Is he leading me on?

[Moomin789]

I've been talking to a guy for years and although its platonic (i think) he is flirty and has occasionally mentioned us being together (so we re together now). he's very popular and has lots of girls as friends. I've had boyfriends and he always seems to text more during those times. We have kissed in the past and he says he hasn't kissed anyone since, that was 2 years ago. I've always felt he leads me on and then when it gets to hanging out he backs away. So this time we ve messaged every day, he said we re together and after a month i said i kinda feel you're leading me on again and if thats true id rather not bother, he messaged back ok no worries. So in my head he's agreeing that he has lead me on. he's now ignoring me. So am i right in thinking he is and always has led me on and its never going to go anywhere?

[Iron_Man]

How many years have you known this guy? You’ve never really even done a thing together Like make a commitment to be boyfriend and girlfriend

[Moomin789]

6 years and never any commitment. I always thought we were friends but his behaviour was always borderline something more but cos he never directly asked me out i just played it platonically.

[Iron_Man]

Yeah that’s a pretty long time I guess you’re gonna have to do what you have to do

[Moomin789]

I guess so

[Iron_Man]

But you can always keep him as a friend

[spartan55]

He just doesn't want to deal with the drama.

[Moomin789]

Yeah that makes sense on this occasion, previously I've never questioned a thing just let him come and go but i guess thats what he wants, a doormat 🤷‍♀️

[spartan55]

Sounds like you are ready to move on from doormat status.

[Moomin789]

Yep i agree !! Just wanted to make sure im reading the situation right

[IncognitoBandito]

It sounds like he doesn't want anything serious

[Mgpretty23]

Honestly, yea.

[In_Trance]

seems like it