Are short guys delusional?

[Anonymous]

My brother in law is 29 years old and has been single pretty much his whole life. He's short, like 5'6. Pretty good looking but the problem is that he thinks he's capable of attracting a high quality woman, and he only has like one close friend and zero social life. He says he's only really sexually attracted to women that are at least a little above average looking and slim.

Am I overthinking this? Or is his preference completely fine?

[Anonymous]

First of all I know many short guys who have way above average looking girlfriends.

Secondly, your own looks and preferences has nothing to do with each other. Attractive person is attractive person no matter how attractive or unattractive the observer is. Unattractive person is no more attracted or obligated to be attracted to unattractive person than attractive person is.

Thirdly, there is a difference between preferring something, and thinking you can get what you prefer. Preferring something you can't have is completely normal, we all do it all the time, but thinking you can get something you can't, is delusional.

From what you tell it seems he never claimed he can get what he prefers, but only tells what he prefers (he's normal), but you are the one breaching the difference between those statements so you can call him delusional. (people do that all the time to make others seem dumber than they are)

Someone: "It would be nice to win a lottery".
Someone else: "Haha he's delusional, he thinks he can win a lottery!"

No he's not, he never said that, you just want to make it look like he's delusional because that's what humans (especially insecure ones) often like to do, to make others look worse than they are.

[aq121]

A good looking guy will want a good looking woman. If you were good looking, why would you settle with someone thats not good looking as well? Its a bit shallow, but the attraction is attraction. Look at all the good looking actresses and actors in Hollywood. Their partners are also good looking, it just matches and looks better as a couple. There are couples in which one person is unattractive, but they make up for it. That usually doesn't happen though. Being good looking is beneficial, being short is harder, but having good looks increases the chances as people tend to focus on another person's face the most. If he wasn't good looking as you say, then his chances would be shit.

[ZiZi_Bell]

Confidence is the most attractive quality a guy can have. Couple that with him actually being handsome and he's probably fine. The height may be an issue for some, but they're the minority.
So as long as his confidence doesn't become arrogance he should be ok.

[sheikalana]

Are you sure he's not seeing anyone? He could be secretly seeing anyone. Don't think too much about it that's his business.

[Squirts93]

He'll definitely find someone if he's good looking for his height. Most men want girls shorter than them (i honestly dont understand why though, girls with long legs are fine af) and most girls are quite short. His odds are about as well as any other guys.

[WindAtMyBack]

Nothing you said prevents him from getting an above average looking woman. Having zero social life makes it difficult, because to a large degree it's a numbers game. He needs some kind of way to meet people, but there are many ways to do that.

[Barbaric]

I'm shorter than him and I'm with a high quality woman. His lack of success has little to do with him being short. He sounds like a guy who lacks confidence and social skills, and will have a lot to do with it.

[lightbulb27]

it's about how he projects himself. If he gets that together, he's fine. If he's stuck in his little world, then he's in an imaginary world and has a lot to learn.

[Jean-Marie_Céline]

Meh, I'm tall just 162cm and had no problem getting into relationships.
The only woman who ever called me a dwarf was my mom.

[magiusX26]

i suggest staying out of his love life business unless he asks you to be in it. not saying that to be rude, but you dont know everyone's mind or prefferences. he very well may have a shot with such.

[Zelda_5]

You are so overthinking this. Let him have his preferences. Height has nothing to do with anything

[red324]

I'm 5'4" skinny and go for the same slender type women. I don't have any luck dating, but my social skills aren't the best when it comes to girls I've never met before.

[Anonymous]

Short guys are delusional and short sighted because they have got the short end of the stick. They always keep a low profile and seem to work under cover, usually taking a short cut to things. Never can they seem to see the long view.

[Cryptic-Game]

Not all short men are.

[JosyJosy]

Overthinking this.