I slept with a guy and when I left him he body shamed me and I just can't get over this. How can I possibly be over it?

[Lyhra4]

I dated a guy who was just using me for sex, but I always expected more. After our first date in which we got involved he invited me to his house but things didn't go well so I decided to leave. After I left he blamed me for not treating me right saying that I was ugly, that I can't achieve my dreams, that I had nad breath among others. This is really hurting me cause I already self-criticize my body and always felt I was not good enough. Aditionally it's incredible how he thrown to my face all these insecurities after I got it off my chest with him once. I feel completely ashamed and afraid of meeting another guy and he also mocks me as he did. I feel so horrible... Any advice?

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(I went to his house and we had sex but then I leave bc he wasn't treating me right)

[alance99]

He would have said completely opposite of this if he could get easy sex from you, this shows his poor character and upbringing and no respect for women.

Just ignore what he said and there is no pressure to start dating a guy ASAP take your time when you feel you are mentally prepared for dating again you can do it.🙂🙂

[Lyhra4]

But we already had sex, but he was not treating me right and when I left his house by my own that's when he started to offend me :(

[alance99]

He just wanted to control you and use you and when his plan didn't worked he started negative things to you

[Lyhra4]

Yeah you're right... I just need to recover from all this nightmare

[alance99]

Dont think about him and try to keep yourself occupied as much as possible for sometime and you'll be able to move on very fast

[Lyhra4]

thank you so much... I just want to stop to blame me

[alance99]

Trust me its totally his loss he couldnt recogonise a gem like you 🙂

[Lyhra4]

thank you so much <3

[Sexiestjohnson]

I don't know the whole story but probably he felt insecure either by something you said or did or didn't. Nonetheless, get over it. If you have to improve in any area of your hygiene do but don't let his words hunt you.

[Lyhra4]

I just got tired of being used and I left. After told him I was leaving that's when he started to ashame me...

[Sexiestjohnson]

Some guys are mean though. Heart of man being desperately wicked ain't a lie. If he was hungry enough for you to bed you, then you are a desirable woman. Forget what he said after.

[Lyhra4]

I hope you are right... Cause right now I just feel like I'm not pretty and good enough and I'm validating his words :'(

[Sexiestjohnson]

Your confidence in your beauty is too precious a thing to leave to someone else's opinion especially in a world as cruel as ours. Love yourself. Love your kind of beautiful and never let anyone despise it ever again. You are beautiful and I don't need to see you to know. After all we are all made in God's image and God's is amazingly beautiful.

[Lyhra4]

thank you so much <3

[Sam_The_Savage]

Oh princess first of all start loving yourself. Build confidence in yourself. Babygirl tell me one thing if you don't love yourself than why someone else will love u?

Just relax n keep smiling don't over think.

[Lyhra4]

Thank you <3 but I don't think that justifies someone to treat me that bad :(

[Sam_The_Savage]

Babygirl it's just his butt get hurt. He didn't get what he wants. It's simple.

[Lyhra4]

Thank you <3 but he had since we had sex... But I was not liking the way he was treating me, and the worst he did when we were together was told me that he was going to take a coffee with a friend but couldn't take me cause we were not a couple... That take me to the limit and that's when I said to myself "I'm not going to allow this anymore".. So I left and he started to ashame and blame me...

[CasuallySamsonite]

Find a man who loves your body and flaunt it
or
Ignore him, he sure didn't have a problem with your body until you denied it to him.
and
Remember he's just being an ass out of spite.

[Lyhra4]

Thank you. But we actually had sex... But the thing is that I was not feeling good with him, and it got worse when he said he was going to take a coffee with a friend but I couldn't go. That's when I left and then he body ashamed me

[lycanthrope3]

These type of guys just put you down because they are no longer in the picture, they should no longer matter, their opinion is not valid, ignore them move on

[Lyhra4]

thank you so much, felt relieved with your comment

[Lyhra4]

I didn't expressed myself right in the question, but I really went to his house but he was not treating me right and that's when I left

[lycanthrope3]

No need to stick around when you are treated wrong

[Lyhra4]

yes that's what I left... But I didn't expect that he could be so mean with me, and I'm blaming myself for it :'(

[Lyhra4]

and what hurts more is that we actually had sex... but as I said I was not being treated properly so I left

[lycanthrope3]

Sounds like he was all about him, for get him, you count too

[Lyhra4]

yeah that's why I left but honestly I'm feeling miserable due to his cruel words

[lycanthrope3]

You left because he did not treat you right. He proved you did the right thing by following his actions up with cruel words proving you did the correct thing. Pat yourself on the back, you are awesome

[Lyhra4]

thank you honestly <3

[KrakenAttackin]

Sure, stop banging random Chad's.

[Lyhra4]

I will for sure, I'm very naive...

[lpoots]

he's a dick
not you

[Lyhra4]

thank you <3

[lpoots]

any time

[Slim57]

Lost you at saying someone uses someone for sex

[Lyhra4]

That's what happened... But I'm guilty for allowing it...

[anylolone]

By not caring.

[Lyhra4]

yes thank you