it is not always but money, experience, prestige generally increase by age and physical appearance get worse. Generally, men have prefer latter whereas women prefer other.
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You should get out more and observe your surroundings.
Some people might find wrinkles , false teeth, erectile dysfunction , sagginess , bald spots to be attractive. You never know. Just as weird as men who are attracted to obese women. Trust me there are guys like that out there
Menopause causes a loss of estrogen which can lead to hair loss. Those women you saw may have been healthy, treated their condition, or were wearing a wig. It's not like if you have a huge zit the first thing you'll do is show everybody that sees you.
In any case, I suggest researching more into menopause so there aren't any surprises when you reach it.
"I've never seen" -> Anecdotal evidence Asking 20 people is still not a viable representation. You made the claim that women do not have bald spots, the burden of proof is on you.
I have no problem with guys being bald. I do think it's funny how you went to your second fallacy, argumentum ad populum, it was common knowledge that the world was flat, it is not. You still have the burden of proof.
@anykayd You seem to have some kind of misunderstanding. No one is saying or cares whether there are more bald men than women. That fact is women do go bald.
It's funny that you are spending more time fighting us on this than doing actual research on the subject yourself. It's like I could put this article here, and you'll act like it isn't real.
Also don't believe everything you see. Looks can be deceiving. Put yourself in the seat of a woman with alopecia. You wouldn't want your friends to know if you were balding either.
@anykayd It gets more common the older men and women become. That's just how life is. Don't stress it though. You still got at least 25 years till menopause.
@litty you don't have to pretend women grow bald as they get older like men do. We all have eyes and we see what happens in the world all around us. No need to lie
Do I see enough women to have a statistical representation of the whole population? Nope. So is that relevant? Nope. But yes, I do know women with bald spots.
@anykayd You say you are not angry yet you’ve been trolling us. And if you haven’t then maybe you aren’t really 24 and we’ve been talking to a 10 year old that uses concrete thinking. And maybe you are so scared of going bald yourself you think if you can’t see it then it won’t happen to you.
@TallAnon told you you have to prove what you said and your answer was that your boss and random people on the street have hair. How can it get any dumber that that? In any case, your merry go round of bullshit & denial is getting stale so that’s it for me.
@Ayanna240 yes until you've found the 40 year old of your irrational standards and expectations. Then you fuck him doggystyle without even knowing his name to the point that you're willing to become a single mother that belongs to the streets.
only men die alone, women don't die alone. A woman can always have kids before her child bearing years are over. A single man can't have kids unless he gets married. he's gonna have to wait and beg as he grows older fatter and wrinklier by the year, still hoping a young woman would want to have kids with him.
Overwhelming majority of men will never hit millionaire status in their lives. Only Very wealthy men attract women, not the average joe. No woman is gonna marry you just cus you have a house and a car
@Ayanna240 But you most likely will only date a guy that's wealthier than you, has a stable job and own house, at least if you can.
Which is why the model of relationship 20 something guys experience is being fucked for a few months and dropped for the next guy she's gonna fuck for a few months.
I learned that in highschool with my female friends, and that's one of the reasons I chose not to date until I was of age. Not that it served for much, but to be honest, it at least gave me time to study, lol!
By the time I hit my 30s, I would have plenty of money , high paying job, investments, why would I need to marry for money if I already have money? Rich women can afford to marry men they want, without considering his income.
@Ayanna240 Well, a lot of people think one can't ever have enough.
One thing I saw a lot was women wanting a hot man to come and also save them from their debts, or, from their work, or just be a huge step up their career.
Nobody is gonna marry you simply because you have a house and a car. Most women nowadays work jobs and steady careers and are buying their own houses/ cars. Unless you're a millionaire, nobody will care about you.
And if you really think its a good idea to marry a gold digger who wants to marry you just because she wants you to pay off her credit card debt, then go ahead. She will just use you for your money then dump / divorce you for a man that she is actually physically and mentally attracted to. A relationship is a complete sham without physical attraction. She doesn't actually want to have sex with you, she just wants to get paid for it.
@Ayanna240 Well, sorry, but marriage statistics show you are wrong somewhere there. "Women have jobs and careers..." does that impede them from wanting more to the point of feeling entitled to it?
I've dated A LOT. From my experience, the only men who complain about not being able to get a woman due to lack of finances, tend to be men who are completely broke , work near minimum wage jobs, no savings in their 30s. If you have a decent paying job, steady career, you will be fine.
