He'll never text first... Disinterested?

[Anonymous]

there's this guy I'm not dating who responds quickly when I text him but the fact he makes no effort to text me out of the blue is discouraging. But I feel like if he didn't like me at all he just wouldn't reply. How does a man think?

[John_Galt]

I would be very careful with my feelings if he doesn’t go out of his way to call you or text you.
men that want something usually go after it.
“now there are always exceptions, he may be shy or something... but eventually he should feel comfortable enough to start pursuing you”!!

[Asker]

In what time would he be comfortable?

[Asker]

So far we’ve texted less than 10 times in total

[John_Galt]

Oh, that’s pretty new! I would give it some more time! Does he text for long periods of time, once y’all do start texting?

[Asker]

Yeah..-usually I’ve been the one who ends the conversation. He once carried the conversation even though he vould just not bother ( after my dry text lol)

[Asker]

But If I wrote him simple stuff like congratulations he just says thanks. But if I wrote something to him after that then we would have a good conversation.

[John_Galt]

I would give it a few weeks and see how it goes. If he doesn’t come around and start reciprocating the way you want... then maybe back up and punt”!

[Asker]

by the way I’ve texted rarely like every 2 weeks... what do u think? is he just so dence that he doesn’t know that I’m interested in him? Should I text him more often?

[John_Galt]

Do you ever see him in person? Like do y’all work together or go to school together or do y’all only text?

[Asker]

No we don’t see in person ( he has seen me in perso. But that was long time ago). We live in the same city.

[John_Galt]

I gotcha. Well. That’s up to you. Just feel it out. If he isn’t texting you first. You don’t want to just keep texting him over and over. But at the same time of you like him... you want to kind of insert yourself in his life a little bit.

[Asker]

I’ve reached outbto him the last 4 times. I think I’m just going to ignore him...

[John_Galt]

Sounds like a good plan. Just be strong and stick to it!!!

[Asker]

Do u think making him jealous will work lol?

[John_Galt]

Grrrr.. there is no way for me to know. I just don’t know the guy. That’s normally a good play though. Do y’all follow each other on social media?

[Asker]

Yeah

[Wise4myage]

He might not like texting or is too shy, but just ask him why he never text you first.

[SavageGirl101]

You guys aren’t dating so he has no obligation to text u first ❤️

[Asker]

But wouldn’t he if he was interested?

[SavageGirl101]

Actually no cause U guys aren’t dating he’s probably talking to other girls hun🥺

[SavageGirl101]

But actually your right in a sense when a boy wants to talk to u and is interested he’ll blow your phone up and that’s not what he’s doing so he’s not Into u

[lil_a]

He might just be busy or is not interested