Girls, Um does anyone else's little brother perv on them?

[Anonymous]

My little brother is obviously perving on me when I am wearing my pj's or gym clothes and he does not seem to know how obvious it is, is this something you have experienced? How do you stop him?

I told my Mom and she just says "oh he's a boy with raging hormones right now" and "it's the testosterone in his body" which I think is a bs excuse for his lack of self control

I need to take matters into my own hands it looks like and my friends at school said to kick his nuts if he does it or at least threaten to kick his nuts and they all said that is what they do to there brothers if they annoy them or something and they always stop but I'm concerned I don't want to hurt his nuts badly I just want to use it as a deterrent and to send a clear message. Suggestions?

[Emii_Urashima]

I have a little brother who just turned 11 and he does that to me all he time. My mother thinks it is so cute and she giggles every time she sees him doing something like that. It is pretty normal in my culture.

[Asker]

Wtf why is this considered normal anywhere? And why are our mothers not more concerned!

[Emii_Urashima]

I am in Japan. My mother would probably wonder if something was wrong with him if he wasn't this way. LoL

[Asker]

That's f'd up.. that is the same situation I am in and I thought maybe kicking his nuts would shock him enough to make him realize I'm not playing.. otherwise I don't know because I have tried my mom and pushing him away or slapping at his face but he just giggles and doesn't learn

[btbc92]

That is not normal. I live over there, my son would be taught right from wrong. It is not normal. That is sexual perversions and this is why so many girls and children get raped sexually harrassed over there. Yet your government wants to know why nobody wants to date, get married or have sex? This is why. Do not accept that. Because that is how men will treat you, with no respect and abuse you. I feel sorry for you Japanese women who have to grow up with that perversions.

[Emii_Urashima]

Are you serious? A kid can't get out of his parents eyesight in the USA without the parent having to worry about the kid getting snatched up by some pervert. At 10 years old, I was taking the subway, alone and hanging out with my friends at the arcades and theaters in the largest city in the world. My parents did not have to worry about anyone abducting me. My country has almost half the population of the USA, but not even 5% of your sex crimes. I blame this mostly on the western religious upbringing. If you drill it into a poor little kids head that any type of sexual feelings or even masterbation will send you to a hell where you will be tortured by fire for eternity, that kid is going to grow up with some warped thinking. That is why priests become pedophiles and molest altar boys. Did you ever wonder why so many of them are that way? Also, what do you mean that nobody wants to date, get married or have sex? I don't know anyone like that. We have a problem with our birth rate because our men are working so much, mostly. You know zero about my culture so you don't need to feel sorry for us. I feel sorry for you americans. I have been there and I know how it is. I remember once when I was 11 years old and I was in California, I went to the mall with my cousin. I was constantly approached and catcalled by horny older guys. That would not happen in my country. I remember my aunt telling me I have to be careful there because boys are more perverted than I was used to back home.

[btbc92]

We live in America. We know how it is. As I heard about Japan. Sweetheart, you have to understand. Those men are sexually perverted, and they're far worse than the men here because that is not your culture. Your culture is hypersexualized and always has been, even with the acceptance of homosexuality. You don't Christian values, and anything remotely Christian is seen as religious, and many of you, no offense doesn't even know what it really means to do it God's way, because you don't believe in God. You serve many gods. And this is the price for it. "but not even 5% of your sex crimes" I promise you, you have way more, it's just hidden. Hidden so well, you display this in anime and manga. Telling us things many of you cannot fathom and yet, you have so many women underreporting such crimes. Because again, it's already acceptable in your country. So I am not surprised. That's why when my loved ones asked me if I was going to marry and date a Japanese Man? I told them no. I don't expect to because of this that we're talking about. Trust me I DO MY RESEARCH. And I can tell you that working so many hours is not the reason. These men are hypersexualized and have physical standards unrealistic your marrying anime characters and sexualized them too. Do you think I want to marry a man like that? Your not my daughter or sister. I wouldn't want you to be married to a man like that. I would want you with somebody who will love you, cherish you, sexually respect you and treat you right.

