Husbands female friend blocked me on social media, but why?

[Anonymous]

Long story short. Through husband huge party for his bday and his female friend came. He spent the party with her until he tried whispering in her ear that she was his wife now. I was standing right there. Once he realized that he immediately went to sleep and the party slowly ended. After that night they continued to talk secretly and he would never mention her. Even texted the whole day of our anniversary. I was friends with her on FB and IG but just realized she blocked me on all platforms. I want to ask them both why. Am I wrong for feeling like there is something behind this?

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Meant Threw not through lol

[Wise4myage]

She wants him for herself and she’s likely jealous of you as well. But your husband is a snake in the grass, who can’t be trusted.

[Asker]

Husband a snake in the grass... hmmmm... I feel this so deeply. We've been together 13 years and on multiple occasions he has connected with other females on an emotional level but we hardly talk. I'm only here today because he keeps promising to change but those promises have become old to me. Seems that instead of changing he is just finding new ways to communicate. I've went through the phase of checking his phone but he erases messages so I realized there is no point. If I mention her to him he will tell me he doesn't talk to her and all he does is work and come home. She is his old co-worker (worked together until COVID-19 shut down jobs). And him saying he only works and comes home... he has always done that... but he also ALWAYS finds a way to communicate with someone if he really wants to. Just too much!!!

[Wise4myage]

The only change left to be made is you filing for divorce.

[Cynicaldreamer]

"He spent the party with her until he tried whispering in her ear that she was his wife now." The fu-
Why are you still with that scum bucket? My radar is going off: that guy is up to no good!

I'm just going to be honest with you: I'd ask him is he happy with you and your marriage. Now I have nothing against platonic friendships with me: I have several. But we're JUST friends and their girlfriends and wives know and trust me... mostly due to good communication and respect for their relationships.

With that being said, the way your husband's friend behaved (blocking you) along with his behavior is... suspicious. That's why I said to confront them first before jumping the gun. Though if he seems distant from you and rather talk to his "friend" than you, his wife?

Might be time for a divorce...

[Asker]

Why am I still with him... see this is where it gets difficult. Other than his obsession with other females attention he is a good man. I've told him in the past that I would rather separate from him and be friends than to lose him for good because I end up despising him. He claimed he will change because he doesn't want to lose me. He makes it seem to the outside that we are a power couple, yet shady behind the scenes.
I've told him many times that I don't mind the whole platonic friend (there are boundaries) thing as long as I am a part... and I only request that because of his past dealing with other female "friends". That is why I was friends with the female that blocked me... because I wanted him to see it was cool if they were just friends. Her and I would talk here and there... asking how each other was. We became friends before his bday party, I even baked for her for Christmas. I wanted them both to know I respected their friendship... I just needed them to respect our marriage. After the party where he tried whispering in her ear, I asked him if he felt some kind of way about her and he said, "not at all". At this point is where they started talking A LOT via text.. I would see hundreds of texts on the phone bill but he would erase their messages. When I confronted him about it he would just get mad at me.

[Asker]

Something else that happened very recently is a childhood friend of mine (male) would reach out to me periodically. We would talk for a few days and then not for a week, month, whatever. Well when he would message me he would often start off a conversation with, hey beautiful. A few times he made comments about how he wishes he would have made his move when we were younger. I've always known he has a crush on me but they are boundaries I would NEVER cross. Well anyways, my male friends girlfriend reached out to my husband saying that my male friend and I may be trying to get together. She never once reached out to me. So my husband asked me a few questions, of course I answered so honestly that my response damn near matched a message she sent him. My husband told me he wasn't comfortable with me talking to him anymore so I removed my male friend from everything. My male friend reached out again and I explained that my husband wasn't comfortable with us talking and I had to respect my husband's wishes. We have not talked since. I did reach out to his girl and she finally responded saying she feels how she feels and that is it. She then reached out to my husband again. He ended up messaging me telling me she doesn't want to talk to me. I seen they were friends on fb and asked that they not be and he lost it. Ended up deleting her but it was a hassle and he told me that because I didn't tell him that my male friend so called flirted with me, he can't trust me. Now this has lit fire under my ass because after 13 years of me basically begging for him to be loyal and stop with the female attention obsession that is very disrespectful to me and our relationship, now because out of that 13 years you hear of someone calling me beautiful you want to discuss"trust". Just blows my mind.

[Gripper1970]

No, I would be suspicious, OMG on your anniversary? YES ask him

[igaveyouanickname]

Sounds like cheating.

[lauragrl]

old people should not be on social media

[Asker]

Old? Lol

[In_Trance]

ask her why

[Asker]

I really want to... my thing is how. We never really talked, just a quick message here and there. How would I say I noticed she blocked me if I wasn't looking at her page or something... ya feel me.

[In_Trance]

Why would you follow/need to be followed be someone you can't have a conversation with?

[Asker]

Since the whole ordeal of him whispering in her ear and deleting all of their messages, I feel like if she is his so called "best friend" (his words) then she is gonna have to be my friend too.

[In_Trance]

Good luck with that

[Anonymous]

Beat her

[Asker]

Definitely not a fighter. Especially over a man.

[Opinion Owner]

It's not over a man it is over her disrespect.

[Asker]

I just wonder if him and her talked and decided it was the best decision to completely block me. Weird thing is it would always seem like they would be active at the same time or show not active for the same amount of time. Couldn't be coincidence when it happened over and over. This past Friday I noticed them both active on IG so I messaged him saying, "I see you on here lol" Saturday when I looked I was blocked... Just weird or another coincidence...