Why are men cheating on a beautiful, smart and kind women?
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Beats the shit out of me. I had a decent looking, mean and nasty, spiteful and flat evil woman and I didn't even consider cheating on because I valued the institution of marriage. However, she did not share that same respect for the institution, despite, ironically, that being her biggest selling point in the early days.
I figured, she may not be the nicest person, definitely opinionated, but I at least will never have to worry about her cheating because she was so strongly against it and despised people who engaged in infidelity and was loudly vocal as to how despicable those people were. WRONG! That turned out to be a lie.
While she wouldn't even let me see a friend of mine who had an affair on his wife for years, it turned out she was a whore. And I have no idea how many times she cheated, I know of two because I have concrete proof.
It turned out her attitude about cheating was directly tied to opportunity. As long as she didn't have the opportunity to cheat, she was against it. And if I even recognized another women as attractive, I was sleeping on the couch.
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Probably because those women aren't with good men, or perhaps those women aren't as picture-perfect as you believe them to be.
Cheaters are degenerate scum. You really don't have to dive into the subject too deeply to figure that out, or waste your time trying to understand the "why." A cheater could have the absolute best date or spouse in the world (if it were objectively measurable) and still cheat. Someone worth a damn would at least formally break up before running off with their next conquest.
I see the woman hate train and a lot of deflecting. We all do things based on experience and guarding ourselves. But you men need to be honest! Y’all are not always truthful, respectful, considerate and y'all sex sucks!!! Y’all have this high expectations for women but can’t even nor have any of those qualities y’all expect a woman to have. Be realistic, you can’t expect a good working honest woman who is caring and loving while you don’t have a job or not even taking care of yourself for the sake of YOU!🙄🙄 and before y’all deflect and say women do the same thing, yes we do, nor is it right. In experience men never want to take a woman serious until he has sex with her. Then that’s when y’all decide if she’s the one, your living the good life benefiting from dealing with a good caliber woman when you yourself ain’t shit🙄🙄. No we aren’t always gold diggers we just want to see if you can pay for your own shit😂😂😂
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I guess like most people they get bored of the familiar. Being pretty doesn't make you different from being human. Many would like to think it's the golden ticket. All it does it allows you to meet men from a wider dating pool.
You still will meet pigs, men that think they own you, men that only date you for your looks, men that use your looks to boost his status etc etc
Whatever attracted you in the first place unless there's a deep connection that satisfies him I think if he's a cheater he will cheat.
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It has absolutely *nothing* to do with ‘who’ the wife or girlfriend of a man is, or what splendid qualities or attributes she may possess.
Its about getting your erect penis and then your sperm up into as many women’s vaginas as you’re able to, ‘spreading your seed’, as they say.
We don’t really care to know about the ‘other’ woman’s hopes and her dreams, her plans or goals or accomplishments or talents...
Hell, we don’t even need to know her name.
On this basic, ‘hit & run’ level it isn’t about love, or even infatuation...
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Cuz a lot of times those beautiful, smart and kind women are very kind to "other people" but then they behave as themselves without faking towards their men. Which can be either an icequeen, a female-jerk, or just constantly giving attention to other people instead of their men.
And many times a woman comes around that could be very ugly but will treat the guy like a king, giving him lots of attention etc... Whatever he's craving in his own relationship.
I'm not saying what the guy is doing is good. I'm just stating facts here. - 1.2K opinions shared on Guy's Behavior topic.
Cuz they are a piece of shit , or she treats him like shit , but all in all he is the piece of shit for going back to her like nothing happened , he already proved to himself that he doesn’t love and value her if he can go cheat on her , but if he ends it with her immediately m, then he isn’t that much of a piece of shit , people cheat all the time and it’s 1 of the worst things you can do to someone , it’s a selfish act , but if you end it immediately with your partner , it’s more respectful being honest then playing them and wasting their time Most people can’t admit to themselves that they are a piece of shit
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The amount of men putting blame on the woman is... disappointing. Its victim blaming and gaslighting. Like telling a girl its her own fault she got hit, or she's equally responsible for getting raped.
