I just said " it was good that time when it went longer. We should try it again" how offending is this?
Not super offensive, but it's needless antagonism
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Yes.. thank you. At least someone rightly answered my query. I understood he feels bad and explained it to him. But in the end he got more upset. How can I correct this situation?
I'd suggest letting it go for some days and let him sleep over it, it should pass.Then cut on the jokes.
From it I understood that he feels insecure that he isn't good enough. He knows I don't feel so and I've also explained him that. Still he is insecure about it.. I want him to feel confident and strong. Please suggest me on how I can achieve it
So knowing he feels that way, then you can't be mocking him, even in fun. Stop doing that but continue to tell him how much you like him and this will improve gradually over time.
Or maybe she made him insecure by saying it... like if say your man said: you ever consider a boob job? And you ask why and he says, "honestly, they're saggy and kinda funny looking" and when he sees it hurt you "just kidding baby"
@Hinky it was nothing like that.. so you can stop assuming what happened. And thanks
@Hinky if we’re messing with each other it wouldn’t bother me. There’s a difference. I’d probably just make another joke at his expense. We can’t be sensitive all the time, otherwise how will the relationship work over time.
@asker I know it wasn't. I was just giving an example. Different people are triggered by different things was the point I was trying to make. I myself have pretty thick skin. Others dont.
Being mocked by the person you trust and care most for in the world will make that happen.
Yes... But I want him to feel confident. How to do that?
Well, you dont say it again. Depending on what you said it may take years, it may be in the back of his head forever.
@Hinky it wasn't like only I'm joking.. he was too. We were making small jokes on our sexual life and he got upset
No... Not at all. It's about the time duration. And I wasn't offending or judging him. He is insecure