Women are not looking for rich men, they are just not looking for some guy who has no idea how to run his life. If you're almost 40 years old and you are still making minimum wage, no savings, broke as hell, it shows that you're not competent as an adult. If you can't even support yourself, how are you going to help her support kids?
thats true. women get more financially stable with age too. so if she sees a man who is completely broke, still lives in his mother's basement at the age of 39, she's not gonna be turned on by that. she's not looking for a rich man, just a man who isn't a loser. if you what you gotta do career wise in your 20s, you will be financially stable in your 30s. If you fool around in your 20s, you will just be broke in your 30s.
If you're a broke man, try to go for poor women. They would be more understanding of you. I work around a lot of poor women, they typically are married to other poor men.
but understand this, you will never be able to raise kids without becoming financially stable. Men on here talk a ton about womens fertility. But who cares about her fertility , if you don't even have the money to support a family? Nowadays housewives are becoming increasingly unaffordable, cost of living is rising, how are you supposed to have kids if you aren't financially stable?
and some of hte non sense that men talk about on here is that they think if they are financially stable enough to buy a house and car then it means that women are willing to marry them.
Let me clear one thing for you: NOBODY is gonna marry you just because you have a house and a car. Nobody is gonna fall in love with you because you have a house. I'm gonna be buying my own house in 5 years, I don't need your fucking house.
@Ayanna240 Not that alone. "If you're a broke man, try to go for poor women. They would be more understanding of you. I work around a lot of poor women, they typically are married to other poor men."
I don't have a problem, is my poor women (and frequently rich women) who have a problem and then come bitching here and everywhere.
"I'm gonna keep simping for rich chads until one fucks me, I'm gonna keep simping for rich chads until one takes me." lol! A to some extent guys ain't much different but the vast majority ditch the wealth requirement.
[I don't have a problem, is my poor women (and frequently rich women) who have a problem and then come bitching here and everywhere.]
i can say the same for men on GAG. when was the last time you found a guy on here who wasn't whining, complaining or moaning or shitting on women? none
["I'm gonna keep simping for rich chads until one fucks me, I'm gonna keep simping for rich chads until one takes me." lol! A to some extent guys ain't much different but the vast majority ditch the wealth requirement.]
only men with no personality or looks would say that they need a ton of money to attract women. I've seen PLENTY of poor men who have wives and children. Poor people tend to marry the poor. Rich men tend to marry other rich women. People tend to wed those of their own kind.
For you, your time is running out if you're looking for a young woman of child bearing age. 41 is definitely not the age where you should be extremely picky on who you date especially if you lack personality and looks. Men without options shouldn't be picky.
@Ayanna240 Not physically, I never said their value increase because of physicality.
Also, the post doesn't say "40" the post says "with age".
And don't worry, I'm more than conscious that I hit the wall, you won't take that very well when it happens to you, if it's even applicable to you, some people are born past the wall. Besides that, I get attention from brats, I'm not interested even in non brats, no need to take the contratual part of my open relationship into praxis. You will orbit some 30 something chad dude, while breaking the heart of brat chad, well, that's if you can ever get that.
I’m not afraid of hitting the wall because I will be having a child and a family regardless if I get married or not. Single women can have kids without a husband. Single men can’t have kids without a wife
If I’m still single by 34/35, I’ll just have 2 kids. and when I’m looking for a sperm donor or a man to have kids with , I’m not looking for a guy over 40.
Marriages don’t work anyways, statistically 46% of all us marriages end in divorce. Now millions of kids are raised by single moms and see dad once a month
@Ayanna240 Exactly, most by no fault divorce by women who think being bored and monkey branching is a good reason to get divorced. I know plenty.
Marriage doesn't work, pair bonding on the other hand is what brought our species here. But you can co-parent with a loyal friend. Remember, it's not enough that they are loyal to you, you have to be loyal as well.
I’m thinking about co parenting but finding the man with the right genes , being able to support a family sufficiently with ease , has the right character is also difficult nowadays. I don’t plan on having kids with a man who struggles financially or is unreliable / untrustworthy or Is a bad role model for The kids
At the end of my life , I don’t plan on dying all lonely and neglected. By the time I’m 50 and if we both were still single , we will just get married so we would have someone to be there for each other when we hit old age. Loneliness And feeling neglected is a huge thing amongst the elderly. We can enjoy retirement together too.