[btbc92]

No. As a Christian, I can tell this. A man who lusts is a man who lusts. Religion has nothing to do with that. You can read that in 1st Corinthians 7. God designed sex and marriage to be pure, between a husband and wife, a man and a woman who is legally married, and it wouldn't matter what age you wanted to marry. You wait until marriage, you marry early if sex is something you cannot wait for. You age of consent for marriage and sex is 13. So there is no excuse why you can't wait, why you can foster healthy friendships and developing purity and love in your relationships, not dabbling in porn or masturbation, going to work, and building a life together. Since college is most desirable, you mean to tell me you can't wait until after 18 and trying to build something to have the life you want? You have to know why men to pick and not just go after anyone. So no, your mom is wrong. It is tolerated and you're not allowed to say anything. I have been sexually harassed before and dealt with some form of assault before. And when I hear what happens to girls and women getting groped as I did and sometimes even raped and you can't even get the proper resources and raping American and foreign women like what happens to. So no. I am sorry to say, and it is no disrespect to you and the Japanese. You're not as safe as you make it. You promote this and endorse this, and then say "puritans" is the problem. While so many Japanese girls can't even keep one guy and dabbling in sexual activity so early.

[btbc92]

And it's normal for you. So how can I marry a Japanese man who isn't going to sexually respect me or abuse me? Please explain that to me as a Japanese. Because I am not Japanese. I don't know. Yet I had Japanese men even here sexualizing me and 1 almost could have raped me at 19. Another sexually harrassed me online at 20 talking about what he would have done to me sexually. Another about 3 years ago mad at me because I didn't give them what he wanted. Another asked me if I wanted a relationship and acted funny when I told him I was a virgin and Christian. Please explain this if you don't mind sharing. Since I am looking to move there one day, I think I have the right to know how to protect myself.

[Asker]

@btbc92 I'm sorry but... I have lived in Japan with my dad and I now live in America and honestly I felt much safer back in Japan (yes my dad is Japanese and he got married but they divorced because he was working 60 hours a week not because he likes anime or whatever you said)

It doesn't matter what country I am from because my brother is here either way and that is not a culture issue but yes I have had guys here touch me without my consent when it never happened when I was at home in Tokyo because guys were minding there own business

[btbc92]

Asker, I am not saying that. It is unfortunate but that is not a logical and rational reason to divorce. It causes more pain and heartache, and again, that is another reason why I refuse to be with anyone. Marriage is hard, but you made your vows. Together until death due you two apart. No matter what, your parents knew what is expected of them. Men in general today no longer have respect for women. That's the point I am trying to make. Because they haven't been taught right from wrong. It doesn't matter if it's outside of a relationship, in one or marriage. The men of the world today are hypersexualized and we as women are paying for it. This is why it is so hard for women and some men to have love today. They may do that to you. But I would not be surprised if they do that to me. If we women do not set the standard of how we desire to be treated, they will every woman that way if they themselves don't already share your morals. We have to put the foot or we will not be respected.

[btbc92]

How can we women say we are deserving of this or that and we don't show that? They cannot respect us if we do not respect ourselves and fellow women. That includes the men in our lives. That's not religious. That's common SENSE. Common sense and morality have been tossed out the window. Yet we're complaining about something we do have the power to do something about. You do not have to tolerate it. That is how I won respect, showing I had dignity and I wasn't somebody out in the street, and neither would you treat me like one. That is what attracts a real man to a woman. Men don't know how to act around a woman because were not showing and telling them. So many women allow this, this is why what we say and do goes by death ears. It's unhealthy and toxic. We experience today was not like this decades ago. Not in America. I don't know about Japan. but from what I've heard, it wasn't like this either.

[Asker]

@btbc92 um have men ever had respect for women? I think what my dad did was noble because he worked extremely hard and yet still didn't try to force my mom to stay when she was missing her home country and was struggling with him working so much? They both say they are happier and I am happy that they are no longer having fights every day.. I think it is more respectful that he let her be an adult human and have choice then forcing her to have a bad life for his sake

[btbc92]

