Why are men cheating on a beautiful, smart and kind women?

[Anonymous]

[Floppy2112]

Beats the shit out of me. I had a decent looking, mean and nasty, spiteful and flat evil woman and I didn't even consider cheating on because I valued the institution of marriage. However, she did not share that same respect for the institution, despite, ironically, that being her biggest selling point in the early days.
I figured, she may not be the nicest person, definitely opinionated, but I at least will never have to worry about her cheating because she was so strongly against it and despised people who engaged in infidelity and was loudly vocal as to how despicable those people were. WRONG! That turned out to be a lie.
While she wouldn't even let me see a friend of mine who had an affair on his wife for years, it turned out she was a whore. And I have no idea how many times she cheated, I know of two because I have concrete proof.
It turned out her attitude about cheating was directly tied to opportunity. As long as she didn't have the opportunity to cheat, she was against it. And if I even recognized another women as attractive, I was sleeping on the couch.

[BCA6010]

Probably because those women aren't with good men, or perhaps those women aren't as picture-perfect as you believe them to be.

Cheaters are degenerate scum. You really don't have to dive into the subject too deeply to figure that out, or waste your time trying to understand the "why." A cheater could have the absolute best date or spouse in the world (if it were objectively measurable) and still cheat. Someone worth a damn would at least formally break up before running off with their next conquest.

[zariahdp]

I see the woman hate train and a lot of deflecting. We all do things based on experience and guarding ourselves. But you men need to be honest! Y’all are not always truthful, respectful, considerate and y'all sex sucks!!! Y’all have this high expectations for women but can’t even nor have any of those qualities y’all expect a woman to have. Be realistic, you can’t expect a good working honest woman who is caring and loving while you don’t have a job or not even taking care of yourself for the sake of YOU!🙄🙄 and before y’all deflect and say women do the same thing, yes we do, nor is it right. In experience men never want to take a woman serious until he has sex with her. Then that’s when y’all decide if she’s the one, your living the good life benefiting from dealing with a good caliber woman when you yourself ain’t shit🙄🙄. No we aren’t always gold diggers we just want to see if you can pay for your own shit😂😂😂

[Rizack]

Both man and woman in this post are projecting their experiences it seems.
And it's sad that mos of those experiences were with assholes

[lilyanony1]

I guess like most people they get bored of the familiar. Being pretty doesn't make you different from being human. Many would like to think it's the golden ticket. All it does it allows you to meet men from a wider dating pool.
You still will meet pigs, men that think they own you, men that only date you for your looks, men that use your looks to boost his status etc etc

Whatever attracted you in the first place unless there's a deep connection that satisfies him I think if he's a cheater he will cheat.

[Bobsyoruncle]

It has absolutely *nothing* to do with ‘who’ the wife or girlfriend of a man is, or what splendid qualities or attributes she may possess.

Its about getting your erect penis and then your sperm up into as many women’s vaginas as you’re able to, ‘spreading your seed’, as they say.

We don’t really care to know about the ‘other’ woman’s hopes and her dreams, her plans or goals or accomplishments or talents...

Hell, we don’t even need to know her name.

On this basic, ‘hit & run’ level it isn’t about love, or even infatuation...

It’s just about *sex*.

[Rizack]

And those are the ones that should remain single forever

[Finchie40]

Cuz they are a piece of shit , or she treats him like shit , but all in all he is the piece of shit for going back to her like nothing happened , he already proved to himself that he doesn’t love and value her if he can go cheat on her , but if he ends it with her immediately m, then he isn’t that much of a piece of shit , people cheat all the time and it’s 1 of the worst things you can do to someone , it’s a selfish act , but if you end it immediately with your partner , it’s more respectful being honest then playing them and wasting their time Most people can’t admit to themselves that they are a piece of shit

[Angelo75]

Cuz a lot of times those beautiful, smart and kind women are very kind to "other people" but then they behave as themselves without faking towards their men. Which can be either an icequeen, a female-jerk, or just constantly giving attention to other people instead of their men.
And many times a woman comes around that could be very ugly but will treat the guy like a king, giving him lots of attention etc... Whatever he's craving in his own relationship.

I'm not saying what the guy is doing is good. I'm just stating facts here.

[Ninaface]

The amount of men putting blame on the woman is... disappointing. Its victim blaming and gaslighting. Like telling a girl its her own fault she got hit, or she's equally responsible for getting raped.
Yeah, there's things you can do differently and everyone does things that are right and wrong in a relationship; but cheating is not the other person's fault. You cannot do an evil and then point to the other person as an explanation for that evil. You fully and consciously made a choice, and its 100% on you.

[This_Is_My_Opinion8]

Agree!
While the woman can be to blame for the relationships problems, is still not a reason to cheat. A real man will try to talk with his partner if he is not happy. If things stay the same he leaves. Never cheating has as excuse.

[tee_64]

People can cheat for various reasons it can vary from person to person but it doesn't mean the person they cheated on was less in any manner self worth isn't attached to any relationship if the other person had weak character it isn't your fault, loyalty is a choice people who genuinely love their partner won't feel the urge to be with someone else

[Anonymous]

Does it ever occur to women who get swept off their feet because a decent looking guy knows the exact right words to say to woo any woman and knows how to dress and act to instantly form an attraction, does it make you women wonder if maybe he’s good at it because he’s literally done this to 1,000 other women? If he knows exactly what to say to make you feel a certain way then you have no idea how many other women he’s done the same thing to in that week alone. If a guy can go and pick up a beautiful smart (let’s be honest, intelligence is not something we really care about), then he is going to keep picking up beautiful women regardless of if he’s in a relationship because, even though he’s made you fall for him, he is still thinking about the next woman he’s going to pick up.