Many of these fools obsess over romance and “love” until half of them find themselves divorced by 45. Then they remain single for the rest of their lives dying alone. Their ex wives take custody and they only see their kids once a month
If romance was really the secret to a forever lasting marriage then why do almost half of all marriages end in divorce? What has gone wrong?
I wouldn’t say women are the culprit for these divorces. If men had less to lose from divorce , I’m sure men would be filing for divorce too
@Ayanna240 For what you are saying, the man with the right genes for yourself is the average man, anything more should cost you a fortune.
Also, a man who can support himself is more than good enough for you.
Having the right character is good, yes, you want a man several times more moral than you who has the maturity not to baby sit you over your pettiness, he'll be settling way down under such circumstances and should understand it.
And yeah, you are right, he should be a good role model, to compensate.
I think there are a lot of men out there who are frustrated with dating and just want nothing more than to have a steady family. There is a Feeling security that you get from having a family that you can’t get from simply a “date” or a boyfriend/girlfriend relationship.
So far I have been able to find myself a couple of guys In their 30s who are looking For marriage and children without the romance. All 3 are financially stable , but only 1 out of the 3 qualified the most. He’s a doctor which is an indication of intellect , very financially well off. But what upset him was that I wasn’t interested in getting married within the next 2 months. I was 25, my career not yet in order , too early to be locked down with kids , I had my entire young adult Life/ experience unexplored. And of course I wanted to continue dating Further to see if I could eventually find the right person. He was 32-33, he’s older so of course he’d be more comfortable settling down.
Intelligent Financially well off men tend to exist And work in larger cities rather than the suburbs. Finding these types is all based on luck and rolling the dice. Most guys aren’t them but if you hangout in the right places , you will eventually find them
Being Financially secure is one of the most important things because I plan on still maintaining my career after having my children. Sure I’d love to become a stay home mom for my babies but it’s unrealistic because I still have to save for retirement , I still have to maintain my own net worth, i have to pay my share of my kids future college education, I plan on retiring early too. So If I need a baby sitter on certain days , I gotta make sure that we can afford it. If I must work part time so I can be home for the kids for 2 years , he needs to be able to support the family for 2 years.
Personally I was raised by poor parents who pinched pennies to raise me. Being under a lot of financial stress really places an immense burden and Gives a huge headache to parents. Ans as a result , the kids usually end up suffering too because angry bitter sad moody parents just end up abusing the kids either verbally or emotionally. Bitter angry parents will not give kids a decent childhood.
@Ayanna240 I understand such, which is why I said "a man that can take care of himself". Anything from that to above it is a plus.
Also, most divorces are motivated by money in some way, but wealth does not correlate to divorce, let that sink in. That shows that from a certain point, financial stress becomes relative.
Top reason for divorce are financial problems. Its been statically proven through research data that financially unstable couples are the most likely to divorce. While college educated husband and wives , both financially stable are least likely to divorce. As you can see the lack of money can be a really big problem when it comes to supporting a family.
Divorce happens a lot nowadays because people see marriage as a joy ride at an amusement park. Once the passion, excitement fades , people start ditching their spouses. If you're bored of your spouse, divorce is the solution. Rather than looking at the bright side of marriage and looking to see how you can patch things up, people look for reasons to divorce / ditch. Marriage is not a joy ride. Its supposed to be a union where you both support each other forever.
Arraigned marriages have 4% divorce rate while romance marriages have 46% divorce rate. As you can see, romance or love really isn't the secret to a happy long lasting marriage. Its the willingness and determination to stick together through not only good times but also bad times.
[I understand such, which is why I said "a man that can take care of himself".]
here's where things get complicated:
A single man can take care of himself well with a 55k salary. But when you add 2-3 kids , college tuition fund, retirement savings, maybe wife who stays home part time to take care of the kids, baby sitter money , mortgage payments, this is when things start getting complicated and financial struggles intensifies.
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it is not always but money, experience, prestige generally increase by age and physical appearance get worse. Generally, men have prefer latter whereas women prefer other.
You should get out more and observe your surroundings.
Why do people always use models to prove a point. The pictures are not your avearge old guy.
Women value success, and many men only get successful when they've grown older
Most men never become wealthy ever in their lives
Most men become wealthier later on in their lives
When I was younger I liked old man but now I like my age. My friend is opposite. He likes older men as he get older
Because a guys value is determined more by his status.