Asker, theor adults. He couldn't force her to stay but she's the one that made her own decisions and she's the one salad at cause our own suffering. Your father did not deserve that. That is how marriage is and sadly people who can't handle marriage don't need to be married. Your father is a rarity. But that is not like most men today. Your father did not deserve what your mother had that. If she could not handle that then no offense she should have never married him. I would never do that to anyone. Because I'm sorry to tell you your mother was not being an adult. That's the reality of marriage. And it's clear that she can't handle it. If a person was miserable before marriage they won't be any happier in a marriage. It just sounds like your mom was not really happy. And marriage pretty much helped revealed that. That's what that tells me. There was nothing bad about what your father had done. He was a man he's supposed to work. That's how that goes. Your mom was not going to have a bad life. She just wanted what she wanted and she could not get what you wanted. That's not how marriage works. Marriage is not about what you want. It's about what you need to do. And you must do it together. That's marriage. That's why marriage is not for everybody and why everybody cannot have sex because of that reason. because once you have sex you already made a marriage with that person. That's why you shouldn't have sex before marriage. Because once you have sex than you already married.

[btbc92]

There are indeed respectable men. Your father is not at fault. Your mother's should have thought about that and she didn't. So the one who suffered more was not her. It was you and your father. It isn't to say that she didn't suffer. But she should know that you can't always get what you want in a marriage. That's why I hear especially we have premarital counseling because a lot of people do not know what to expect in a marriage. It is no disrespect to your mom, but your father does deserve better it's not his fault that he has to work. Is one of those reasons why a lot of people end up very unhappy later on in life because they are no longer willing to make sacrifices anymore. How your father sounds, it sounds like your father would have done anything to make sure you two was happy. And he wouldn't have been happy if you weren't. That's a man.

[Asker]

@btbc92 but the circumstances changed overtime she could never have expected what was to happen? He is happier now, she is happier now and my siblings are happier now so I'm not sure what you mean about Japanese men being disrespectful because they like anime or something or thay there is not Christian values? My moms first marriage was a Christian man from Florida and he ended up cheating on her with his high school girlfriend? I don't know why you are judging people so much on there ethnicity and beliefs when usually it is an individual issue

[btbc92]

I'm not judging anybody based on that. I'm judging based on the kind of mentality people have and this is why I caused the problem. I understand exactly where you're coming from. But this is less to do about this individual issues. But more to do about again if people were taught better concerning about that we wouldn't have this issue. However it just sounds like a gun your mom already had a lot of problems. Sadly you can see that we're going to anybody. I'm in no way judging Japanese men strictly. Cuz I know there are men who obviously don't do that. Especially those that are Japanese Christians themselves. But what I am talking about is that if you have a majority of a country that believes in these values then this is the problem you're going to have. Now concerning about your mom's first marriage, the problem is is that again no you cannot really all the time anticipate this would happen.

[btbc92]

But as the Christian man he should already know that what he's doing was wrong. So therefore it's not on your mom on that and it's really on a man that she married. But at the same time if she still carrying all that into her second marriage then that's another reason why the marriage supper. I believe you father definitely have tried but at the same time I love you mom always had issues it's just not healthy. What your overall saying I just think that they were not compatible but they got together because you have to come along and your siblings have to come along. But when you have those values that are not being respected in any place, you're going to have those problems. I like watching anime and stuff myself. But if you're watching pornography, if you're watching all that Hentai, you are inviting problems into your life. At that point I don't care what your ethnicity, belief system or whatever is. The same rules I tell for anybody I don't care who they are. If you do not share those values you would not be dating me. It's as simple as that. What I am saying it's because the country promotes this already majority will not be able to really do what needs to be done because of those reasons. That's why what the Opie had said is why she had said her mom will find it strange that a man is not being sexually perverse. Mainly your brother. What is still wrong. I don't care who does it. It is still wrong. If her first husband did that then he is not a person who has values. It's as simple as that. But there are ways to tell a lot of things.

[MillyRivers]

Oh my gosh girl! I'm honestly shocked that you haven't done it already! If it was my brother I would have ages ago!

[Asker]

So do you have a brother?

[MillyRivers]

No, the closest I have are boy cousins but if that where my brother he would have been kicked already lol

[Asker]

Oh so you would kick his balls if you were in my shoes?

[MillyRivers]

Yeah lol I would have a long time ago. No mercy from me at that point

[Asker]

Oh wow ok maybe i should lmao most of you on here think it will do the trick so maybe I will kick his balls to show him I'm not joking around

[MillyRivers]

Lol I doubt he'd do it again if you did, it really is just that effective, trust me girl lol.