[jailbreak]

Because he's either bored of her or found a booty call. Sometimes men cheat on women with someone less attractive because those are the women that are sexually aggressive and sometimes a man will follow his dick at that moment. If not less attractive its the rush of new booty honestly

[whosnumber1]

mmmmmmmm. new boots. (insert drool here)

[whosnumber1]

booty, stupid auto correct! fuck

[jailbreak]

@whosnumber1 lmao new boots wtf!!! lmao

[FunkyMonkee]

Because they're assholes and don't deserve you're attention!! I keep telling all of you girls about these losers but, OBVIOUSLY it's what you go out hunting for!! There are LOTS of us honest, loving, loyal and trustworthy nice guys out there but, you ALWAYS, ALWAYS, ALWAYS go after the assholes!!! I JUST DON'T get it!!

[Diodoro]

Most common reason given by men in relationships that ended or given for cheating is "Nothing I ever did was good enough for her".

If you want to understand, dissect what makes them feel that way to get to some kind of meaningful change that produces better outcomes.

[ohshee]

Because they are stupid because they're selfish because they think they're so smart that they're going to get away with it and they just don't care that is the only reasons I can never think of them doing it because I watch it happen all the time and they are fools

[WispyThought]

I think its because we're living in a world with billions of people and there are many beautiful people so its easy to be tempted, the cheating happens when someone makes the CHOICE to do it, and when that happens, it isn't anyone's fault except the person who cheated, so there can't really be a blame or a reason why people cheat, its generally all based on a choice and peoples will. If you don't want to do something then you wouldn't do it.

[pickedcrisps]

Me neither. could be any reasons. I often like to think wrong partner or wrong people they married into (friends family other external pressures) or whatever.

maybe they just grew apart or were always doomed someday even unknowingly doomed lol but sad face sigh 🙄🙄😭😭😭😭

[Shy_Steve]

Because you Girls think most Confident Guys are good Guys but most of them are Players who will flirt with any Girl especially if they find them attractive and they don't just stop doing that if they have a Girlfriend or Wife.
A lot of you Girls think you can change a Guy like that but he is still gonna get those urges so your much better dating a Shy Guy who would never do that, But most of you Girls don't and say that all Guys are like that, But us Shy Guys never do that.

[humpbackjack]

Same reason why women do the same thing but maybe what we need to ask ourselves is why are we such poor judges of character you can’t change someone else’s behavior unless you control them and even then it’s probably only going to be temporary and it’s demented but you can change how you do things much easier and it’s healthier it’s not your fault they cheat it’s your fault you picked them

[Rizack]

Honestly I won't ever understand them.
If you feel the need to cheat it means you are not 8n love anymore, or not as strongly as before.
That means that you should confront your girlfriend or at least have the decency to end the relationship.

But I guess they are just selfish cowards that want to keep a secure option if the affair goes bad

[Iknowbestgirls]

I ask myself that about all my ex GFs that all cheated on me when I was always faithful and always treated them right. I seen eanty of street interviews with women saying that they have cheated on every guy they have been with and they they enjoy doing it because it's fun!

[InferiorElegy]

Why do females do the same to guys? I don't know because I've never cheated, will never cheat and that's not because I've never even been on a date or ever will be but because I have morals, point is if you know why a female would cheat on a great guy then you probably have your answer for your question.

[TheorionMage]

As the song lyrics state: "Don't it ALWAYS seem to go... yah don't know what you got till its gone..."
There are MANY men who'd KILL to have the companion and relationship you're throwing away! >:(

[Little_Bumblebee]

People usually cheat because there's something lacking. Like attention, sex... morals, and respect for others. Excitement. Because they just want something new, new, new, new, new.

[HighValue]

Because promiscuous/hook up/ONS/friends with benefits kind of people tend not to be faithful/loyal no matter how good their partner is. That is why if you are a good person you should always avoid the kind of people that have a promiscuous past.

[Spookydood]

Depends on who she's dating and the woman in question, is your "smart, beautiful and kind" woman actually a midwitted, average looking, kind of bitchy shrew? Is she cheating? Is the guy a well known player? Is their relationship shit? You tell me.

[normalice]

Probably they just want dirty sex and beautiful, kind, smart women dedicate all their energy to being beautiful, kind, and smart, instead of dedicating any time to figuring out how to be a dirty cock fiend. But that's just my guess..

[illallowit]

Umm.. We can do both.

[normalice]

Of course they can. It's just that it's rare for girls to actually do both. Plus if a girl does both, to some guys, it can be a bit intimidating, as there will be pressure to keep her sexually satisfied that sounded thrilling at the start but may turn out to exceed what a guy is capable of. When that happens, I call it "his eyes were bigger than his balls."

So, there is a middle road upon which is perfect compatibility. And the more exceptional a girl is the more exceptional a guy compatible with her will need to be. It may not make sense that a guy would cheat if a girl is too good for him but if a girl is too bad for him it does make sense and being disappointed in oneself all the time feels basically the same as being disappointed in someone else; There is a huge difference between resentment and regret but not that much difference in what people experiencing either end up doing.

[illallowit]

Well, people cheat all the time for all different reasons. Very little of that has to do with logistics. It's usually something emotional that is missing. I'm constantly told I "date down" and I find it really insulting to be honest. I like what I like and go after it. It never has to do with money or looks. I once dated a guy for 2 years because he got the hiccups whenever he laughed too much and this tickled me to no end. Small pleasures baby.. small pleasures

[normalice]

Hm. Well, my guess is you tend to find men that have low-ish self esteem and may even make it lower because they can't convince themselves they deserve you. If they cheat it is likely to alleviate the pressure that comes with feeling a need to constantly put on a performance.