Because men aren’t held to the same beauty standards as women our value to them is externally based
Maturity is sexy. Men usually get that from aging.
You’ve got to be out of your mind. Wrinkles , Weight gain, sagginess Bald spots are sexy to you?
A brilliant mind is sexy to me.
Would you date a 60 yr old?
If I'm attracted to him, yes
That is weird af
Wow, you're judgmental, alright
Not her willing to date a 60 year old 💀💀💀
@nella965 You forgot to mention false teeth, hearing loss, and age spots.
I did say I'd only date him if I'm attracted, though 😂
Yeah but apparently you only care about the “brilliant mind”, so it’s no surprise you would date some dusty older dude
Yeah, I care about the mind AND physical attraction over a number
@Aphrodite801
Some people might find wrinkles , false teeth, erectile dysfunction , sagginess , bald spots to be attractive. You never know. Just as weird as men who are attracted to obese women. Trust me there are guys like that out there
Take the red pill see the damn facts out there once you red pilled things become different
This isn't true. Balding looks very bad.
That's not true either. Look at all the famous people that are bald and tell me who looks bad.
@litty
Most men don’t look good having a bald spot in the center of their heads.
Do you mean someone like Dwayne Johnson is ugly or do you mean someone who tries to have a regular hairstyle with a random bald spot?
@TallAnon I don't like heads that are all the way bald or partially balding.
I see, I think you're definitely the exception in this case.
@TallAnon
do you realize hair loss is a very common part of male aging? a bald spot is never sexy.
We were including completely bald as well
@anykayd Lol, so is menopause, which can also cause women to lose hair.
@litty
Menopause does not cause hair loss. I've seen many many women hit menopause and still have their hair. Hair loss is a male thing.
@anykayd https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sPMYtDRMbcI
Menopause causes a loss of estrogen which can lead to hair loss.
Those women you saw may have been healthy, treated their condition, or were wearing a wig.
It's not like if you have a huge zit the first thing you'll do is show everybody that sees you.
In any case, I suggest researching more into menopause so there aren't any surprises when you reach it.
@litty
All my aunts are 50+, my own other is 62 and I've never seen her lose her hair. My boss is 54 and she still has her hair.
Hair loss is much more common amongst men 30+ years than women.
@litty
Just take a look on the street, much more bald men than women. Sure women may lose a few hairs but we dont grow bald spots like you.
Anecdotal evidence, nice
@anykayd Lol I'll just give you some time to get past your stage of anger and denial.
@litty who is angry? I definitely see more bald men on the street than bald women. Many guys grow bald spots as young as 35.
@litty I'm not lying. I've never seen a woman with a huge bald spot in the middle of her head. The only ones i've ever seen with that are men
Again, anecdotal evidence, nice.
@TallAnon
Its not anecdotal at all. I dare you to take a poll on GAG
"I've never seen" -> Anecdotal evidence
Asking 20 people is still not a viable representation.
You made the claim that women do not have bald spots, the burden of proof is on you.
@TallAnon
i don't think anyone is gonna say they see more balding women than balding men. And you know this.
Oh, you're changing your statement from none to less?
@TallAnon
i don't have to prove something that is common knowledge in our society. Maybe you're just bitter because only men get bald and women do not.
I have no problem with guys being bald.
I do think it's funny how you went to your second fallacy, argumentum ad populum, it was common knowledge that the world was flat, it is not. You still have the burden of proof.
@TallAnon
because no girl is ever attracted to bald spots.
Ah, back to anecdotal evidence.
@TallAnon i don't find balding men to be attractive
@anykayd You seem to have some kind of misunderstanding. No one is saying or cares whether there are more bald men than women. That fact is women do go bald.
It's funny that you are spending more time fighting us on this than doing actual research on the subject yourself. It's like I could put this article here, and you'll act like it isn't real.
www.healthline.com/.../female-pattern-baldness
Also don't believe everything you see. Looks can be deceiving. Put yourself in the seat of a woman with alopecia. You wouldn't want your friends to know if you were balding either.
@litty
Its not common for females to go bald. But it is common for men to go balding by mid 30s
@anykayd It gets more common the older men and women become. That's just how life is. Don't stress it though. You still got at least 25 years till menopause.
@litty you don't have to pretend women grow bald as they get older like men do. We all have eyes and we see what happens in the world all around us. No need to lie
Ad hominem, are you just going through a list of fallacies and trying to fit them all in one conversation?
