Was this rude and do you think I blew it?

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Locksmith did me a favour and I paid him cash with a tip because I was typing grateful for what he did

I gave him the money and he said thank you and took it, didn't even look down

I walked backwards a couple of steps with a soft smile looking at him then the money, then he looked down at it and said 'its too much' and I responded with 'keep it!

Then he looked down at the money and said 'awwwww' and 'oohh' with a pouty face for a good 20 seconds and kept looking down at the money then I just turned around and walked off

He went 'aarrrgggh' as I walked away but when I got to my car and looked back he was staring then quickly looked away and went back into his office

Was I rude and I panicked and didn't know what to say!!! Have I blown it?

What do you think he thinks?

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

You weren't rude. Just super awkward.

I worked as a server for years, nobody knows how to handle an awkward tipper. Best thing to do is just hand them the money, tell them to keep the change and walk away without another word.

It's not polite to start counting a tip in front of someone. You kind of have to make sure they paid the bill, but beyond that it's more polite to just wait till they leave to see what you got.

It's the walking backwoods stating at him that makes things uncomfortable. 😂🤣

I take it you aren't just asking if he will take your money in the future. I'm sure he will, but if you're looking for romance you probably still have a fair chance.

Guys are less likely to write someone off over an awkward interaction and more likely to think "man, she really appreciated me"

That said, DON'T do it again. Most people don't tip locksmiths (so far as I know) and it can get really uncomfortable if you come across as trying to tip someone into getting romantic. Especially if it's a guy.

It sounds like he might like you too. If he was just there to get paid he wouldn't be watching you through the window.

It's possible he thought you were crazy and couldn't wait till you were gone, but it doesn't sound like that to me.

Most guys would appreciate a lady who appreciats them and leaves a tip, but leaving unreasonable/unusual tips is a great way to make things less comfortable. It's hard to explain, but it raises too many questions like "do I owe her something?" "Is she trying to buy me off?" "Does she think I'm too nice to her and feel guilty?"

I don't think you blew your chances. But, just try to be more natural next time.

I dunno how you're going to find an excuse to go back there, but if you're trying to date him just write your number down tip a normal amount (probably nothing at a locksmith?) and hand the number to him on your way out Instead.

Say "here's my number if you want to meet up sometime" or something like that, and walk away. It's okay to look back and try to gauge his reaction but don't walk away backwords staring at him like a goofball.

I would think that was adorable, but most guys just don't know how to handle that.

It's possible he was looking out the window thinking "man, what a freak, I hope she isn't coming back"

But I'd say it's more likely he was thinking "man, I wish I wasn't at work so I could have asked for her number. Maybe I should have. . . I guess I'll never know."

You really shouldn't hit on customers, but I think it's totally acceptable to leave a phone number behind with your locksmith and hope he calls you.

It's cheaper than a tip, and it's more likely to go somewhere.

I don't think you hurt your chances. If he liked you before that almost certainly wouldn't change his mind. If he didn't like you before, it might have made him think about it.

But, it's would be extremely unprofessional to pull up a customers number for personal reasons. You have to go back and leave your phone number. He might call you, he might not, he might say he is married but the ring makes it harder to work on the locks. But you won't know unless you ask him or leave a phone number.

If you are shy, you can always pay with a card and leave your number on the recipe with a little note "call me" or something short.

It's harder at a counter but, it's still very doable.

The trick is to just leave it there and walk away normally. Don't make it awkward or it's harder to call you later.

And hey, they probably cut keys. You can always go back, say the lock works great but you need a spare key. They are cheap and you might get a minute to talk. Worse case scenario, if it goes badly, at least you will have a backup so you don't have to call him if you lose yours. 😂

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