Why don't men pursue women anymore? (Page 2)

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Jamie05rhs · Answer

It used to be fear of rejection. That was when I was a kid. But then around age 19 or 20 everything completely changed. I grew up and "glew" up (yes, I know that's not a word lol), and I became very confident. But the women changed. And I could tell that. And I was thoroughly disgusted and put off by their actions. So I retreated and walked away from the dating scene, because the prospects just didn't appeal to me anymore.

zagor · Answer

I never meet any anymore. Never was into meeting girls at bars and clubs - those places are more for getting drunk in a socially acceptable milieu. I used to go to social gatherings but those are rare due to covid. I've been working remotely, though that hasn't made a big difference since in my line of work it's 90% male anyway.

The only real possibility is to walk up to women on the street or in stores, which seems rather creepy.

EssenceOfLight · Answer

Because some of us are being pursued by girls. Those who aren't have anyway no chance even if they pursue. There is the third fraction, which are pursued by girls but it's not enough for them, they still pursue girls as well. Those guys are the source for stereotypes which affect negatively the first group.

larry69 · Answer

Sexual Harassment. Going to jail. Getting kicked out of bars and restaurants. Being alienated and called perverts and stalkers. Its real in todays political correctness system.

Adam1978 · Answer

It's not worth the effort. There is so much to do that actually is giving results and isn't dependent on others.

Dragonstarterplus · Answer

Too easy for your life to be ruined because a woman says you did something inappropriate.

Like I don't even converse with any of my female coworkers unless I have to and it's about work. Just nothing really to gain, only things to be lost

Nightroads · Answer

Well, in my case. I am married, would be wrong to pursue women. Though if i am honest with you, i have never really pursued any one. I've always been the one getting pursued. So i guess i have just never needed to.

bingbongbangbung · Answer

Uh no some men who are ugly who did compliment women did end up getting arrested. Whether or not they got sentenced I'm not sure because news outlets usually don't follow these cases unless it involves rape.

FilmGuy93 · Answer

It's just not worth the headache and effort. Forget about the "pain" of rejection; most men are so used to it that we don't really care about it. We don't pursue women because it's a waste of time.

DaveToo · Answer

Men are becoming gunshy. Approach the wrong chick and she could have you arrested. That takes all the fun out of a possible relationship.

Rohan-Thanekar · Answer

Men should stop watching porn😂.. that's all I say to my desperate single friends😂... Guys just do this one thing & everything will be fine❤️

Crazybeeguy · Answer

I did, you didn't respond to me. Without harrassing you I tried to be subtle about it, if you were more responsive in a positive manner I would gave pursued it further. Good luck

blondfrog · Answer

There really isn't any risk benefit now these days. Back then the worst she could say is no now these days you can get a no and a whole mouthful and possibly something even worse.

loves2learn · Answer

Probably fear of rejection. 🤷🏻‍♀️ I don’t like being rejected either.

JayParris · Answer

Given the general attitude towards men, I can't blame them. I don't think it has as much to do with fear as it does with recognizing that women don't want male attention. They want to be left alone

G72west · Answer

Modern life is too demanding and women today are too much into head games and scapegoating their personal hangups onto men for the effort to be balanced by the upside. Not healthy to hold a job/career that sucks most of the energy out of you and risk spending the rest of your waking hours with an emotionally needy woman-child in dire need of validation and perhaps a whipping-boy for her frustrations. Simply put, the juice is not often worth the squeeze nowadays.

Diodoro · Answer

I know several girls who talk about men actively pursuing them to take them off the market. So I know it's happening. Just a matter of who and are they pursuing you

imanalienahhhhh · Answer

I agree with most of the excuses except 6,7, and 8 are BS lol
Some guys really have legitimate trouble trying to ‘compliment a womans ego’ as you put it.

lol wtf is this, I’m not trying to appease anyones ego.
I just introduce myself and ask What’s your name and how are you?
If A woman that likes me gives me the cold shoulder for fun, lol why would i possibly keep trying with the same person. I respect boundaries, and there’s plenty of women who know what they want

exitseven · Answer

If I was single I would be pursuing women. Now that I am older I bet I would be better than average at it.

NoOneLikesMeEver · Answer

All your points are valid except 6: It is kind of rocket science because guys need to be witty/funny to be attractive to most women. And my Asperger’s/ADHD makes it very hard to think of a comeback or respond in a playful way.

FakeName123 · Answer

Because its a net loss to do so nowadays. Many women are simply not worth it anymore and you are always at risk of being accused of any form of sexual assault. Just not worth it.

demonics · Answer

We're equal now. You can pursue sweetie!  Then again there's always the obvious answer.

Guardian45 · Answer

Cuz they might get arrested for stalking or harassment. Or simply cuz men are tired of ALWAYS being the one who has to pursue; can't she pursue him too? My most memorable relationships were the ones where my girlfriend pursued me.

