Why would a guy be touchy-feely/flirty but won't make a move?

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and admit to the girl that he likes her and wants her to be his girlfriend? he shows all the signs of interest... compliments her, touchy, flirty, asks her questions, hangs out with her, etc.

so if he's confident enough to initiate touch... why isn't he confident enough to progress things and make a move? it makes it seem like maybe he isn't interested then?

Answer 1

1stranger | 106 opinions shared on Guy's Behavior topic.

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It's not about confident or self-confidence. He loves you so much that he's afraid of hurting you. You are both aware of this. And you love each other. Also believe that the bond between you is very strong. Even if you want to break that bond, it will not break from now on. What you need to do is approach each other slowly. Like the first kisses. Close your eyes. Firstly, let your lips approach each other. Then your lips meet. And then taste each other. Finally, let yourself go and enjoy each other. Don't hesitate and don't be afraid if you want him to be in your life (if he wants you in his life).

Answer 2

MecheD | 90 opinions shared on Guy's Behavior topic.

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Well I'd have to say some men are intimidated by you in that essence , and yes he maybe doesn't have the confidence to put himself on front street to be rejected. its some benefits to "being a friend" a lot of things just come off as being put in a joking manner. if he is hinting you haven't probably mentally put him at ease enough to express himself. Build him up as a man in general and watch he become more... but thats only if thats what you want.

Asker

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someone also mentioned a good point, if he's not intimated enough to touch me, why isn't he able to make the move? are guys confident enough to break the touch barrier but then not express how they feel?
MecheD

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Let’s be honest it’s always been that way from grade school. You would do things like touch or pick on people you found interesting a lot of things don’t go away. It’s easier to read people’s actions rather than their words so that’s maybe what he is looking for. It would be more comfortable if he got a signal that you like his touches so then he may move forward.

Answer 3

Asker

someone also mentioned a good point, if he's not intimated enough to touch me, why isn't he able to make the move? are guys confident enough to break the touch barrier but then not express how they feel?

Answer 4

MecheD

Let’s be honest it’s always been that way from grade school. You would do things like touch or pick on people you found interesting a lot of things don’t go away. It’s easier to read people’s actions rather than their words so that’s maybe what he is looking for. It would be more comfortable if he got a signal that you like his touches so then he may move forward.

Answer 5

Gooblegobble | 100 opinions shared on Guy's Behavior topic.

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Kind of weird. Maybe he's just looking for a hookup so he wants to be touchy feely, but not actually engage you on a real level about a relationship.

Asker

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you think it could be nerves of being rejected? cuz he's not looking for a hookup, only bc he's been like this with me for almost 6 months now. he would've given up a while back if he was looking for sex, you know?
Gooblegobble

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If he's touching on you, he knows you aren't going to reject him. So if he isn't really dense, it just feels like a weird thing to do. Actually getting touchy is a big step where rejection will occur and he got past it, what's there to be nervous about?
Asker

11 d
yeah I see your point. we're also good friends so I don't know if that plays a role. where he probably thinks i'm just being friendly by accepting his touches or something
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Gooblegobble

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Nah, guys don’t touch their friends unless they’re weirdos. Guys touch because they like someone. If he can’t make a move he’s either got some kind of weird baggage or he’s after a hookup, in my opinion.

Answer 6

Asker

you think it could be nerves of being rejected? cuz he's not looking for a hookup, only bc he's been like this with me for almost 6 months now. he would've given up a while back if he was looking for sex, you know?

Answer 7

Gooblegobble

If he's touching on you, he knows you aren't going to reject him. So if he isn't really dense, it just feels like a weird thing to do. Actually getting touchy is a big step where rejection will occur and he got past it, what's there to be nervous about?

Answer 8

Asker

yeah I see your point. we're also good friends so I don't know if that plays a role. where he probably thinks i'm just being friendly by accepting his touches or something

Answer 9

Gooblegobble

Nah, guys don’t touch their friends unless they’re weirdos. Guys touch because they like someone. If he can’t make a move he’s either got some kind of weird baggage or he’s after a hookup, in my opinion.

Answer 10

Vulvalicker

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He’s doing everything he can to let you know he wants you but you’re just sitting there smiling like a cretin with your thumb up your ass. Why haven’t you made a move? We’re not mind readers

Asker

12 d
but I show him signs too like putting my head on his shoulder. isn't that a hint that I like him as well?
Vulvalicker

12 d
Not good enough. We don’t understand signs, signals, hints and can’t read minds. We only understand words that are plain and simple leaving no room for misinterpretation
Asker

12 d
ok got it. thank you!
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Vulvalicker

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Good luck

Answer 11

Asker

but I show him signs too like putting my head on his shoulder. isn't that a hint that I like him as well?

Answer 12

Vulvalicker

Not good enough. We don’t understand signs, signals, hints and can’t read minds. We only understand words that are plain and simple leaving no room for misinterpretation

Answer 13

Asker

ok got it. thank you!

Answer 14

Vulvalicker

Good luck

Answer 15

Anonymous

Because he doesn’t have the BAAALLLSS

Answer 16

Water_killer

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Practicing to get romantic.

Answer 17

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