Would my friends with benefits be able to handle himself, out in public with me. He's willing to try the new, just being friends and nothing else?

[Anonymous]

So lately, I have been in a battle with fighting my feelings off for my current friends with benefits. And, trying my best not to be a nuisance to him. So, here and there, I tend to write him these longs ass paragraphs, expressing myself and being very vulnerable. And, I guess, I just want more of his time and his attention, basically just wanted him to be consistent at all times. It's like, he 1 minute shows me that he's interested in me, then the next, he pulls away and goes MIA. So, today aka earlier this morning and hours ago, we had a discussion and a conversation. He admitted and told me that he likes me. But, said that he apologized for not making the time for me. He also said and mention, about how he has a son and how he works these random crazy hours and how he is trying to get his life and himself together to become a better person and basically he has a lot of other shit going on. He also even confessed and told me, how he is physically attracted to me, he's like. I know, that it seems like, that is all I want, when I come around. Is to have sex with you. But he said and mention and said that we have good sex, chemistry. And that's the best thing as of the moment, between us that we have. So I was actually shocked but very relieved, like I'm not mad. Continue to keep reading update to question...

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actually I am happy that he was being honest, about something with me. But he did say, so I understand if do you want more time and I'm sorry that I can't give that to you right now. But I suggested, that him and I, one day next week or next weekend go to the movies, just as friends.

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. And he agreed and said he was down for that he just needed to find someone for his son to babysit. So I said, if you are able to go, we are just going to go as friends so no touching. And he agreed to that. But here's my theory. Knowing that he is, mostly attracted to me physically than emotionally. Would he really be able to keep his hands off of me, and is it okay for us to hangout outside of the bedroom. We already cuddle for the 1st time, this past weekend. So what's necessary and what's n

[Crissy_J]

So you want to fight off feelings for a friends with benefits, and your strategy is to friendzone him? That’s a demotion for him. I also don’t see the point. What is your goal moving forward with this? If you want to fight off feelings, it’s not going to happen by spending more time with this guy. You obviously like him, so figure out if it’s going to progress into a real relationship or not. If the answer is it’s not going anywhere, stop all contact and stop seeing this guy. This man sounds very busy and he has his hands full with being a father. Sounds like he likes having you around for sex, but isn’t sure he wants more. If that’s the case, you’re setting yourself up for heartbreak. These types of situations have expiration dates. Spending more time with him minus the sex makes zero sense to me. It’s better to just either make this officials or end it. Good luck.

[Asker]

Well bc I have someone else. I am in a open relationship. But I suggested but him and I will being just friends and he agreed. And he says that he's willing to go and he'll keep his hands off of me but him being physically attracted to me. I don't know.. but yes he has been very busy and he apologized for not being able to make enough time for me.. and that's ok!

[Asker]

So that's why I just bought up the movies. Bc all me and this dude do, is meet up and have sex. So I decided to change it up.

[Browneye57]

Urine. As in URINE IDIOT. friends with benefits thing is a complete fail. And you've been completely duped. A warm place to put it instead of jerking off. And you fell for it. Dear lord.

[Asker]

I understand, and we haven't went. He needs to find someone to watch his son. But more then likely.. It probably won't happen next week or weekend. I mean.. I just figured just where you are transforming from friends with benefits into just friends. I feel that he needs to feel and be comfortable enough around me without us hooking up. Like actually doing things that friends do.

[Browneye57]

Complete fail.
What's this 'friend' thing? Like you think a guy you had sex with wants to now be in the friendzone?
You are clueless about men. This ain't going nowhere.
And he's a single parent? Double FAIL. Oh boy, you're on a roll!!!

[Asker]

Well he is said, he was willing to try. And how he is was cool with us just being friends.

[KrakenAttackin]

You are a friends with benefits, which means he will never see you as anything more than a cum dumpster.

[Asker]

No he knows about the other guy and him and I decided that we were going to be just friends. And him and I agree that we would go just as friends. But... I think he will be able too

[ItsMeItsMe1989]

friends with benefits, is for pathetic losers, with no lives

And i will continue to write this for friends with benefits questions until you STOP DOING friends with benefits

[spartan55]

You are so gullible.

[Asker]

So I'm guessing that's a no. I mean... He may not try anything

[spartan55]

So what if he doesn't. Or the next time after that? He will be after it eventually.

[Asker]

It probably won't happen next week or weekend. I just figured. Since we are transforming out og friends with benefits and into just friends. I'm testing to see how well he does in public.

[Asker]

This would be a great start. Now with the movies that may not be the best solution. But who knows!