How can I tell a guy that is obsessed with me to stop calling me so much> < ?

[Anonymous]

so i have this guy friend who is literally obssesed with me !!! and it is soo exshauting he calls me everyday sometimes 2 times per day !!! and he text me on fb like a looot and if i dont respond he will text me again - - or call me !! it really start to piss me off !! i mean he is clearly in love with me but i like him as a friend and i dont like it when a friend or a lover calls me every fucking day !!! what should i do to let him know that he must fucking stopp!!! ps: i start to ignore he's calls and texts but he still calls me ugggh pls help !! i mean i like talking with him but not everydayy !!!

[Smoke-n-Growls]

Be honest and upfront.

Expect some confusion and hurt feelings on his part - sounds like he's come to expect you to return his requests for communication - but stay your course.

Figure out the boundaries you want to set with him, lay them out to him, and be firm but polite in setting those boundaries up.

Then stick to them.

And definitely let him know - gently and politely, as it will stick in his memory more than if you get catty with him - that he's made you feel uncomfortable.

I get the feeling this guy hasn't had much contact with women, so he might just legit not know what's realistic or normal to expect.

[CuteNerd9]

You really need to be honest with him. Tell him you value his friendship, but you're not interested in more with him. Tell him you're not they type that likes constant communication and you need him to give you some space, but that doesn't mean you don't want to talk to him.

[usr_963]

You think she will? lol Just read the way she worded it, completely a drama queen. She is digging the attention, and that moron is desperate.

[CuteNerd9]

Possibly

[CuteNerd9]

But why judge? Some people here are being serious and really want advice, and get judged based on others here who are just trolls. I'd rather give advice assuming the person really wants it.

[Asker]

@usr_963 ur completly wrong :) i'm really sick of it !!! he calls me everydayy !!! he is kinda harrasing me !! dont u get it :o !!! he calls me late at night !! and when i reply to him on fcbk he calls me like 1 sec after he is soo desperate and idont want to hurt him soo if u have any advice just say it instead of laughing at this :)

[Asker]

@cutenerd9 yup i think thats what i am going to do... it will be hard but..

[usr_963]

"How can I tell a guy that is obsessed with me to stop calling me so much": by texting, calling, or in person.

lol you sound like "I am so good, I treat everyone the same"... I mean until you show your true colors.
anyway, nice talking with you. bye

[CuteNerd9]

@usr_93 try being more gentle in how you respond to people. This can be hard for someone to deal with. I have a lot of Male friends and its not easy having that conversation with them that you just want to be friends. I don't want to hurt them or lose their friendship, but the attention really can be a bit much.

[Asker]

exactly !!! we are not even close friends...

[silasw]

Geez and I thought texting a girl, I meet, a few times within a week was coming off as obsessive

[Asker]

no its not XDD and if she likes u back and wants to meet with u and stuff thats fine !!

[silasw]

She didn't. Or changed her mind. She started to get really busy with work. Would respond less and less

[silasw]

We had a good first date, I think. I dont kiss on the first date though, had some bad experiences so maybe that lead to it?

[Asker]

humm I don't know really time will reveal everything

[silasw]

Dont know. I left it with telling her that I'm looking for something more consistent