But fortunately self esteem is something most men get automatically as they get older and realize how limited everyone else is. So, your perceived status as "too good for most of the guys you know" has a built in expiration. Still is probably annoying you have to wait for it but at least it isn't forever, eh?

[illallowit]

Wait for what exactly? Deserve me? I'm not a piece of cake... I mean that in the sense of, That if I am interested and it's mutual... They have already caught my interest. They good. Whatever fresh hell is going on in their heads? I would hope they would just talk to me about it. People are complex. I would never be so vain to assume I know everything about anyone simply by looking at them. As far as my friends opinion on men that I date... Their agenda revolves around status, money and their perception of what's attractive. So it's dismissed. I just feel like everyone overthinks this shit to no end. You can never tell what's going to happen.

[normalice]

Correct. But compound it with the fact that learning to communicate has actually become further out of reach for a lot of people over the years.

[Pepsiman23]

They feel they can get away with it, they don’t care about that particular woman, they get too caught up in the heat of the moment, they could be seduced, they might have a crush on that girl, they’re bored of the girl they’re with that they cheated on. Those are the reasons I could think of off the top of my head

[ohdontyaknow]

They could be being treated poorly but still love her and not want to leave, or it's an open relationship but not really, or to get back at her for doing it first

[musicloverr8]

Because they are stupid and think they won't get caught. They are bored with their family role, and want an adventure to plant their penis and get an std. Smart women will leave these pigs 🙂 like my mom did.

[ColoradoKid]

Some men and women don't realize what they have until it's gone. I have never or will ever cheat on anyone. I will not be the person that helps someone to cheat. If you are not that happy with that person just separate from them.

[Crazycookie23]

From what I've learned, it isn't about being beautiful or smart and that guys simply cheat with whom makes them feel more wanted or someone who can stroke their ego a little more.

[VanillaSalt]

Because you’re notary beautiful, smart, or kind as you think… probably kind. Many women claim to be nice but are total bitches… nice guy for the ladies.

[OlderAndWiser]

Cheating is not about sexual satisfaction. Cheating is about taking risks and breaking the rules for fun. Cheaters do that because their sense of obligation to their partner is minimal.

[shaysh87]

cheating occurs in dysfunctional relationships. thats something you failed to point out. If a man is truly happy with the person he is with, he would have no need for another woman.

[OlderAndWiser]

@shaysh87 A person who cheats is disposed to cheating before they ever get into a relationship. They have some personality flaws. As a result, the relationship they enter is flawed, but that is not the cause of the cheating.

[shaysh87]

It’s true that someone who cheats is already flawed prior to entering the relationship but I’m just telling you that over 90% of the time, cheating occurs in dysfunctional relationships

[OlderAndWiser]

@shaysh87 An I suspect that at least 90% of the relationships which cheaters attempt to have are dysfunctional.

It sounds like you are trying to suggest that if a man cheats, it must be because his female partner at home was doing something wrong. I have had two partners cheat on me and it wasn't because they couldn't get sexual attention at home.

[shaysh87]

I think that many people try to justify neglecting their own marriages / relationships by blaming the cheater. Just because your husband was wrong for cheating , it doesn't mean that you were right for neglecting your own marriage. Everything happens for a reason. You are solely responsible for your own marriage. If you sense something is wrong with your relationship / marriage, you talk it out with your spouse. You have no idea how many people out there only care about what they can get out of a relationship and never think about their spouses needs. And you are also solely responsible for selecting a man that has good character and doesn't cheat. If you marry a guy who you know you cannot trust, then he cheats on you. Then you really have no right to complain. Because you knew you married someone you could not trust.

Many adults on here act like entitled babies. Take absolutely no responsibility for their own role in dysfunctional relationships. And if anything bad happens, its always everyone else's fault but theirs. Its the immaturity thats the problem. These people weren't raised with the mindset that they are the sole ones responsible for themselves. there's nobody else that is responsible for your own safety in this world

[shaysh87]

If the relationship seems to be going well but they cheated on you, you probably weren't the one for them. Fulfilled happy people in happy relationships usually have no reason to cheat.

[OlderAndWiser]

@shaysh87 By your responses, I would guess (and I might be wrong) tat you have cheated on a partner in the past.

1. " You have no idea how many people out there only care about what they can get out of a relationship and never think about their spouses needs." Why do you think that I have no idea? I have almost none times as much adult experience as you do, and I was a mental health counsellor for about 6 years.

2. " If you marry a guy who you know you cannot trust, then he cheats on you. Then you really have no right to complain. Because you knew you married someone you could not trust." Do you honestly think that most victims of a cheating spouse married the person KNOWING or STRONGLY SUSPECTING that they would cheat. It may happen occasionally, but it is not the way things normally work.

3. "Many adults on here act like entitled babies. Take absolutely no responsibility for their own role in dysfunctional relationships." Yes, there are people who only look for someone else to blame, but. . . NOTHING that happens within a relationship is a valid reason to be unfaithful to your partner.

Obviously, you and I aren't going to agree, and you don't need to respond, but you probably want to have the last word.

[shaysh87]

To answer your question, I've never had a relationship before. So no, I've never had an affair.

[1. " You have no idea how many people out there only care about what they can get out of a relationship and never think about their spouses needs." Why do you think that I have no idea? I have almost none times as much adult experience as you do, and I was a mental health counsellor for about 6 years.]

