Just wanted to rant and get an opinion from strangers as it feels less judgy than talking to friends sometimes?

[Anonymous]

So basically 2 months ago I deleted this guys number/unfollowed him from all social media because he asked me out on a date and then didn’t even bring it up again and went out with his boys on the day (I’ve known him for a very long time and always thought we would end up together so was obviously really hurt) when I unfollowed him he sent me a cocky message saying it was nice speaking to me. I then went on a vacation for 3 weeks and during this time he had watched all my Instagram stories even though I unfollowed him and made him unfollow me too so he was obviously searching my insta handle. He has also been watching my snapchat stories which I also removed him from (he comes up as ‘other snap chatters’ so clearly he hasn’t deleted me). I know he hasn’t actively reached out or messaged (his communication skills aren’t the best baring in mind which is why we’re in this situation lol) but does any of this mean anything/is he trying to get my attention? Or is this just what guys do for the sake of it? :/. Because I personally find it weird and wouldn’t check up on what he’s doing especially if I knew he was going to see

[JPrez]

My guess is that he likes you and finds you attractive BUT he has other stuff going on and you are not a priority to him. He has put you on the back burner as someone he might pursue on his time and terms. He might have a girlfriend or just a friends with benefits and is enjoying his easy life and having fun. If you want him, you’re gonna have to be more aggressive in your approach. Otherwise, you could just wash your hands of him and move on.

[JPrez]

Thank you for MHO!

[Asker]

Lol you’re welcome. Was a slap in the face but very honest 😅

[JPrez]

No problem. Glad I could help! 👍

[CakesNCream]

He never had the decency to apologise, and just left a snarky comment when you made it clear that you were upset. I think its silly to unfollow someone unless you're actually done with them. But that's not the point, he should have apologised by now. You're right, it didn't need to be a big deal, but its become one because he dealt with it so badly.

[Gwenhwyfar]

Message him. Talk to him and work this out if you really like him (if you don’t like him that much just say Fuck it and ignore his ass).

[Asker]

Thanks for the reply I know it was a long read lol 😂 yeah you’re right I just feel that it could’ve been so easily fixed by him as he was the one being inconsiderate so I guess my pride won’t let me go back on my word knowing that I was the one who was done wrong 🤷🏻‍♀️ plus I’m really trying to work on not being so forgiving to red flags due to past experiences but it also messes you up when they pop back up with petty stuff like this

[Gwenhwyfar]

Do you still like him a lot?

[Asker]

Yeah I guess I do 🙄

[Gwenhwyfar]

I understand

Unblock him and message him. Find out why he was so inconsiderate as to blow off your date for a night with the boys (who hopefully weren’t even gonna kiss him 😂). If he seems sorry, maybe try and give him a second chance. If you still like him and he still likes you, you can probably work this out.