What would a much older, unattractive man think of a young attractive woman liking him?

[Anonymous]

The man I'm crushing hard on is a lot older than me. He's in his late 50s and I'm 22. Everyone I know says to me "he's so ugly, how can you like him?" and I'll admit, he's not what most people would find physically attractive, but looks have never mattered much to me. It was his personality, humor and confidence that attracted me more than anything.

I've never considered myself super attractive or anything, but I receive many comments from men saying I am quite often.

I guess what I'm trying to ask is, what would a guy like this think if someone much younger like me was to show interest and slide into his DMs or something? Would it be weird and confusing to him or would he be fine about it do you think? All opinions appreciated.

[Vikkrram]

Of course at first he would be really confused that why she is all suddenly behaving strange? He would even think that why she is sending Dm to me? Did she have crush on me? Nah! I am overthinking it... all. Coz if a younger girl would ever try to show me that if she likes me i would just think like this.

[Asker]

That makes sense. But would it be a bad feeling for him do you think? Or do you think a guy would be ok with it?

[Vikkrram]

Depends on a guy... what he thinks about this situation... Getting liked by anyone or having crush of anyone is always felt nice to guys (i never experienced that coz i never found that any girl is having crush on me ). But it is Weired... But if u handle this beautifully... and paitently you can be his girlfriend or what ever you wanna be...

[Asker]

thank you :)

[Vikkrram]

Go ahead and best of luck...🙂

[slatyb]

He would be very surprised and flattered. If you want to get with him, you’ll have to ask him. He won’t ask you because most young women are not receptive to advances from much older men.

[Asker]

Thank you :)

[slatyb]

Don’t feel bad if he declines. That’s not a rejections n if you as a wife man, it’s just that he’s not will No t date somewhere so young. If I were him, and I liked you, I would go with it forr as long as it lasted.

[Asker]

It's worrying for me. I'll be so embarrassed if he does decline that's why I haven't said anything to him yet lol.

[slatyb]

That's dating. Someone has to take the risk of asking and being refused. You don't immediately have to ask him whether he will have sex with you. Just invite him to coffee or lunch or whatever.

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

He may think you're after him for money or security... Especially if he listens to some of the guys on GAG...

[Asker]

I don't think he has a lot of money really, just an average kinda guy. I'm not looking for anything serious with him, just a fling would be nice.

[Jackblue]

It is difficult people will call you a gold digger and him a dirty old man.

[Asker]

I understand some people might think that. That's really not the case though. I'm not after any money or anything like that. I don't think he even has a lot of money, just seems like an everyday, average kind of guy. I'm not looking for a relationship with him, more of a hook-up, so I guess no one else would even know about it possibly.

[Jackblue]

Well if that is what you want go ahead.

[REDHOTLINE]

Its so weird. I can't understand your mind. You are only 22

[Asker]

I know. It's weird for me too. I don't usually like guys this much older than me but I can't help it with this one. But from a guy's perspective what do you think someone his age would think?

[REDHOTLINE]

You like older men its normal but this man so old.

[lycanthrope3]

Start talking to him, show interest, go with his reaction

[Asker]

Thank you :)

[lycanthrope3]

Welcome

[Wise4myage]

He might not believe her.

[Asker]

How could I make him believe me?

[Wise4myage]

Flirt with him, find out what he likes and take an interests in that. Ask him to lunch.

[Asker]

Thank you

[Wise4myage]

You're welcome.