I’ve met a ton of cheating guys over the internet over the course of many many years. Frequently a lot of these guys are in chronically dysfunctional relationships. Some of these guys don’t even want to cheat but their marriages are just so unfulfilling they need someone else to fulfill their needs, in order to stay married to their incompetent wives. The reality is, they don’t want to leave their wives but they are just so unfulfilled. Almost every single guy who cheats on his wife is usually chronically unfulfilled in some way shape or form.

[shaysh87]

[2. " If you marry a guy who you know you cannot trust, then he cheats on you. Then you really have no right to complain. Because you knew you married someone you could not trust."

Do you honestly think that most victims of a cheating spouse married the person KNOWING or STRONGLY SUSPECTING that they would cheat. It may happen occasionally, but it is not the way things normally work.]

I suggest you stop making excuses for a irresponsible folks who neglect their own marriages. Because as you have stated earlier , cheaters tend to be flawed people (right from the beginning of the relationship). If you are with a flawed man who thinks cheating is secretly ok, then you shouldn’t found out about that before proceeding to marriage. Run some tests on him. After being someone for many years, you likely would know them very well. Frequently a lot of women on here often claim “I am worried that my boyfriend will cheat on me”. If you have to worry about your man cheating on you, it means HE WILL CHEAT ON YOU.

[shaysh87]

[3. "Many adults on here act like entitled babies. Take absolutely no responsibility for their own role in dysfunctional relationships." Yes, there are people who only look for someone else to blame, but. . . NOTHING that happens within a relationship is a valid reason to be unfaithful to your partner.

Obviously, you and I aren't going to agree, and you don't need to respond, but you probably want to have the last word.]

Of course you wouldn’t agree with me. Because humans are designed to be EMOTIONAL THINKERS, NOT LOGICAL THINKERS. People run according to emotions and ego. When you get cheated on, putting all the blame on your cheating partner FEELS BETTER than reevaluating your role in the failed relationship.

[shaysh87]

By no means, am I justifying cheating in any way shape or form. Cheating is a very lowly thing to do. But just because the cheater is wrong, it doesn't necessarily make you right.

When people get cheated on, there is always a blame game going on.
Who is right? Who is wrong?

Reality is, dysfunctional relationships takes two parties to occur. It takes two to tango. There is a cause and effect relationship going on.

And of course, you're responsible for marrying a man of good character. If you're willing to overlook some serious flaws such as him being sneaky and deceiving. Don't complain if he deceives you one day.

[OlderAndWiser]

@shaysh87 I KNEW you were one of those who wants the last word! And I knew you had absolutely no experience with what you are talking about. And perhaps you should look at yourself and determine why you have never had a relationship.

I've been in relationships for ffty years, you've NEVER been in one, and you are lecturing me! Hahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahaha!

[shaysh87]

Being able to think and see things from my perspective requires a lot of logical and objective thinking. Its not something the overwhelming majority of folks can do. You won't agree with me because can't think like me.

[shaysh87]

[I KNEW you were one of those who wants the last word! And I knew you had absolutely no experience with what you are talking about. And perhaps you should look at yourself and determine why you have never had a relationship.

I've been in relationships for ffty years, you've NEVER been in one, and you are lecturing me! Hahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahaha!]

This is just proof that you're wayy too emotional to be able to logically discuss anything.

I'm single because I haven't found anyone I am romantically attracted to. It doesn't mean I haven't had guys who had fallen for me. I've had many suitors , none of which i was ever attracted to.

[OlderAndWiser]

@shaysh87 Wasn't the main focus of your argument that people look for someone else to blame when something goes wrong?

And didn't you refuse to respond to my observation that you have absolutely no experience in relationships?

And don't you need to have the final word so you can feel that you "won?" News flash: if you are more interested in winning arguments than finding ways to get along with people, you will die alone with your cats.

[OlderAndWiser]

I'm waiting for it! Prove me right!

[shaysh87]

Everything happens for a reason. Nobody cheats for absolutely no reason. If your partner cheated on you, chances are you weren't fulfilling her or you weren't the right one for her. there's no point in arguing with this fact. EVERYTHING HAPPENS FOR A REASON.

[shaysh87]

Facts are facts. Its not about "who won".

[shaysh87]

[I'm waiting for it! Prove me right!]

there's nothing right about neglecting your own relationship.

[OlderAndWiser]

@shaysh87 Nothing is as laughable as a young person who is so convinced of the correctness of their unfounded opinions that their self-righteousness converts their opinions into facts.

I've had enough of this. Goodbye.

[shaysh87]

Some people don't get wiser as they get older. Just like how some people never mature as they enter old age. I've been on here for a long time and I've seen you write some pretty immature things yourself.

[shaysh87]

Facts are facts. Trying to cast facts as " opinions" without any logical legitimate explanation gives your argument no weight. You can't even disprove what I've said.

[OlderAndWiser]

@shaysh87 You don't understand goodbye, do you?

[t-8900]

could be anything from daddy issues to an overinflated ego, to a delusional partner. Who knows, I dont get it. If you cheat you're just crap.

[paradiseonearth93]

Because the men themselves feel insecure and unworthy. Spoken from experience. It’s typically the insecure one that cheats.

[Rizack]

I don't completely agree.
Some insecure man won't cheat simply because they know they were lucky to find one, why risk to lose her?

