so I have this guy friend and we joke around a lot and he asked me out on a date. oh gosh it was brutal! because I loved the friendship we had. I was blushing so much and he was so nervous it was aweful! the date never acually happened and a little while later he apoligized for "messing everything up" ! I felt so guilty for making him feel bad but its better to prevent a relationship from happening then go with it when its not working .. trust me ha ha that's another story lol
We are best friends(his a guy). We'd known each other from 11 months , but I never felt anything other than friendship. Then one day he proposed me in a romantic way , and I told him , "sorry let's just be friends" from that day his not talking with me nicely, ignoring, not the way he was with me caring and loving. I really felt bad and missed his loving Smile . But now I started liking him:(
All you women who responded saying how you friended some guy then it changed out of friend zone at some point... I LOVE YOU ALL! YOU GIVE US GUYS HOPE!
I don't know why but I seem to have to tell a lot of guys that I don't see them that way and I just want to continue being friends. I usually end up loosing the friendship too since that is not what they want. Makes me sad to loose them.
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Well you are sounding kinda selfish because when you say"makes me sad to lose them". I know you wanna keep them as a friend, but think about him. He would have to sit there and watch you be happy with someone else, while his heart secretly is breaking. Trust me I wish I could walk away from her, but I care too much and just hope she changes her mind.
Why is it selfish that I honestly enjoyed their company. I understand why they leave and don't harbor any hard feelings but these were people that I did like and care about, just not in the way they would have liked.
well I'm really not trying to sound mean promise :) But if you hv to tell "a lot of guys" that you just wanna be friends, then you are sending mixed signals. And I'm sure you really like them as friends, but you may wanna make sure you aren't leading them on, cause that sucks lol
I "dated" a girl on and off for 2 years, we never had sex and the most we did was kiss. She would flirt and get numbers of random guys right in front of me and it ended by her hooking up with my friend who had sex with her on the first day (she always told me she wasn't in the mood, and called me a pig when I suggested it) 2 YEARS, and a few more years after that being friendly, don't hate her tho, I understand where is she coming from now since I was a little bitch back then
I told the first guy I dated that we should "just be friends" when I broke up with him. We've probably spoken about 5 words to each other since. It was a silly relationship, though, so no regrets or hard feelings, really.
Yeah, my best girl friend did that to me. But then we ended up going out for 1 and a half years :) Then had a horrible breakup and we talked on and off. Now we don't talk lol.
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so I have this guy friend and we joke around a lot and he asked me out on a date. oh gosh it was brutal! because I loved the friendship we had. I was blushing so much and he was so nervous it was aweful! the date never acually happened and a little while later he apoligized for "messing everything up" ! I felt so guilty for making him feel bad but its better to prevent a relationship from happening then go with it when its not working .. trust me ha ha that's another story lol
We are best friends(his a guy). We'd known each other from 11 months , but I never felt anything other than friendship. Then one day he proposed me in a romantic way , and I told him , "sorry let's just be friends" from that day his not talking with me nicely, ignoring, not the way he was with me caring and loving. I really felt bad and missed his loving Smile . But now I started liking him:(
fail
What caused you to start liking him?
But now I don't want to be his friend
We can be a good couple I realized this .
All you women who responded saying how you friended some guy then it changed out of friend zone at some point... I LOVE YOU ALL! YOU GIVE US GUYS HOPE!
I know! just gotta wait it out lol!
I don't know why but I seem to have to tell a lot of guys that I don't see them that way and I just want to continue being friends. I usually end up loosing the friendship too since that is not what they want. Makes me sad to loose them.
Well you are sounding kinda selfish because when you say"makes me sad to lose them". I know you wanna keep them as a friend, but think about him. He would have to sit there and watch you be happy with someone else, while his heart secretly is breaking. Trust me I wish I could walk away from her, but I care too much and just hope she changes her mind.
Why is it selfish that I honestly enjoyed their company. I understand why they leave and don't harbor any hard feelings but these were people that I did like and care about, just not in the way they would have liked.
well I'm really not trying to sound mean promise :) But if you hv to tell "a lot of guys" that you just wanna be friends, then you are sending mixed signals. And I'm sure you really like them as friends, but you may wanna make sure you aren't leading them on, cause that sucks lol
Trust me, I am not leading any of them on. I go out of my way to not lead any of them on.
I "dated" a girl on and off for 2 years, we never had sex and the most we did was kiss. She would flirt and get numbers of random guys right in front of me and it ended by her hooking up with my friend who had sex with her on the first day (she always told me she wasn't in the mood, and called me a pig when I suggested it) 2 YEARS, and a few more years after that being friendly, don't hate her tho, I understand where is she coming from now since I was a little bitch back then
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I told the first guy I dated that we should "just be friends" when I broke up with him. We've probably spoken about 5 words to each other since. It was a silly relationship, though, so no regrets or hard feelings, really.
Yeah, my best girl friend did that to me. But then we ended up going out for 1 and a half years :) Then had a horrible breakup and we talked on and off. Now we don't talk lol.
So she rejected you then what happened? howd you go from rejection to going out with her for a year and a half?
She started liking me and I asked her out again .
Dahaha, Too many to count.
I was a very slow learner.
I guess I could say my friend zone story is I don't do anything to not be in the friend zone. Fail.
I'm always placed in the friend's zone and I don't know why. Could it be because I have a tiny one?
Yes I have. I really fell for him and while we did have chemistry, to him all it was was friendship