on the jokes a little. What's funny to you may be insensitive to him.Most people are like that they take offense at a joke. When it comes to performing in bed it's what everyone don't want to be bad at. If he don't like the joke about you saying something like that just say sorry and don't bring it up again. Or if your that bothered find someone who don't mind a joke like that, even tho that's not a lot of people.
Effective jokes have at least a kernel of truth in them. I do not think this is a case of your partner being too sensitive. He does not like it and you keep trying to explain your joke?
You don't/can't. You've tried and it's not working, so you know you can't do that to him. He doesn't take it well, so stop doing it. Would you like it if it was reversed, kidding or not? Think about it for a minute.
He’s just sensitive or maybe he has insecurities.
Hint: People are really touchy about their sexual performance. Consider it sacred.
If he's making it pretty clear he doesn't enjoy jokes like that or he's insecure about that, I think you shouldn't make those jokes, which of course goes both ways
Here is a clue for you Ms. Clueless. If if pisses off your boyfriend, don't fucking do it.
Well, it's better not to mock your partner's performance in bed.
It hurts many guysHe's insecure
give him time and dont go there again
Well, what have you said? Why do you say it?
Is the “smallest thing” your mocking his penis?
Nobody likes those jokes
Just tell him to man up.
He clearly doesn't like it, so why do it?
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