[paradiseonearth93]

@Rizack I’m not saying all insecure men cheat.. I’m saying men that do cheat are insecure

[DizzyDesii]

They either fear commitment, have never truly loved someone, are never satisfied, or just have too many options to wana give up the rest

[dustybiker]

Their are men and woman out there who give themselves permission to cheat. That’s what it boils down to.

[snowgirl123]

because they don't truly love them and they are horrible people who are selfish

[Ninani]

Because it's not about the woman. People cheat because of their own issues.

[WinterWind]

Are you a cheater to know that?

[Ninani]

No, but I've been close many times. One of the reasons I work on myself, to make sure I am in control of my own actions. Trauma is a bitch to work on, but necessary.

[WinterWind]

LoL I was joking.

Sometimes we lose control. And if we liked the sensation, that's going to happen again; we are going to pursue that pleasure. I never cheated, but I was going to fall into a manipulation. Fortunately, I could keep my dignity. Tho now I kinda like that thrill. That's what I am afraid of.

[Ninani]

It's addictive to break the rules and get away with it, even the thought alone is both thrilling and terrifying.

[USMC-Crossroads]

The answer to that is obvious - If a girl is too young to know why, then she's too young to believe, or heed, the truth.

[zariahdp]

Or men just lie until they get caught🙄🙄🙄it some many pretenders and only the true colors starts to show when you don’t get what they want

[dampedlife15]

What I personally think is I think they get bored. Whether it is intimacy, lifestyle or etc. But I am open for other perspectives after all these can’t be the only reasons✌🏽

[King_Dive]

"No matter how hot she is, there's always someone out there who's life she is making worse"

Goes the same for guys as well of course, but you get the idea.

[genericname85]

i would assume that someone who's about to cheat doesn't really consider those qualities when they are cheating.

[Anonymous]

Women already have an inflated sense of self, so if she's anywhere above average, she's constantly going to think "she deserves better".

Most guys know that, and realize they are a placeholder to women like that. I'm not going to be the fool staying faithful, while she's constantly looking to "move up"

[Wester1967]

For the same reason that women cheat on handsome, smart and kind men. Cuz they trash.

[exitseven]

It does happen. I met somebody who did this. I don't understand it.

[pickedcrisps]

Me neither bro

[pickedcrisps]

Wrong partner? 😐

[exitseven]

@pickedcrisps Nah, this guy just did it to see what he could get away with I think. His wife was pretty and a very nice person.

[PAcc92]

Suspicious of how you describe yourself, most decent human beings would have humility but you seem to think of yourself as perfect.

[Morgador]

We are dog's! Some men just don't have control of their sexual appetite and they don't step back to realize the damage it will do

[Anonymous]

Because you allow them too.

Most likely these are men who have a lot of coin and the whores dating them dont want to take a lifestyle hit.

[zagor]

Cheaters are going to cheat. Doesn't matter how wonderful and loyal their wife/husband is. They can't be happy with what they've got.

[noohair]

Maybe the beautiful, smart and kind woman, does not fulfill all his needs.
He could also be an assho! e or she could be a b! tch.

[Anonymous]

Men are hyproctical and horny dogs. When they find more Beautiful women, they always cheat.

[dustybiker]

Some, not all.

[This_Is_My_Opinion8]

Not all.

[Anonymous]

Several possible reasons. I guess the number one is high maintenance.
That and more girls than not are attracted to guys who are taken, so she wants HIM.
(not a guy LIKE him.)

[Babygirl_S]

Because they know they won't lose such a woman even if they treat her badly.

[ChiPaPa]

If they're a piece of shit, don't matter the gender.

[Clarke498]

It's a mix of sex related issues and the cheater being a piece of shit.

[Manchild2018]

It is not really even about the woman or anything they did just an addiction.

[Aiko_E_Lara]

Same reason why women are cheating on a handsome, smart and kind men.

[shaysh87]

stop trying to incite gender wars.

[Aiko_E_Lara]

Then she should also stop generalizing. So why are you looking at me?

[shaysh87]

You’re trying to start a competition of who cheats more right?

[Aiko_E_Lara]

If thats what you think, shall we keep me that way?

[Aiko_E_Lara]

Apparently it ok for the asker to generalize guys but if i do the same, the crossing the line? What's this double standards you're trying to prove?

[shaysh87]

your post is not even an answer to this question. The asker wasn't even asking for your opinion on women cheating, the topic was only asking about men who cheat. why would you suddenly start shitting on women, if the topic was never about women?

clearly you just want to start a gender war.

[shaysh87]

this question was never about "double standards". this question was also never saying that women never cheat. and this is also not the first time I've seen you start a gender war.

[Aiko_E_Lara]

She's asking why and what part of "same reason why" do you not understand? You just don't see the relevancy and the principal because all you were thinking of is assuming i'm trying to start a gender war. You know what, i can also say the same thing. I also never said that there are no men who cheat. But you're just going to say i am starting to shit on women anyways. But you know i can always say the same thing about the asker starting to shit on men for asking such questions if that's the case. I don't care how many times you have actually seen me and think i'm actually starting a gender war when i can say the same thing that this isn't the first time i've seen a question generalizing like this. So if you don't care about generalizing then i don't care about giving. this kind of answer. it's simple

[shaysh87]

this topic never ever said anything about women. ok?
the only reason why you mentioned women was because you wanted this to be a competition.

you're basically implying: "how dare you talk about men cheating? women cheat too!!"

and dude, this is not the first time I saw you try to incite a gender war. You're been on here for a long time and I've read a lot of your shit.

you seem to always have this "competition" going on between men and women.
According to you, nobody can ever say anything bad about men, without you talking shit about women too.