Yeah, there's things you can do differently and everyone does things that are right and wrong in a relationship; but cheating is not the other person's fault. You cannot do an evil and then point to the other person as an explanation for that evil. You fully and consciously made a choice, and its 100% on you. -
People can cheat for various reasons it can vary from person to person but it doesn't mean the person they cheated on was less in any manner self worth isn't attached to any relationship if the other person had weak character it isn't your fault, loyalty is a choice people who genuinely love their partner won't feel the urge to be with someone else
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Does it ever occur to women who get swept off their feet because a decent looking guy knows the exact right words to say to woo any woman and knows how to dress and act to instantly form an attraction, does it make you women wonder if maybe he’s good at it because he’s literally done this to 1,000 other women? If he knows exactly what to say to make you feel a certain way then you have no idea how many other women he’s done the same thing to in that week alone. If a guy can go and pick up a beautiful smart (let’s be honest, intelligence is not something we really care about), then he is going to keep picking up beautiful women regardless of if he’s in a relationship because, even though he’s made you fall for him, he is still thinking about the next woman he’s going to pick up.
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Because he's either bored of her or found a booty call. Sometimes men cheat on women with someone less attractive because those are the women that are sexually aggressive and sometimes a man will follow his dick at that moment. If not less attractive its the rush of new booty honestly
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Because they're assholes and don't deserve you're attention!! I keep telling all of you girls about these losers but, OBVIOUSLY it's what you go out hunting for!! There are LOTS of us honest, loving, loyal and trustworthy nice guys out there but, you ALWAYS, ALWAYS, ALWAYS go after the assholes!!! I JUST DON'T get it!!
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Most common reason given by men in relationships that ended or given for cheating is "Nothing I ever did was good enough for her".
If you want to understand, dissect what makes them feel that way to get to some kind of meaningful change that produces better outcomes. -
Because they are stupid because they're selfish because they think they're so smart that they're going to get away with it and they just don't care that is the only reasons I can never think of them doing it because I watch it happen all the time and they are fools
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I think its because we're living in a world with billions of people and there are many beautiful people so its easy to be tempted, the cheating happens when someone makes the CHOICE to do it, and when that happens, it isn't anyone's fault except the person who cheated, so there can't really be a blame or a reason why people cheat, its generally all based on a choice and peoples will. If you don't want to do something then you wouldn't do it.
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Me neither. could be any reasons. I often like to think wrong partner or wrong people they married into (friends family other external pressures) or whatever.
maybe they just grew apart or were always doomed someday even unknowingly doomed lol but sad face sigh 🙄🙄😭😭😭😭 - 880 opinions shared on Guy's Behavior topic.
Because you Girls think most Confident Guys are good Guys but most of them are Players who will flirt with any Girl especially if they find them attractive and they don't just stop doing that if they have a Girlfriend or Wife.
A lot of you Girls think you can change a Guy like that but he is still gonna get those urges so your much better dating a Shy Guy who would never do that, But most of you Girls don't and say that all Guys are like that, But us Shy Guys never do that. -
Same reason why women do the same thing but maybe what we need to ask ourselves is why are we such poor judges of character you can’t change someone else’s behavior unless you control them and even then it’s probably only going to be temporary and it’s demented but you can change how you do things much easier and it’s healthier it’s not your fault they cheat it’s your fault you picked them
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Honestly I won't ever understand them.
If you feel the need to cheat it means you are not 8n love anymore, or not as strongly as before.
That means that you should confront your girlfriend or at least have the decency to end the relationship.
But I guess they are just selfish cowards that want to keep a secure option if the affair goes bad -
I ask myself that about all my ex GFs that all cheated on me when I was always faithful and always treated them right. I seen eanty of street interviews with women saying that they have cheated on every guy they have been with and they they enjoy doing it because it's fun!
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Why do females do the same to guys? I don't know because I've never cheated, will never cheat and that's not because I've never even been on a date or ever will be but because I have morals, point is if you know why a female would cheat on a great guy then you probably have your answer for your question.
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As the song lyrics state: "Don't it ALWAYS seem to go... yah don't know what you got till its gone..."
There are MANY men who'd KILL to have the companion and relationship you're throwing away! >:( -
People usually cheat because there's something lacking. Like attention, sex... morals, and respect for others. Excitement. Because they just want something new, new, new, new, new.
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Because promiscuous/hook up/ONS/friends with benefits kind of people tend not to be faithful/loyal no matter how good their partner is. That is why if you are a good person you should always avoid the kind of people that have a promiscuous past.
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