Boyfriend always borrows car?

[happycamper1]

My boyfriend drives a Leaf (electronic car), so when he goes on roadtrips, he asks to borrow my car. The problem is that he is putting on a ton of miles on my car. He lets me use his Leaf while he is gone, but if he is gone for some time, using his Leaf is a pain since I can't charge it at my house (my outlet doesn't have the correct voltage), and I have to charge it some place else. He is using my car for a three-day campout with the guys this weekend. Since there are five guys going, I don't understand why he can't carpool with one of them. He told me it was because he wanted to make some other stops on the way and get there earlier than the other guys. I think, though, I need to put some boundaries with him and borrowing my car. Do you think I am being unreasonable if I tell him next time to carpool? Wear and tear on a car cost money.

[MrOracle]

I think either he needs to help you out financially with your car or he needs to make other arrangements - such as renting a car. You are absolutely right - he's putting wear-and-tear on your car, which wears everything: tires, brakes, suspension, seals, hoses, CV joints, requires more oil changes, filter changes, etc. That's real money, and it's why it would cost more than just gas money to rent a car.

If he gave you $200 (or some reasonable number) every time, then that could be applied to the eventual costs of maintenance and depreciation, and that would perhaps be fine. But I agree that he's taking advantage of you, and if it was once a year, maybe no big deal, but if it's a regular thing, then that needs to be addressed.

[MannMitAntworten]

Wear and tear cost a shitload. Tell him he needs to cover mileage cost. I’d definitely say something, bit then again I would never ask to borrow my girlfriend’s car. He should figure out all the Leaf charging spots for the trip rather than always use your significantly more practical car. Tell him, trade in his nuclear squirrel for something practical.

[John_Galt]

if we was paying for all your cars maintenance, helping pay the note, helping buy tires... all that. That would be one thing. But hell yeah you can set up some boundaries about your car. It’s “your car”. It’s kind of douchy that he isn’t putting enough thought into this to realize that it’s a big imposition on you!

“and if he needs it that often... he needs to just buy an actual car”!

[Jamie05rhs]

No, you're not being unreasonable at all! Make his ass carpool. (They should all be carpooling anyway. It's better for the environment and causes less crowding and less pollution in the forest.)

Also, if he leaves you with his leaf, he should let you stay at his house so you can charge it overnight.

[spartan55]

Hell no you aren't being unreasonable! I'd say you are his girlfriend, not a rental car company, right?

[GiventoFly01]

Your boyfriend is actually a girlfriend if he drives a leaf lol

[In_Trance]

What's the point of having a cute little name for something if nobody knows what it is and you have to call it what it actually is anyway? I don't understand that logic

[jamesgoldman]

Tell him to ditch the leaf or tell him to buy something for trips