@TallAnon
how many women with bald spots do you see on the streets?
Do I see enough women to have a statistical representation of the whole population? Nope. So is that relevant? Nope.
But yes, I do know women with bald spots.
@anykayd You say you are not angry yet you’ve been trolling us. And if you haven’t then maybe you aren’t really 24 and we’ve been talking to a 10 year old that uses concrete thinking. And maybe you are so scared of going bald yourself you think if you can’t see it then it won’t happen to you.
@TallAnon told you you have to prove what you said and your answer was that your boss and random people on the street have hair. How can it get any dumber that that? In any case, your merry go round of bullshit & denial is getting stale so that’s it for me.
@litty
why would i be angry if women don't grow bald spots? name one woman who has a bald spot
lmgtfy.app/?q=women+with+bald+spots&t=i&iie=1
@TallAnon thats right. you don't know of any women with bald spots.
I just gave you about a million examples, good luck with those.
@TallAnon those aren't even examples.
Lmao
@TallAnon im not attracted to bald spots on men. don't like white hairs and wrinkles either. no grandpas or old fat 45 yr old uncles
Ok, good luck with that.
Cause women love a dysfunctional wrinkly penis
Because some people believe it to be true.
because time favours men. not women.
I don’t find guys in their late 30s-40s attractive
@Ayanna240 yes until you've found the 40 year old of your irrational standards and expectations. Then you fuck him doggystyle without even knowing his name to the point that you're willing to become a single mother that belongs to the streets.
only men die alone, women don't die alone. A woman can always have kids before her child bearing years are over. A single man can't have kids unless he gets married. he's gonna have to wait and beg as he grows older fatter and wrinklier by the year, still hoping a young woman would want to have kids with him.
@Ayanna240 yes and then you woke up. also you're such a fuckin retard that it took you 8 days to give me a reply
I dunno. I'm ugly as hell
Because wealth correlates well with age.
So why is the most common age of marriage for a man in 2020, 33 years old?
@Ayanna240 And? That's like years from hitting the wall.
So as wealthy as possible while still being hot.
Overwhelming majority of men will never hit millionaire status in their lives. Only Very wealthy men attract women, not the average joe. No woman is gonna marry you just cus you have a house and a car
@Ayanna240 But you most likely will only date a guy that's wealthier than you, has a stable job and own house, at least if you can.
Which is why the model of relationship 20 something guys experience is being fucked for a few months and dropped for the next guy she's gonna fuck for a few months.
I learned that in highschool with my female friends, and that's one of the reasons I chose not to date until I was of age. Not that it served for much, but to be honest, it at least gave me time to study, lol!
@anylolone
By the time I hit my 30s, I would have plenty of money , high paying job, investments, why would I need to marry for money if I already have money? Rich women can afford to marry men they want, without considering his income.
@Ayanna240 Well, a lot of people think one can't ever have enough.
One thing I saw a lot was women wanting a hot man to come and also save them from their debts, or, from their work, or just be a huge step up their career.
Nobody is gonna marry you simply because you have a house and a car. Most women nowadays work jobs and steady careers and are buying their own houses/ cars. Unless you're a millionaire, nobody will care about you.
And if you really think its a good idea to marry a gold digger who wants to marry you just because she wants you to pay off her credit card debt, then go ahead. She will just use you for your money then dump / divorce you for a man that she is actually physically and mentally attracted to. A relationship is a complete sham without physical attraction. She doesn't actually want to have sex with you, she just wants to get paid for it.
@Ayanna240 Well, sorry, but marriage statistics show you are wrong somewhere there.
"Women have jobs and careers..." does that impede them from wanting more to the point of feeling entitled to it?
I've dated A LOT. From my experience, the only men who complain about not being able to get a woman due to lack of finances, tend to be men who are completely broke , work near minimum wage jobs, no savings in their 30s. If you have a decent paying job, steady career, you will be fine.
Women are not looking for rich men, they are just not looking for some guy who has no idea how to run his life. If you're almost 40 years old and you are still making minimum wage, no savings, broke as hell, it shows that you're not competent as an adult. If you can't even support yourself, how are you going to help her support kids?