[shaysh87]

[Same reason why women are cheating on a handsome, smart and kind men.]

No shit. The 1000 billion people on earth never knew that women could cheat on men too. Thanks for telling us.

[Aiko_E_Lara]

So? This topic has never ever said about anything else also. Other people can also bring up other topics that is actually relevant to the question but you don't care unless someone mentions women in here i see. If you think that the only reason on how come you're fail to think that the reason why i am bringing up women in this is to bring the other side of the story like that's simply it?

Because that's what you think i'm actually implying. Anyone can also deliberately misconstru what the question said and just dismiss everything by making assumptions like you do. However i'm not someone like you but all i'm doing it just saying. The way just make assumptions to this just makes you so triggered that you don't like to hear people talking about the other side of the stories.

Also no shit the million of people in this world never knew that men could cheat. But still if you want to ask why it's still the same reason.

[Aiko_E_Lara]

People can involve society, biology, attitude, etc in this. The asker can involve beautiful, smart and kind in this. But i still see you don't care of unless someone involves women but if you cannot see the relevancy then i can simply say, she's talking about men and men is a gender and what else is a gender is a woman so that's why i'm talking about it. but all you can think of is just be hostile about it just because someone stalking about women. Like that assumption you're making on me has got to be like one of the biggest irony yet.

[shaysh87]

noo... nobody knew that women could cheat on men too. thats why you had to tell us.

[Aiko_E_Lara]

Then the asker is saying nobody new batman code cheat on women that's why she asked. You know if i have to argue at your level for you to realize what a moron you sound

[Aiko_E_Lara]

*then the asker is saying that nobody knew that men cheat that is why she asked.

[shaysh87]

You didn’t even answer the question of why men cheat on beautiful kind women.

[shaysh87]

Nobody on earth knew women could cheat too.

[shaysh87]

You were such great help. NOT

[Aiko_E_Lara]

I can still say you failed to see the answer of my question. So tell me why do women? Because she's unloyal? She found someone better? Many of the excuses i can find. But that's for the same reason why men are so cheat. Or vice versa. That is why you fail to see the answer because all you do is whine about it

[Aiko_E_Lara]

Anyways you're not even the one who's asking for help here so speak for yourself and look for confirmation biases

[shaysh87]

Why are you listing all the reasons why women cheat? That’s not even an answer to this question

You should be listing all the reasons why men cheat in order to answer this question
But nooo... according to you only women cheat. Men never cheat

[Aiko_E_Lara]

@shaysh87 Or how about why not just say "same reason why"? But no according to you, you just have to let anyone list and not analyze for yourself and chose to make hasty assumptions and get butthurt over it.

[shaysh87]

I think you’re the one who is too butt hurt by this question. That’s why you refused to answer it and rather shit on women

If you weren’t butthurt then answer this god damn question

No wait... you can’t. Because according to you men don’t cheat

[Aiko_E_Lara]

@shaysh87 More like you're butthurt by my comment. That's why you choose to over analyse and just deliberately misconstrue what I said to give yourself an excuse to be offended.

if you're not butthurt, then you would've think what i said is what I actually meant.

No wait because everything has to be "shitting on our gender" whenever your gender is mentioned

[Aiko_E_Lara]

Also, for the record, i said "Same reason why" i never said men don't cheat but women do. So can you not read?

[shaysh87]

[Also, for the record, i said "Same reason why" i never said men don't cheat but women do. So can you not read?]

Can YOU not read?

This question Asked you to list the reasons why MEN cheat. So why would you just the reasons why women cheat?

It hurts you too much to acknowledge that men can be shitty too right?

[shaysh87]

You obviously can’t read which was why you answered this question wrong

[shaysh87]

Do you understand English?

[Aiko_E_Lara]

But you know i am not just saying "women cheat" you can clearly read i am saying "same reason why" but i'm not saying only women. Which is still a valid answer because they still both involve the same principle. So if you know English better yourself that you would have seen the principles. So does it hurt for you to acknowledge that they have the same reason why they cheat? If i don't know English then there wouldn't be any point of arguing with you right now but see i just debunked you flawlessly. So where did i even say only women? can you point it out? You can't.

[shaysh87]

Why do you always like to start these competitions between men and women? Are you a misogynist? What makes you think men are perfect while women are always shit?

[shaysh87]

This question was never asking why women cheat. You can stop obsessing over Women and return back to the topic of men

[Aiko_E_Lara]

Like what I said before, "People can involve society, biology, attitude, etc in this. The asker can involve beautiful, smart and kind in this. But i still see you don't care of unless someone involves women but if you cannot see the relevancy then i can simply say, she's talking about men and men is a gender and what else is a gender is a woman so that's why i'm talking about it. but all you can think of is just be hostile about it just because someone stalking about women. Like that assumption you're making on me has got to be like one of the biggest irony yet." <-- But i still see you're dodging that one and resort to that "No you". You think i'd forget what I said? That still stands by the way. So it's more like you don't know how discussions work. Just because someone is using a different topic, it doesn't always mean it's irrelevant like those examples i gave what people just involved.

[Aiko_E_Lara]

Also go resort to "misogynist" or whatever whine you wanna use. Like that's stopping me. You've seen me doing this all a long but really now is just the time you have the guts to call me out? Oh puhlese. You just wanna ignore that i do thesame thing to guys asking about girls. Maybe you see me say stuff like this to girls probably is because most of the time, it's girls who asks questions like that not guys. Also like that changed anything. Because we all know anyone who loves just whines "misogynist" have a problems here. Excuse me but did I say she's a misandrist for making generalizations? No?

