My boyfriend is acting weird on my graduation day, he spent most of the time complaining about things, what should I think of this?

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend of a years and so came to pick me and my Dad up for my "graduation ceremony", I asked him to come early so that he could please take pics of me to send to family abroad and to keep, he asked me "what happened to your friends?" "I have my limits as a man". He got to my house 15 minutes before the ceremony to pick me up (no flowers🤗). We got in the car, he said "wow" as of a compliment, in less than a minute he starts complaining and talking about something related to me🥴 mind u its 8 am and its my day of celebration.

We got to the school, he left meby myself, didn't stand next to me in the line, didn't care about taking pics with me, honestly I just felt a bad vibe all around him. He even said outloud that the graduates are doing too much blsh blah. Then, ceremony is done, in going down the stairs he didn't even care to support me (I was wearing 7" heels) his sister had to tell him to hold my hand. We went to eat (spent the whole time complaining about me not this not that to his sister in front of my dad), we got in the car to my house and he is still complaining and talking
about things that could be discussed some other time. As a pre-med student, who worked my butt off, I just felt like I didn't get the support that I think he could have provided just to be there, be happy for me, and show me that im appreciated. What do u guys think?

[Hangry22]

Like others said, this could be due to your education rn. Maybe he has bad experiences with graduation or maybe he had something else going on that he was getting irritated by everything and forgot about how you would feel. Anyways it was a jerk move.
If it's that he's being threatened by your career, it may not be completely his fault (speaking from experience). One of my friend's boyfriend was told by his guy friend that she would leave him once she becomes a doc since he's a nurse but that guy was cool and he trusted her. The same was felt with another one of my friends where the guy used to discourage her sometimes because he was scared he might feel inferior. But nonetheless he supported her and the guy is a really good boyfriend who truly loves her.
So don't break up over this thing. It may or may not be completely his fault if he has this inferiority complex. Make sure he knows you're upset and ask him why he behaved this way

[jennifer_bloom]

He is worried you will break up with him now that you have a bachelors of science degree and he sees your education and career as a threat to your relationship - It might mean he will have to work harder and earn more money to keep you in his life and maybe he is too lazy to do that - he may also be jealous you are getting more attention than him - I would consider breaking up

[Asker]

Yes, he has indireclty been telling me that he feels like he has to work harder but not for this reason. And you are right, my gut feeling has been telling me this.

[jennifer_bloom]

Your gut feeling could be warning you that this guy is bad news - there were times where I did not feel happy with another persons success but I was mature enough to put my feelings aside and offer them the support they deserved because it was the right thing to do - you should tell your parents about this and than break up with him - tell him his behaviour was disgusting and inexcusable and you no longer trust him

[Asker]

Yes, it is all about maturity and knowing to put your feelings aside and let someone have their ray of sunshine. I really feel sad that this happened to me, and I talked to my dad about he feels the same way. I will wait for a bit to think about this

[slatyb]

Why are you with Darrin Downer? Dump him, go to med school. You are a catch and can do much better.

My guess is that he is threatened by your success.

[Asker]

I feel the same way, my gut feeling tells me so