Does he want something more?

[Anonymous]

I hooked up with this guy yesterday and I was there for like four or five hours and majority of the time wasn’t spent having sex, we were just hanging out, like we were talking and listening to music, played video games for a while. And he kept turning and kissing me. I have never had that happen at a hook up before, does that mean he wants something more?

[phill5158]

Guys are very hard to read sometimes, I mean maybe he didn't want to come across as disrespectful that all he wants you for is sex. I do agree that it is weird how he was just playing video games instead of focusing on you. I mean if I had a girl at my place I wouldn't be playing video games.

[Asker]

Nonono, it wasn’t like that, I showed him acnh and he showed me madden, it was something we were doing together. Another thing, he suggested we take a shower together and then we proceeded to not have sex in the shower and he suggested a bath so figured we would have sex in the bath, he proceeded to say “wait, not yet” to my sexual advances and we laid in the bath for the following 15ish minutes talking and listening to music. Like not just sitting there but he was laying in the bath and pulled me to lay on top of him with my back to his chest. It seemed very romantic for a hook up…

[phill5158]

Oh I get you, maybe he is just waiting for the right moment then.

[Asker]

I just met him yesterday tho, like we matched on tinder and agreed to hang. Would he decide that fast lol

[Asker]

Sorry, I know you don’t know for sure, it’s just a very interesting situation

[phill5158]

He could possibly, I mean I know if I met a girl from Tinder and we haven't hanged out that many times I'm not going to have sex with her straight away. Maybe he just wants to start of just being in your company, maybe he doesn't feel it is all about sex which is hard to believe for a guy I know.

[Asker]

I get that, but we did have sex lol that’s why I’m so confused, but most of the time I was there we weren’t, we were just hanging out and then the whole bath tub thing.

[phill5158]

I don't know, do you expect to have sex with him every time you hang out?

[Asker]

I have no idea tbh, I mean I definitely wouldn't mind hanging out without sex

[phill5158]

I think you need a balance I mean you don't want a relationship based just on sex.

[Asker]

Well yes but I don’t even know what he wants lol he's giving very mixed signals

[phill5158]

I think it's time you just were honest with him and told him how you are feeling.

[Asker]

I just met the man yesterday, that will definitely scare him off

[phill5158]

Maybe wait and while and see if anything changes

[Asker]

Will do! I’ll update in a few days lol

[phill5158]

Good luck

[Asker]

Sooooo update, he said “Is it cool if we put this on hold for a little bit cuz I have school coming up and don’t want anything to serious
You’re super hot and cool but rn I don’t think I want anything to serious”

Do you think he means it like once school is over we can date? He’s a senior this year so I hope he’s dead ass

[Asker]

*in college lol

[phill5158]

I think he does I mean he admitted he is attracted to you I don't think he would let you slip. It shows you that he is committed to his studies, if it is truly worth it, it will be worth the wait.

[Anonymous]

It looks like He is but we can not be sure until He says that he wants something more.

[Asker]

Thanks girl, I’ll keep an eye out for signs, he’s definitely boyfriend material lol

[TexasRed95]

Could just be lonely.