@Ayanna240 It's like there's no completely broke women, work near minimum wage jobs, no savings in their 30s, etc.
thats true. women get more financially stable with age too. so if she sees a man who is completely broke, still lives in his mother's basement at the age of 39, she's not gonna be turned on by that. she's not looking for a rich man, just a man who isn't a loser. if you what you gotta do career wise in your 20s, you will be financially stable in your 30s. If you fool around in your 20s, you will just be broke in your 30s.
If you're a broke man, try to go for poor women. They would be more understanding of you. I work around a lot of poor women, they typically are married to other poor men.
but understand this, you will never be able to raise kids without becoming financially stable. Men on here talk a ton about womens fertility. But who cares about her fertility , if you don't even have the money to support a family? Nowadays housewives are becoming increasingly unaffordable, cost of living is rising, how are you supposed to have kids if you aren't financially stable?
and some of hte non sense that men talk about on here is that they think if they are financially stable enough to buy a house and car then it means that women are willing to marry them.
Let me clear one thing for you: NOBODY is gonna marry you just because you have a house and a car. Nobody is gonna fall in love with you because you have a house. I'm gonna be buying my own house in 5 years, I don't need your fucking house.
@Ayanna240 Not that alone. "If you're a broke man, try to go for poor women. They would be more understanding of you. I work around a lot of poor women, they typically are married to other poor men."
I don't have a problem, is my poor women (and frequently rich women) who have a problem and then come bitching here and everywhere.
"I'm gonna keep simping for rich chads until one fucks me, I'm gonna keep simping for rich chads until one takes me." lol! A to some extent guys ain't much different but the vast majority ditch the wealth requirement.
[I don't have a problem, is my poor women (and frequently rich women) who have a problem and then come bitching here and everywhere.]
i can say the same for men on GAG. when was the last time you found a guy on here who wasn't whining, complaining or moaning or shitting on women? none
["I'm gonna keep simping for rich chads until one fucks me, I'm gonna keep simping for rich chads until one takes me." lol! A to some extent guys ain't much different but the vast majority ditch the wealth requirement.]
only men with no personality or looks would say that they need a ton of money to attract women. I've seen PLENTY of poor men who have wives and children. Poor people tend to marry the poor. Rich men tend to marry other rich women. People tend to wed those of their own kind.
For you, your time is running out if you're looking for a young woman of child bearing age. 41 is definitely not the age where you should be extremely picky on who you date especially if you lack personality and looks. Men without options shouldn't be picky.
@Ayanna240 "Men without options shouldn't be picky." neither should women, and men certainly are less picky for the options they have.
i think you need to get off GAG lala dream land and realize that men in their 40s do not get more attractive to young women.
@Ayanna240 Not physically, I never said their value increase because of physicality.
Also, the post doesn't say "40" the post says "with age".
And don't worry, I'm more than conscious that I hit the wall, you won't take that very well when it happens to you, if it's even applicable to you, some people are born past the wall.
Besides that, I get attention from brats, I'm not interested even in non brats, no need to take the contratual part of my open relationship into praxis.
You will orbit some 30 something chad dude, while breaking the heart of brat chad, well, that's if you can ever get that.
I’m not afraid of hitting the wall because I will be having a child and a family regardless if I get married or not. Single women can have kids without a husband. Single men can’t have kids without a wife
If I’m still single by 34/35, I’ll just have 2 kids. and when I’m looking for a sperm donor or a man to have kids with , I’m not looking for a guy over 40.
I’m not looking for refrigerated sperm either. I’m looking for fresh sperm from a young man, straight from the source.
@Ayanna240 You aren't wrong, you should look for young sperm, it's way more likely to result in healthier kids.
Also, pay the brat the fortune he deserves and pray he doesn't sue you for custody, lol!
Your plan ain't bad if you want very little, after all two parent households are way superior.
Marriages don’t work anyways, statistically 46% of all us marriages end in divorce. Now millions of kids are raised by single moms and see dad once a month
@Ayanna240 Exactly, most by no fault divorce by women who think being bored and monkey branching is a good reason to get divorced.
I know plenty.
Marriage doesn't work, pair bonding on the other hand is what brought our species here.
But you can co-parent with a loyal friend. Remember, it's not enough that they are loyal to you, you have to be loyal as well.
I’m thinking about co parenting but finding the man with the right genes , being able to support a family sufficiently with ease , has the right character is also difficult nowadays. I don’t plan on having kids with a man who struggles financially or is unreliable / untrustworthy or Is a bad role model for The kids
At the end of my life , I don’t plan on dying all lonely and neglected. By the time I’m 50 and if we both were still single , we will just get married so we would have someone to be there for each other when we hit old age. Loneliness And feeling neglected is a huge thing amongst the elderly. We can enjoy retirement together too.
