Why would someone lie about not having an instagram account?

[sheikalana]

So I've been dating someone for a while now, more specifically for the past nine months. When we first met I asked him if he had an instagram account and he said no. Yesterday out of nowhere I found his instagram account which is private and I cannot understand why would someone lie about this. He doesn't seem very active since he only has a few posts but I cannot see what type of content he posts because it's a private account.

[Samoht_Sirrom1]

Not criticising just curious...

First how do you find something that you would have no reason to look for? (An Instagram Account that "doesn't exist")

Second if it's marked as private how did you find it and how are you so sure it's his? (After if it's the name I'm sure that unless it's a unique name there is at least a fair chance that someone elsewhere it)

Third assuming that you verified the second wasn't the case why would you have been looking for something that according to your boy friend doesn't exist?

Fourth what is the date it was set up? If it was set up After you asked the question he didn't lie to you. (If someone does something after the fact then it's different then doing it before hand and denying it). Example "Did you take eat any cookies today" "No mommy I didn't"... Goes upstairs takes out the cookies he his earlier and then eats them, versus having cookie crumbs on his lips and saying "No mommy I didn't" it is a fine line but the line does exist.

Fifth when was the last time it was updated? (After he said he didn't or before) If before he may have actually forgot he made it...

If it is his, has been there, was recently updated then he flat out lied to you... In which case there is only two reasons I can see.

One he wants at least one private medium where he can talk about things without being judged by his girl friend...

Two he lied so he can use it to talk to other people that you may not approve (such as a gang banger, drug dealer or another woman)

[sheikalana]

Okay, first of all he's not my boyfriend we just been dating.

Second I was looking for it because I just wanted to confirm if he was telling the truth or not. And he's constantly taking pictures which made me think why is he constantly taking pictures and editing those pictures if he doesn't even have social media? Turns out he has.

Third even though it's a private account I can see that's him on his profile picture and that's him for sure because he's brother tagged this account in one picture with him.

Fourth I can tell he's been having this account for a long time because the picture where he was tagged was posted in 2016.

And lastly I don't know how often he uses his account because he has a private profile.

[Samoht_Sirrom1]

Okay so if your not his girlfriend I guess he's not obligated to tell you anything (though he should have just said none ya business instead of no)

next if you are already suspicious enough of him to try to find out (before being his girl friend) you should probably not even bother with the guy.

It could be that he wanted to keep them in his phone to "always remember you" and he crops them in order to save space on his phone/SD card.

So I'm guessing that either you and his brother are friends or you decided to go to the brothers profile to see if you could find proof that the person you're saying has an Instagram account (again if you're that suspicious... Leave now)

Why not ask his brother how often he's on? (Though brother will probably mention it to his brother at some point) or create a fake account and reach out to him and ask for an add them read for yourself what he uses it for.

[sheikalana]

No, I'm not friends with his brother. I don't know any of his family not friends it was a very random situation because I found his profile through his brother's profile. And the fact that I'm not his girlfriend is why I've been questioning myself if I should address this or not. I'm currently stranded outside where we both live but when I'm back I'm planning on breaking things off because during this time I've caught a few other red flags.

[Samoht_Sirrom1]

Never settle for less then you deserve.

[sheikalana]

That's correct. Thanks a lot.

[DCooper]

He might not have admitted it if he rarely uses it, and didn't want to lead you to expect responses from him if you post or comment there. But in my opinion you're being smart to verify anything you can in order to gage how trustworthy the guy is. If this one concerns you, why not simply ask him directly about it?

[sheikalana]

Because I'm not his girlfriend we were just dating and I'm not sure if I should be concerned about it or not.

[DCooper]

True, but that early phase is the time when you want to be gaging your level of trust in his word though.

[sheikalana]

True that and during the past few months I've been noticing some red flags I think is time for me to break this off with this guy.

[DCooper]

Good job keeping an eye out for red flags, and not getting all emotionally invested and ignoring them.

[19vetteman91]

I hate to say this but my opinion is to leave him cuz he is hidding something. as time goes on and if you look harder I bet you will find. More unknown to you accounts that he is hidding

[sheikalana]

Very true. That's exactly what I'm gonna do once I go back home.

[blutwolfe]

probably just a ghost account, why does it matter so much lol

[sheikalana]

That's the thing I don't know if I should be concerned about it or not. I don't know if I should confront him about it or not. Maybe I'm just making a big deal out of nothing.