[Asker]

So you have done it before to someone and it worked?

[MillyRivers]

Yeah some cousins and guys at my school

[Asker]

Oh xD well I think I'm going to do it when he gets home lmao

[MillyRivers]

Haha you get him! How long till he gets home? You'll have to tell me how it goes lol

[Asker]

He should be home tomorrow because he is out at a sleepover birthday party. When he gets home I'll wait until he is going to have a shower or something and I'll stop him and ask him something like "what is that on the roof?" And when he looks up I'll kick his nuts really hard and tell him that's for being a perv and that I'll do it again harder if he pervs again xD

[Asker]

@millyrivers Hey! Just a little update on what happened here. As we discussed in the comments I thought I would approach him instead of waiting until he does it again

So basically I waited until he got home from his sleepover party at his friends house and as he walked in the house acted all friendly with him to gain his trust. Then I told him I was going to show him something funny that he can do and I think this would be a good incentive and it was kinda brilliantly ironic, so I told him that I can do these hilarious photos of him with my bra over his face like bugs eyes and my underwear over his pajama briefs.

He laughed and sounded excited and I gave them to him and he put them both on and the cups covered his vision and I told him to flex and I would take a funny photo and he struck the pose! I had the perfect shot lined up and he wasn't going to flinch because he couldn't see it coming!

I just said "this is for being a little perv" and I just went for it and kicked right into his nuts so hard and the scream he let out when he screamed and fell was just ear piercing but so good and he just went down like a sack of potatoes lmao it was so good he is still on the living room floor right now and it's been like an hour and he's still crying and our mom is getting home soon and when she sees him sitting there crying he is going to be so embarrassed I don't even know if he will tell her the truth because he won't want to talk to her about his sister kicking his nuts into his stomach while he was wearing her bra on his head and underwear over his briefs lmao thank you for your advice! I have a feeling he will never bother me again after this one! XD

[MillyRivers]

Haha you got him good! I'm really glad you managed that! I'm sure his balls are sore and he will think twice about doing something like that now! I hope it showed you how easy it can be to deal with boys like that lol.

[Asker]

He hasn't done it since he got his nuts kicked lmao this is great! He's been hiding in his room crying for hours and my mom was asking me what happened to him and I said I don't know I just pranked him and he's upset that he fell for it probably 🤷‍♀️

It was so easy like you said all it took was one kick aimed at his nuts and he was down for the count and couldn't get back up lol

Thank you for your advice! I think this might have worked and when the little cry baby comes out of his room I will tell him to remember what he just went through and if I ever catch him perving on my again that I will do it even harder next time

[MillyRivers]

Haha if he's been crying like that since it sounds like you smashed his balls really good lol! I'm sure he won't bother you again after that and hey if he does, like you said you can just do it again even harder! I'm glad you realized how easy it is haha.

[Asker]

Oh I got him good i am so happy with the results xD thank you!

[MillyRivers]

No trouble at all glad it helped haha!, if you're high enough XP you should message me so we can chat!

[Asker]

I am not high enough xp unfortunately :/ I might see your advice around though and take it because you have helped me already

[MillyRivers]

Awh and I had a few questions I wanted to ask you! If you follow me I could message you! Glad it all went well though!

[MillyRivers]

Oh and thank you for MHO lol!

[TashaAmiee]

Oh! if you are continuing conversations with follows I would love to keep talking to you as well Asker!

[rachel776]

yes all my brothers were that way i think it happens to all girls

[Asker]

What did you do about it though? It is so absurdly obvious that he is doing it and its gross! He even does it in public and it makes it so awkward..

[lillianaustin]

tf, it's not normal, I don't have any younger brothers but if any of my older brothers did that, I would kick their a****

[Asker]

Lucky.. I wish I had a sister instead!

I've tried punching his arm and slapping at his face when I see him looking at my crotch or bum or chest but he just laughs it off so I was thinking I would say "hey what's that?" And point at the roof and then when he looks up I was going to kick his nuts and tell him that's for being a little perv and hopefully that will teach him because my mom isn't going to help me so I need to take matters into my own hands

[lillianaustin]

I have 2 older sisters

[lillianaustin]

you shouldn't tolerate such behavior

[Asker]

Lucky! Bet you don't have this problem!

