Overly clingy and emotional, grounds for breakup?! (Page 2)
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You should at least tell him what you want, and what you don't want. Guys don't automatically know exactly what's going on in your head. If you tell a guy he's clingy, and it bugs you, he'll back off. I had a girl break up with me for the same reason, if she would have said, I want to slow it down, or why don't we ever do this, I would have realized I was smothering her, and I would have changed. It was annoying that she just broke up with me without ever telling me what she wanted.
Maybe she didn't want to try to change you. That's what I'm debating about too. I can tell him all the reasons why I don't think it'll work but do I want someone to bend over backwards for me? That's not fair to you. Why should you have to change to please someone? Shouldn't they accept you for who you are?
I guess if it was reversed, and he told me things he didn't like about me, I'm not sure I'd change for him. So why would I expect him to change for me?
yeah guys dont' automatically know everything. you've got to tell him. given the choice between you telling him and you dumping him, I'm sure I know which one he'd choose. you're just the indecisive type. that's all.
Was he interesting and fun when you first started dating the guy? I know a guy being emotional and clingy is a turn off for most women, but when a guy opens up like that it means he likes the girl. If you feel smothered, and feel like he's too "emotional" you really need to tell him to pump the breaks, and I guarantee he will back off. It's not so much about changing who he is, it's just letting him know what you want.
"If you tell a guy he's clingy, and it bugs you, he'll back off."
If you tell him to back off he's also likely to close himself off from you more and more each time you tell him to back off, as with each time he sees that he cannot be who he really is without being told to back off. So he will become less and less open as time goes on.
Seems to me this guy is not right for you. You want a guy who wants to see the world and do cool adventerous things. I think he's not a good match for you.
I've been thinking about maybe it's time to stop being the adventurous one. Time to grow up and settle down a bit. Maybe he would be a good influence that way. In my 20s it's fine, but I'm approaching my 30s now. Things are different.
Yeah but have you travelled around the world yet? Seen the grand canyon? Rome and Venice? Gone to the beautiful nation of Autralia? Been to Paris? Whatever it is that you're adventerous side wants to do... I dunno' I just think that if you want to do something like that you should do it, otherwise you may end up regretting it later on.
I have done about 8 of the 9 things on your list. :)
But the world is so big, and yah it's amazing to see that stuff, but what does it mean? I have goals in life, but I also want to share my life with someone when I get old. Yeah I'm independent but being taken care of isn't such a bad thing. I may be a tomboy but I'm still a girl at the end of the day.
you live one life...you don't get to start over and say OK this time around I won't settle down...life based around a relationship is dumb ...relationships should be the product of living your life
seems like my types...why don't you leave him and give him my number...
Lol!
LOL, I think you may have the 'best answer' of all.
Someone elses trash is someone elses treasure - antique dealer
nobody is taking me seriously... sigh...
What a great answer!
@QA: If you dump him, please give him her number.
agreed
love this comment I kinda like clingy guys
I wish I had a guy who would care about me and was emotional and clingy, I have had the complete opposite. Some do not know a blessing when they have one.
No. he isn't your guy. There is nothing wrong with him or you it just isn't going to happen. Be nice and break his heart now.
The gut is never wrong in a relationships. EVER.
yay downstar...thats how I rate myself the more downs the more close to the truth youve hit
Only you can decide that, you got to ask your self if your happy with him right now.
Have you brought this up in front of him before?, if not then do so first before making adecision,let him know how you feel :D.
Go ahead and dump him. He will just find a sweet girl more worth his time.
i hope I never end up like that... but seriously. you need to tell him what you said on here. at least give him a chance to figure things out/change things.. then you can figure out where to go from there.
Tell him how you feel and if he doesn't do sh*t, then break it off
After six months, his niceness will sink in but he needs to go.
it was kinda like that with my ex, I'm more happy single without him and I was with him. without time apart there will eventually be nothing else to talk about and everything just got boring
He sounds perfect for someone else, honestly. It'd be a favor to both of you to dump him.
Yeah, I think you're me. And, having been in a similar situation, I think you're going to find yourself getting restless pretty soon. There are a lot of nice guys in the world, but just that trait doesn't make a good relationship. It might make for a long one, but in the end that could be worse.
Yeah, it's you and not him. He's mature and you're still young and reckless and immature and not ready to settle down. Best to move on.