Is it worth confronting the guy who hurt me?

[Anonymous]

Looong story short: i was really into a guy and i started to fall for him. After 6 months of being together he suddenly ghosted me. After leaving me confused as hell, he randomly kissed me when i had to drop something off at his house. When i was there and after he kissed me, i saw women's toilettries and clothes in his bathroom. I asked him about it and he blatantly said it belongs to one of his many girlfriends. I was so in shock my jaw dropped. I couldn't even reply properly. Now that a few days have passed and i thought about it i'm debating whether to confront him or not. I feel like he might not even care since he obviously would not have said such a thing if he did care. On the other hand I need him to know how much he hurt me and i did not deserve it. I never did wrong by him and how he treated me is so disgusting. Im repulsed honestly and i feel sick. Should i let him know or just pretend i dont care?

[he-takes-a-part]

No need to tell him that he has hurt you coz the guy seems heartless and more of a dock and less of a guy
If you have frustration or anger against him do that defo
See if he still remains the same towards you then definitely he is fuckboy and not a serious relationship candidate
Rest after incident

[Asker]

Yeah i agree! He is a grown man... or supposef to be. He acts like a child and it seems like he will never change

[he-takes-a-part]

Anything else?

[Asker]

What do you mean? ;)

[he-takes-a-part]

You anonymous hence i couldn’t follow
Follow me

[Asker]

Just followed you!

[charon142]

do the same he did
when he came for a dinner or something have some wet white condoms ready (if u can use your vaginas water to make them wet) then make sure to put them somewhere he can see easily
then look at his reaction if he didn't care, he's definitely not a good partner, but if he cared and asked answer with "oh so you do care?" and ask about everything else

[Asker]

Lmao i asked him about it and he said "why, does it bother you?" I won't even invite him over for dinner. I dont want to be near him and i dont even feel like stooping as low as him. I can proudly say i never did anything wrong and i intend to keep it that way. I hope one day he regrets treating me like this when i was always willing to do anything for him.

[charon142]

although I forgot to mention
if he doesn't care at all about the bras you saw in his house then he's just an asshole, let go and run away

[charon142]

well if you hate him that much
just ignore him and do your own thing
basically, break up with him without even telling him

[Asker]

Well i didn't see a bra, i saw a scarf & perfume. But its funny because i was so hurt when he first ignored me for so long and for no reason. I cried daily and now all i feel is disgust. If someone doesn't feel bad about treating me like this and they say something like this after all the promises he made, how can i still love him? If he feels the need need to cheat then im not the one for him. I will never be one of his options. Its weird how my feelings changed from love to disgust in a day. I can't even cry over it and im surprised haha

[charon142]

why is it so hard for you girls to let go of a thing that is not important?
just act like it never happened and you were alone all this time, do something else to forget it, don't keep yourself
let go and search for a new friend
i know your feelings, anger, confuesd, alone
just lay on the bed close your eyes talk to yourself and convinse yourself that it's not your fault that some people are total assholes

[Asker]

thanks i appreciate it!

[charon142]

I hope it helped you

[kyleelyn199723]

Just let go. He had no shame to what he is doing and it’s not worth it. Doesn’t seem like you can convince him that what he is doing, is wrong. He simply doesn’t care.

[Asker]

i agree.. doesn't seem like he cares and probably won't change since he's a freaking grown man.

[MTC29]

Confronting him would be a pointless waste of your time. He's not going to care what you have to say, so that you'll only end up feeling worse. Just walk away.

[Asker]

Yeah thats what i think as well. He didn't care when he said it so it doesn't matter probably how i feel

[EnglishEuropean]

Not really. He already cut you out of his life, the best thing you can do is return the favour.

[KrakenAttackin]

Stop chasing Chad Thundercock. And no, he won't give a fuck if you confront him. He has so much trim lined up that you were just another cum dumpster to him.

[superseederman]

It's his loss. Let him deal with the regret later.

[Asker]

I hope he regrets it. I hope he feels really bad once he realizes i only ever wanted to see him happy. My loyalty will hurt him in the end

[spartan55]

Confront him about what, you aren't together...

[Asker]

You never have any thing good to say honestly just dont reply please

[Asker]

Where did i say we werent together? didn't i literally say " after being together for 6 months..."

[spartan55]

How is my comment 'nothing good'... really? Because I pointed out you aren't together? It's a fair question.

[spartan55]

Yeah, then you said he ghosted you, which implies you BROKE UP.

[SandandWaves]

You could always send a post card

[Asker]

hahah

[Asker]

are you serious or sarcastic? sorry i can't tell hahah!

[SandandWaves]

i have done it. It turned him around. May not work for this guy, but, the guy I was with, .. a year later... He had apologized for treating me like shit. Now, am not saying this guy you like.. and the guy I was with, is the same situation.
You asked a question, I gave my opinion.

[SandandWaves]

also, he did not ignore me, he just treated me shitty. long story.

[SandandWaves]

the postcard, was saying, You will never hear from me. That woke him up.
All I was telling you, if you wanted to do so, by saying your feelings to him, is to, send him a postcard.

[Asker]

Ahh okay! im sorry to hear he treated you badly.. But i honestly dont think he will care because i think he is too immature. He is a grown man but acts and thinks like a child. But i think in most other cases it would have been a good idea

[SandandWaves]

He only started to teat me like that towards the very ending. Anyways, this Man-Boy.. already knows "you're " Hurt. I mean, look at it.. this way... He ignored you, then later... kissed you, then you seen girl clothes, that he claims they're just his friends. You honestly think friends would leave their clothes?

[Asker]

He didn't say it was just a friend... he said even worse. He said it belonged to one of his many girlfriends... and then when i asked him about it he said why? Does it bother you? I've never seen someone so nonchalant knowing damn well it hurts me

[SandandWaves]

Yeh, you would BE just wasting your time. He just wants to play around. Best opinion I have.. is to make sure where this is gonna go before doing anything with a guy in those ways. I think if you say anything, you are just feeding into this, he wants you to do that.

[Asker]

Yeah exactly. I will be feeling his ego and i dont want to give him the satisfaction

[SandandWaves]

@ asker ;)

[Asker]

Feeding**

[SandandWaves]

It's ok ;) I understood

[In_Trance]

probably not