I have been dating someone for 3 years but he tells everyone we have problems. He creates these problems himself. Two days ago he changed our picture and put single on his fb profile even though we have a baby together and live together. I said, his actions hurt me and he said he didn't know how to change it to being in a relationship again. He sent me a text from work cursing, saying he didn't have time for "fuck games". So, I changed the profile back to how it was from desk computer. He came home mad, balling his fist like he wanted to punch me. Lately, he picks a fight for anything. Storms out without saying where's he's going. Next day, he pretends like nothing happened and says that I need to chill. If I don't chill; I need to get out his house with baby. Then he says other times he doesn't want me to ever go. Buys furniture to make the house more homey for us. It drives me crazy cause he seems bipolar. He loves me one day but the next I'm the problem and I'm stressing him. He wants to be single. Is this narcissistic behavior? Is he just playing with my feelings. Gaslighting? He says he would never cheat and is not cheating but his behavior is alarming. I heard him talking about me with his mom. He didn't know I was outside too. She doesn't like me even though I've never met her. But her son makes it seem like I'm a horrible person. I've have bent backwards for this man. I'm respectful. I listen. I'm aware of his feelings. I literally tell him he's amazing. And everything will eventually turn out ok. Instead, I receive nothing but negative comments. Judgement. Criticism. Anger. Confusion with his emotional instability. His put downs. I feel like he's wasting my time until he finds the person he actually wants to marry. Then as he has it all planned he will try to kick me out with no remorse. He always says I wish I never met you or dated you. Following day, I'm the best ever. Can I have some advice from men please.
Is this treatment normal?
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