[lillianaustin]

yeah, I don't, and maybe I can be like your sister, just a suggestion

[Asker]

Well I don't know if my plan will work because I've never actually kicked someone in the nuts before but I've seen it in movies and in shows and it looks like it's something he won't be able to ignore!

Do you think that idea will even work?

[lillianaustin]

I mean, I think it should, it'll be painful that's for sure

[lillianaustin]

and if he doesn't want you to do it again, then he should stop

[Asker]

Aw that is sweet! I do wish I had a sister

Do you think it is going to far if i kick his nuts? I just don't know what else i can do :/

[lillianaustin]

does he always keep doing it even after you ask him to stop?

[lillianaustin]

if yes, then no, you're not taking it too far

[lillianaustin]

it's just a suggestion, if you want

[Asker]

No he does not stop after I tell him to stop and he just giggles even if I punch his arm really hard and tell him to go away he will giggle and shrug it off and then do it again :/ I've even palmed right in his face and he just laughed and tried hitting me back

That's why I thought if I go for his nuts it will hurt him enough to make him rethink doing it and if I do it hard but not to hard then I will tell him if he does it again I will boot them inside his body and that he won't be having babies to really scare him off doing it. Do you think that would work and it's not to far?

[TashaAmiee]

Pfft sounds like he's long over due for a shot to the balls! Get him!

[Asker]

You really think so? How should I go about this? I've never done anything like it before

[TashaAmiee]

Of course I think so, he's been perving on you so time to show him why you don't do that.

Either 1. Wait until he does it again and just kick him in the nuts.
Or 2. Go into his room or wherever he is walk up to him and kick him hard in the nuts and tell him that's what he gets for perving on you and if he does it again it'll be even worse.

[Asker]

Oh yikes that is very direct. So I should kick his nuts by surprise? No warning or should I at least threaten him with it first? And should I actually kick his nuts directly or just like upper thigh and warn him that if he does it again I will kick his balls next time?

It's annoying but I also don't want to hurt his nuts to badly because I still love him because he's my brother..

[TashaAmiee]

I wouldn't warn him, I'd just do it. That'll get him to back off. Directness is a fair approach and if you want it to stop you have to be firm. I'd go with option 2 tbh. Make him know you *will* kick his balls

[Asker]

So kick his thigh right next to his nuts and tell him that I WILL kick his nuts directly next time if he does it again? Or just straight in his nuts the first time?

And you mentioned approaching him first rather then waiting for him to do it again. So I should just kick his nuts out of nowhere and tell him why I did it or should i wait until i catch him perving again?

I just want to make sure I have the best outcome so I don't have to deal with this ever again

[TashaAmiee]

I think you should walk up to him and hit him in the balls. Kick him good and hard and tell him you'll do it harder if he pervs on you again. That will get it through his head. That's the most direct effective approach
Go up to him and kick him in the balls and tell him why you did it. Hope that helps :D

[Asker]

Oh ok if you think that isn't to harsh xD have you done that before to someone? Is that why you know this will work?

What is the best way to kick them? Top of my foot, toes up or shin? Or some other way even just to be creative lmao I'll wait until he gets home from his friends birthday sleepover and I'll kick him when he doesn't expect it 😆 I'm not exactly sure when but I want to make sure he remembers it!

[TashaAmiee]

Yup pretty much lol. I've had to get guys to back off me before and especially when I was younger. A shot to the nuts is a great deterrent for any boy. Top of the foot works best but obviously a shin hit would still work.
Glad to hear you'll make him remember it ahaha!

[Asker]

Oh ok! I guess I will give it a go when he gets home xD I think I will get him before school when he puts his baggy sports pants on so no zippers or anything get in my way and I'll aim with the top of my foot and really really hard or just enough to show him I'm serious? Don't guys always try to block or protect that area though when they see something going towards there balls instinctively? How can I avoid that?

[TashaAmiee]

I'd do it pretty hard enough to put him on the floor. If you haven't done it before he shouldn't expect it so make sure you kick fast or even when he's not paying attention / turned around. If he's surprised it'll hurt more cause his guard won't be up!
Haha it's gonna be a rough start to his morning lol!