[bklynbadboy1]

Either he didn't have any account when you asked him or there's something on there he doesn't want you to see

[sheikalana]

He already had an account because I found his account through a post he was tagged in and the picture was posted in 2013.

[KeepxTrack]

I dunno. Maybe you're metabolism isn't that good... that's just me

[sheikalana]

Hahahahahahaha I think you answered the wrong question XD

[KeepxTrack]

Yeah, I was trying to answer another one my bad haha

[KeepxTrack]

I think bc he's prob not into you, or he just doesn't wanna reveal personal info for safety reasons

[sheikalana]

It's alright. Well, his safety reasons and him pulling away made me lose interest.

[spartan55]

Is it possible he didn't have an account when you originally asked him, and now he does?

[sheikalana]

That could be possible if I didn't found out his account through an old post where he was tagged that picture was posted in 2016 means that he already had an account when I asked.

[spartan55]

Wow, stalker.

[sheikalana]

Well, seems like I had reasons to stalk.

[ChocoBrownieMonster]

Social media ruins relationships.

[ChocoBrownieMonster]

When a guy adds you on Instagram it's not his account he worries about, it's what you're doing on yours. 🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄

[sheikalana]

That is very true but I don't understand why did he had to lie about it either. If he had told me yes I have a social media account but let's not follow each other I would totally understand but finding out that he's lied to me about it makes me feel confused. In fact our relationship has been very peaceful and I know is mostly because we don't follow each other on social media.

[ChocoBrownieMonster]

Then why ruin it, are you even sure he lied? What if he made one during to see what all the fuss is about

[sheikalana]

He did lie because I found his instagram account through a very old post from a few years back.

[ChocoBrownieMonster]

Add him and see what he does ☝️

[sheikalana]

That's what I was thinking but then he would want to know how I found out his ig account LOL.

[ChocoBrownieMonster]

Why ask for his Instagram in the first place? I tell girls I can't remember my username and they still persist on suggesting I send it to them. Then there is no 2nd date as I ignored their request. They also tell me they want an online relationship aswell 🤦 totally dumb. I know exactly what girls do, play games, encourage jealousy, use guys to get other guys. Probably the worst I've seen is a girl with a male best friend on Instagram like they are dad and daughter 🤦 he spends all his money on her. Good luck to her dating guys haha

[sheikalana]

Because he asked to see my ig so I casually asked him if he had an account too.

[ChocoBrownieMonster]

Yeah that's not right then, confront him.

[mrgspoter]

Maybe he spy's on you did you hide that from him fact your there, so he's looking see what you doing?

[sheikalana]

No, he's not spying on me I'm sure of that. He knows from day one that I have an ig account but when I asked if he also had one he said no and now after 9 months I found his ig account.

[mrgspoter]

Don't even know what people use it for, is it a dating app why are you on there if it bothers you about him being there too?

[sheikalana]

Instagram is not a dating app is just a social media.

[mrgspoter]

I though it was for girls doing can shows n stuff like this for money?

[sheikalana]

No, that's another type of social media.

[mrgspoter]

I only know it as a thing for gals asking for money to be nude or do cam shows or just to get free stuff all the time of guys.

[sheikalana]

That's not instagram.

[mrgspoter]

Just looked I know the app I stopped useing it for the above reasons

[sheikalana]

I've never heard of anybody using instagram to get money from people but okay.

[mrgspoter]

Yea they have profiles on anything like Instagram and links to outher sites that they ask for gifts and money or cards not always for getting nude, how don't you know things like that perhaps it's more the woman doing it I guess

[sheikalana]

Ye probably.

[Yash0012323]

I am using Facebook Snap instagram hangout etc any one wants to talk ask me out

[Lucifer_666]

Maybe he's a player.

[sheikalana]

Maybe.

[Lucifer_666]

Maybe he's following a bunch of Instagram models and doesn't want you to know.

[sheikalana]

What's the fuss about it? I also follow a bunch of guys and I don't see anything wrong about it.

[Lucifer_666]

Okay, did you ask why he lied?

[sheikalana]

Nope I didn't. I don't know if I should ask because we're just dating.

[Lucifer_666]

If the person you're dating lies to you that's a red flag. I would ask him.

[sheikalana]

I know. I need to figure out how to bring that topic because I don't want this to turn into an argument.

[Lucifer_666]

Just say something like "I saw your Instagram". Basically mention it so then he would have to explain himself.

[asshole_]

They didn't want to admit they do/don't