This is not healthy at all.
I've got fond memories of my exes too. But I don’t have a playlist of songs for her. And if I did have that, I wouldn’t be updating it regularly. It sounds like those feelings are updating regularly too.
You deserve a man that will make you the star of his playlists as well. He may not be cheating. We will never know. But I’m sure he will explore whatever with the ex that she allows him to.
Songs touch us because they are true to our hearts or relatable. I can’t tell you what to do. But if my sister told me the same story, I would feel be mad if she stayed with him.
Cheating doesn’t have to be physical. If he betrays your love, it is still inexcusable.
Most Helpful Opinions
I think he's entitled to his feelings and his privacy. It's strange for him to have a playlist like that, but I think it's alright and arguably healthy to let himself feel those emotions so he can process it. Still, if it bothers you, it is worth bringing up.
You have that open-communication relationship and that's great. Talk about it. Let him know your concerns, your feelings. Obviously, be careful not to make any accusations and hear him out.
I know I'd be bothered and a little hurt to know the person I'm dating is still dealing with feelings for their ex, but I also recognize that it's normal to have those moments of nostalgia or "what if" thoughts. We can't help it and it doesn't mean we aren't happy or want anything to change. It's just a big part of our life that happened which of course left an impression that we carry with us. It's sad, it's beautiful, it's sometimes painful, and it's entirely human.
That's how I see it, anyway.
What Girls & Guys Said
Opinion
1Opinion
Why are you with a guy that's hung up on an ex?
Learn more
We're glad to see you liked this post.
You can also add your opinion below!