[Aiko_E_Lara]

@shaysh87 And why do you always think I'm trying to start a gender war here? You know that's what snowflakes always think. To give themselves an excuse to start their own war of course. You can't just take this with a grain of salt. can you? Way to prove me right tho

[shaysh87]

Because this is not the first time you shitted on women when the topic was about men. I’ve seen much of your misogyny on here

Truth is 75% of men on this website hate women. You just another one of them with the “men can do no wrong” mentallity

[shaysh87]

Men are the worse gender. Men commit most of the crime in the world and men are the ones who start all the wars. If the world were run by women, there would be no war or violence or crime

[Aiko_E_Lara]

@shaysh87 Well it's not also the first time i've seen women shitting on men here. But you see, you're just basing it on what you've seen at this point. Do you even have real statistics to back up your claims? I don't think so. Maybe there's something wrong with you if you get so debunked so easily. And yeah while basing it on what you've seen with no real proof? What makes you think you're actually being truthful here? Isn't that your "Morons do no wrong” mentality?

Really now it's starting to divert into the topic of who's more sexist here but I thought we're talking about what the asker is asking? You see, you just backfired your own logic.

[Aiko_E_Lara]

@shaysh87 Yeah and women also get away with crimes more and guys get less tolerated and even convicted even if he's innocent. I'm just saying. I'd also like to mention the fact that most saviors are also men and the one who made your life comfortable today are men. But ok, I'm not like you who complains about changing the topic but ironically do it anyways but I don't mind debunking your agenda and your victim card you're trying to use to excuse yourself for hate men right here and now.

[shaysh87]

Men are more likely to commit violent crimes.

https:/
/www. google. com/amp/s/theconversation. com/amp/men-are-more-likely-to-commit-violent-crimes-why-is-this-so-and-how-do-we-change-it-157331

[Aiko_E_Lara]

Wanna wish for men to be gone because we're "the worse gender" Sure. Be careful what you wish for you. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=E8a_lbW1R8c Oh im not even saying women are the worse gender. But you really insist with what you said, here are facts for you then

[shaysh87]

According to the most recent numbers published by the Federal Bureau of Prisons (BOP), 93.2 percent of the approximately 185,500 federal inmates are men, and only 6.8 percent are women.

https:/
/www. google. com/amp/s/www. statista. com/chart/amp/11573/gender-of-inmates-in-us-federal-prisons-and-general-population/

[Aiko_E_Lara]

@shaysh87 Also I still love the fact that you're ignoring what i said about you changing the topic lol. I thought I was the "irrelevant" one here. Just saying

[Aiko_E_Lara]

@shaysh87 @shaysh87 You're still ignoring the video I gave lol. You only wanna take a look at how many prisoners (Which some of them could be innocent) But you wanna ignore the guys behind those death risky jobs keeping us alive today who barely get any recognition. Also look at how many women committing violence who got away with it https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=m4hrHUo70nY&t=19s and see how many false accusers who gets away with it www.youtube.com/watch?v=CIf7w9f202c&t=1466s

[shaysh87]

Study Finds A New Reason Why Men Cheat More Than Women

https:/
/www. google. com/amp/s/www. businessinsider. com/why-men-cheat-more-than-women-2013-9%3famp

[shaysh87]

Evolution May Explain Why Men Are More Likely To Cheat

https:/
/www. google. com/amp/s/www. forbes. com/sites/adambarsouk/2018/10/05/evolution-may-explain-why-men-are-more-likely-to-cheat/amp/

[Aiko_E_Lara]

@shaysh87 And do you mind explaining that cheating statistics explain how they're actually made? Because if that's against the law, it would be a crime and would be officially recorded. But that's not really the case. I already debunked that one. If You Think Guys Cheat More Then You're Wrong ↗ Also here's another factor why women COULD cheat more https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zOP793671p0 You see, you don't get the consequences much for cheating so a lot can do it without even being addressed.

[Aiko_E_Lara]

@shaysh87 What's ironic in this is you're saying "men cheats more" but you don't want competition. So what's with that hypocrisy?

[shaysh87]

What makes you think men shouldn’t suicide If they make up over 90% of criminals of society? And the fact that they cheat more than women? Aren’t men the inferior gender?

[shaysh87]

Who cares if a male criminal suicide? Nobody ! You’re a criminal. Society’s filth

[Aiko_E_Lara]

@shaysh87 Because men's rights are human rights. And you're just proving my point of society tolerating men less even if they're innocent. Just like how you like to ignore all the counter arguments i gave to you which proves women aren't as innocent.

[Aiko_E_Lara]

@shaysh87 Ok then i don't care about feminism and your issues. Just arguing at your level and ofcourse you'd tell me how i sound

[Aiko_E_Lara]

@shaysh87 And who cares if a feminist, misandrist and a drama queen gets discriminated and raped? I can also say they deserve it. I'm a misogynist? Then you're a misandrist. Or you wanna prove your double standards again

[shaysh87]

You Obviously don’t like it when I treat men and women like competition. there are many ways women are better than men

[shaysh87]

Why are mothers better parents than fathers?

https:/
/www. psychologytoday. com/us/blog/the-scientific-fundamentalist/200806/why-are-mothers-better-parents-fathers-part-i

[Aiko_E_Lara]

I mean who actually does? Which is exactly why i'm not making men and women a competition. That is until one snowflake gives herself an excuse to make a competition out of everything. https://youtu.be/VRwKlvcWE3E really they're all the articles also saying that fathers make better parent medicalxpress.com/.../...pier-parents-mothers.html Anyways it's always up to you if you want to believe in what you just want to believe.