Many of these fools obsess over romance and “love” until half of them find themselves divorced by 45. Then they remain single for the rest of their lives dying alone. Their ex wives take custody and they only see their kids once a month
If romance was really the secret to a forever lasting marriage then why do almost half of all marriages end in divorce? What has gone wrong?
I wouldn’t say women are the culprit for these divorces. If men had less to lose from divorce , I’m sure men would be filing for divorce too
@Ayanna240 For what you are saying, the man with the right genes for yourself is the average man, anything more should cost you a fortune.
Also, a man who can support himself is more than good enough for you.
Having the right character is good, yes, you want a man several times more moral than you who has the maturity not to baby sit you over your pettiness, he'll be settling way down under such circumstances and should understand it.
And yeah, you are right, he should be a good role model, to compensate.
I think there are a lot of men out there who are frustrated with dating and just want nothing more than to have a steady family. There is a Feeling security that you get from having a family that you can’t get from simply a “date” or a boyfriend/girlfriend relationship.
So far I have been able to find myself a couple of guys In their 30s who are looking For marriage and children without the romance. All 3 are financially stable , but only 1 out of the 3 qualified the most. He’s a doctor which is an indication of intellect , very financially well off. But what upset him was that I wasn’t interested in getting married within the next 2 months. I was 25, my career not yet in order , too early to be locked down with kids , I had my entire young adult Life/ experience unexplored. And of course I wanted to continue dating Further to see if I could eventually find the right person. He was 32-33, he’s older so of course he’d be more comfortable settling down.
Intelligent Financially well off men tend to exist And work in larger cities rather than the suburbs. Finding these types is all based on luck and rolling the dice. Most guys aren’t them but if you hangout in the right places , you will eventually find them
Being Financially secure is one of the most important things because I plan on still maintaining my career after having my children. Sure I’d love to become a stay home mom for my babies but it’s unrealistic because I still have to save for retirement , I still have to maintain my own net worth, i have to pay my share of my kids future college education, I plan on retiring early too.
So If I need a baby sitter on certain days , I gotta make sure that we can afford it. If I must work part time so I can be home for the kids for 2 years , he needs to be able to support the family for 2 years.
Personally I was raised by poor parents who pinched pennies to raise me. Being under a lot of financial stress really places an immense burden and Gives a huge headache to parents. Ans as a result , the kids usually end up suffering too because angry bitter sad moody parents just end up abusing the kids either verbally or emotionally. Bitter angry parents will not give kids a decent childhood.
@Ayanna240 I understand such, which is why I said "a man that can take care of himself".
Anything from that to above it is a plus.
Also, most divorces are motivated by money in some way, but wealth does not correlate to divorce, let that sink in. That shows that from a certain point, financial stress becomes relative.
@anylolone
Top reason for divorce are financial problems. Its been statically proven through research data that financially unstable couples are the most likely to divorce. While college educated husband and wives , both financially stable are least likely to divorce. As you can see the lack of money can be a really big problem when it comes to supporting a family.
Divorce happens a lot nowadays because people see marriage as a joy ride at an amusement park. Once the passion, excitement fades , people start ditching their spouses. If you're bored of your spouse, divorce is the solution. Rather than looking at the bright side of marriage and looking to see how you can patch things up, people look for reasons to divorce / ditch. Marriage is not a joy ride. Its supposed to be a union where you both support each other forever.
Arraigned marriages have 4% divorce rate while romance marriages have 46% divorce rate.
As you can see, romance or love really isn't the secret to a happy long lasting marriage. Its the willingness and determination to stick together through not only good times but also bad times.
[I understand such, which is why I said "a man that can take care of himself".]
here's where things get complicated:
A single man can take care of himself well with a 55k salary. But when you add 2-3 kids , college tuition fund, retirement savings, maybe wife who stays home part time to take care of the kids, baby sitter money , mortgage payments, this is when things start getting complicated and financial struggles intensifies.
@Ayanna240 But you gonna add those anyway, so that ain't the issue.
I don't know, clearly a lie
because men are better y chromosome
Probably because they become less stupid.. lol
I don't know I'm afraid of getting older..
who said he becomes more attractive?