GoodGuyBreakingBad · Answer

We do fear rejection and I rather a woman/ girl approach me

Assi2k · Answer

Many guys are perusing me. It’s just that I’m focused on my education right now so I can’t date.

bolverk · Answer

Men still do pursue women, but they also do a risk - benefit analysis to see if the woman is worth the pursuit, and from the men's POV many women today are not worth it and so must be avoided.

buddysboy16 · Answer

It's because if the girl finds them unattractive, they scream assault

ChiPaPa · Answer

I was never a social butterfly. I did, however pursue for quite some time. After being rejected by every woman i wanted to date for fourteen years, I haven't bothered for three. it seems like everyone is either taken or not interested.

Paul09 · Answer

Do you ask men out? Women mostly win in the end. Men have to do the first everything, while you just sit their looking pretty. I'm just fed up of it all. Seems very one sided. And building trust with a stranger! Oh a tough one.

MrDanZa · Answer

I would beg to differ, men are definitely still pursuing women, the fact that there are more male accounts than female on this website is proof of that. Even though this is not a dating site it still has some aspects to one.

Miristheiss · Answer

Hmmmmm,  The world is replete with couples and marriages.  Is the premise of this thread really true?

Drzen · Answer

Women think they can bring pussy to the table we can buy that for reasonable price some of us get for free at 6.2 feet so they should bring something higher value than only their vagina

IHateBeingaMan · Answer

maybe a lot of guys, men, don't want to risk being labeled as harassing or weird, creepy anymore? unfortuneately, a lot of guys get labeled that way even if they mean no harm towards the woman

haooy · Answer

Well we still do, if we find someone worthy to be pursued.
I wouldn't do it because I am not that young anymore and heartbreak has taught me many things also I think the hunger for one another should be mutual.

Tstrbrainer · Answer

It's useless and waste of time.  I'd rather go to an escort

Slayerrrrrrr · Answer

Ain't nobody got time for that. If a girl sees something she likes; why can't she just go for it?

Sam_The_Savage · Answer

I approach bitches. For quick fuck.  And I get girls for hook up easily. Bkoz I spend enough dollars on big boobs.  Your charges?

HappySquarePants · Answer

When you're a 6/10 annoying 5'3 manlet with a whole arsenal of bizarre fetishes and a weird, child-like sense of humor whom tries way too hard to be funny, it's just best to leave women alone.

CasuallyDone · Answer

Because, equal rights, and equal social standing, also come with the social obligation of pursuing equally, it's not only the man's job to pursue anymore.

OlderAndWiser · Answer

Are you talking to me?

Makeushiver · Answer

Since when. Nobody told me and I love seducing women.

captain_voidwalker · Answer

Because you aren't worth the effort. Ohh look space ghost is on

newfreshstart · Answer

i dont pursue because i got turned down a fee times i know thats life it still sucks  the rigth girl will come along i think

EQisKEY · Answer

Because too many bad apples ruined it for the rest of us. Ladies have grown jaded to a man approaching... Though I still make it a point to make an attempt every single day.

Shiningtempest · Answer

@wowwgirl Some men won't pursue women anymore because they believe dating is equivalent to playing Russian roulette.

TallAnon · Answer

We still do, but our network is exponentially bigger, if a woman is playing games, hard to get, etc. We can just go to the next woman.

FireFox001 · Answer

There are barely any women left worth pursuing tbh.

bamesjond0069 · Answer

Because women are not worth it. As the average womans value decreases it just means men are willing to put in less and less effort.

moviedude714 · Answer

Maybe they are growing tired and resentful of being the hunters?

seer09 · Answer

The social movement is towards respecting 'no means no'. Ask once then move on. It's time women learn to make up their mind when asked the first time.

Nick473 · Answer

I guess its part fear and anxiety. Cause i get strong emotions when im about to do it and it makes me think I already failed

Shy_Steve · Answer

Simply because there is already a 60 or 70% chance that he would get rejected.

Amur8711 · Answer

Don't want to be accused of harassment or sexual harassment.

rebeliouse · Answer

@wowwgirl too scared that if the woman takes a dislike she will just turn on the metoo card etc

loveslongnails · Answer

Maybe they don't in Missouri, but they still do in the rest of the world. :-D

Maybe-Your-Neighbor · Answer

“You are losing nothing you came with.”  My self esteem is at stake.

Azura_88 · Answer

Their egos are growing huge.

Mehzmeh · Answer

No. Most of these little boys think females should just come to them. Not knowing that men are natural hunter’s. And most females like to be chased.

BigKevHanma · Answer

Prostitutes strippers and porn and also normal women aren’t very good in bed so everything you go through in an attempt to get laid just feels like a waste of time

Dinosaursandanime65 · Answer

Hold on…. I think I might have seen it once or twice at school. Not a bad start

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