[Asker]

He will never expect it but guys just naturally cover that area so I need to tell him there is something on the roof or something and when he looks up I will kick his nuts really hard xD or maybe even tell him I have a surprise and blindfold him with a towel or something and tell him to stand still and then I have so much opportunity to just really land it right on target as hard as I can

[TashaAmiee]

Hahaha both of those ideas are great honestly

[Asker]

Hey @tashaamiee ! Just a little update on what happened here. As we discussed in the comments I thought I would approach him instead of waiting until he does it again

So basically I waited until he got home from his sleepover party at his friends house and as he walked in the house acted all friendly with him to gain his trust. Then I told him I was going to show him something funny that he can do and I think this would be a good incentive and it was kinda brilliantly ironic, so I told him that I can do these hilarious photos of him with my bra over his face like bugs eyes and my underwear over his pajama briefs.

He laughed and sounded excited and I gave them to him and he put them both on and the cups covered his vision and I told him to flex and I would take a funny photo and he struck the pose! I had the perfect shot lined up and he wasn't going to flinch because he couldn't see it coming!

I just said "this is for being a little perv" and I just went for it and kicked right into his nuts so hard and the scream he let out when he screamed and fell was just ear piercing but so good and he just went down like a sack of potatoes lmao it was so good he is still on the living room floor right now and it's been like an hour and he's still crying and our mom is getting home soon and when she sees him sitting there crying he is going to be so embarrassed I don't even know if he will tell her the truth because he won't want to talk to her about his sister kicking his nuts into his stomach while he was wearing her bra on his head and underwear over his briefs lmao thank you for your advice! I have a feeling he will never bother me again after this one!

[TashaAmiee]

The way you got him was brilliant! I hope both of you learned a lesson. Him not to be a little pervert and you that you don't have to tolerate his behaviour at all!

[Asker]

Oh I got him so good xD played on the living room floor for hours rolling around and then when he knew our mom was getting home soon he crawled into his room and has stayed in there crying all day lmao I even heard him throw up all of his cereal from breakfast which I did not know that would happen but my mom is asking what happened to him and he won't let her in his room and I just told her that he is just mad because I pranked him and he fell for it and she just laughed and said he is such a baby sometimes and I said tell me about it lmao

Thank you for your help! It was the best solution I think

[TashaAmiee]

Lol you kicked him hard enough to make him barf? That's funny careful if you want to be an aunt lol! But at leasts he knows who is in charge now

[Asker]

Bahaha I didn't know that would happen xD oops. He told my mom that it was because he ate to fast but I think it was because I kicked his nuts so hard

Oh well if he wants kids of his own then he better respect me because he should know that I can take that away from him if he pervs on me again lmao

Yeh exactly! If he won't accept a slap in the face or a no from me then he will have to accept that his nuts will get kicked my me from now on and that tips the scale to me so much now because he can't even do it back to me xD

[TashaAmiee]

Oh it for sure was because you kicked him in the nuts hard lol, guys can get sick from it. Poor things.

Haha I love your attitude towards it, if he wants kids it's his responsibility not yours! You go girl! hahaha

It's so funny he'll probably try to kick you back at one point but you can just laugh at him!

[Asker]

Oh dam really? He can puke from it to lmao how weird.

Well it is his responsibility he is the one with the nuts on the outside of his body lol if he wants to be a perv on his sister then he is putting his future kids on the line lmao

Lol if he tries to kick me back I am going to laugh so hard and maybe even say "my turn now" and watch him run for his life lol

[TashaAmiee]

Yup it's a very sensitive spot as you can see lol.

LOL fair enough ain't your responsibility to protect his future kids, it's his!

I'd laugh with you if that happened!

[Asker]

Lmao he is hiding from me now and he tried to sneak into the bathroom to shower earlier and he speeded up when he heard my door open

[TashaAmiee]

Haha getting him good and hard in the balls after he gets out of the shower would be hilarious!

[Asker]

Oh daaaaam that would be brutal 😂 I will give him mercy until he steps out of line again though I think. So then he associate getting his nuts kicked with things I don't like so it will make him stop doing them lmao

[TashaAmiee]

Haha that sounds like a great way to control him lol!