[Aiko_E_Lara]

https://youtu.be/guuPHxg4XXc you can consume all your time in google but this video pretty much has all the answers you need whether you ignore it or not. All i can do is just simply give you time stamps for whatever argument you like to claim.

[Aiko_E_Lara]

And if you don't like men and women being compared than you stop being a snowflake over a simple answer

[shaysh87]

Not all studies are accurate

If men made better parents then why are 80% of single parents made up of women?

According to 2020 U. S. Census Bureau, 4 out of about 11 million single parent families with children under the age of 18, 80 percent were headed by single mothers.

https:/
/singlemotherguide. com/single-mother-statistics/

[shaysh87]

Surely if men made better parents , there would be more single dads than single moms. But no... overwhelming majority of single parents are women. Sounds like women love their kids more

[Aiko_E_Lara]

If not all studies are actually accurate then that will also include yours if that's the case. And you know i can you know i can also tell you how the women are wonderful effect had been hardwired in our society which is one reason why there are more single moms because guys had always been the disposable one since we cannot give birth like you do. The power of having uterus gives you that advantage. en.m.wikipedia.org/.../Women-are-wonderful_effect

[Aiko_E_Lara]

childprotectionresource.online/.../ also this study kind of contradicts what you're saying that mother's love children more when it says right here is that mothers are more likely to abuse their child. But what is funny is that you only say that not all studies are true when something that is about your gender is address like really.

[shaysh87]

My study was a poll by the US census. It’s a very official source. US census job is to help the government count its citizens for statistical purposes every 10 years

[shaysh87]

Number of Children Living Only With Their Mothers Has Doubled in Past 50 Years

https:/
/www. census. gov/library/stories/2021/04/number-of-children-living-only-with-their-mothers-has-doubled-in-past-50-years. html

[Aiko_E_Lara]

Then i can also say that my study was also a poll by common people. And of course it may also come from people around the world. Also the videos i talk about, if you really want to argue with argumentum ad populum then i can easily say that if you can see the likes and dislike ratio you can see that there are way more likes than dislikes before you say no one would agree with me. So it wouldn't really make a difference if that video was actually in a written form found at the very last page on google where you get it. I did mention something about women are wonderful effect i talked about. en.m.wikipedia.org/.../Women-are-wonderful_effect Also how societies brain is hardwired to protect women because they're the only once who can give birth and which is why society always this post men and all that because you have this uterus of yours. You just repeated your claims actually when you can also just read what i presented to you again

[Aiko_E_Lara]

https://youtu.be/guuPHxg4XXc you can watch this video again and skip at 18:57 which also is a factor why society just dispose men and give you the child instead despite the studies showing that men can also make good parents.

[shaysh87]

Single mothers comprise of 88% of three worlds single parent populAtion.

According to the Organization for Economic Co-operation and Development (OECD, 2014):

17% of children aged 0-14 live in single parent households worldwide
Women head approximately 88% of these households
Contrary to popular belief, the majority of single parents are employed

https:/
/www. google. com/amp/s/spacedoutscientist. com/2017/07/18/single-parents-worldwide-statistics-and-trends/amp/

[shaysh87]

Even around the world , single moms make up most of the single parents.

How are dads better parents than moms if almost all single parents are women?

Your study must be fake or biased

[shaysh87]

Anti women videos created by men who hate women don’t count as real evidence

[Aiko_E_Lara]

No matter how many times you keep repeating that i've already explain how society's brain is hardwired. So that's how most single parents are women despite studies showing that men can also make better parents. You know i can also say your studies are also fake and biased. If you want to talk about people voting your article, i can say unlike that youtube video i actually presented, anyone can vote anywhere and anytime on the comfort of their own homes and doesn't need special orientations or gathering to actually make a vote and they are not people who are actually selected to vote. But if you really say they are anti women, i thought being an anti women you such a big deal and misogynistic and being a misogynist is wrong therefore, would it be the case that those video should get more hates than likes? But whether you like it or not he did make a point and actually shows studies and statistics and data. But sure you can just say it is all fake like how bias you just are.

[shaysh87]

US Census Bureau is not a random agency written by biased people. US Census statistics are recorded by the government. On the other hand , all your fake evidence is made by misogynists' aka woman haters

And no, you can't argue that men make better parents yet 88% of men abandon their children. It doesn't make any sense.

I think you're anti women. Because you won't acknowledge it when men cheat on women. But when women cheat on men, you're 100% all hyped up.

88% of worldwide single parent house holds are headed by WOMEN. BUT YOU CAN'T ACKNOWLEDGE THIS FACT. You just to IGNORE this fact so that you can insist that men are still better parents.

do you think dads would abandon their kids if they were "better parents?" i don't think so.

Seems like talking shit about women is your favorite thing to do.

[Aiko_E_Lara]

Then i can also say that those videos are presented is also not random and there are a lot of bunch of studies in there that is also not just a random agency written by bias people and also recorded by the government. Oh you're fake evidence is made by misandrist a. k. a men hater.

Men can abandon their children but it doesn't mean women don't abuse their child less despite not even abandoning them. When it comes to answers like this, you are 100% hyped up and also about the consequences guys get when they cheat because you assume they all deserve it.

I never did ignore that fact whatever i already explain how that 88% of worldwide single parents are actually women which still has something to do with evolutionary psychology and that women are wonderful explained.

I'm not even saying dads are better parents but i'm saying they can be better. So do you think moms would abuse of their kids if they were better? parents i don't think so

Then i can also say it seems like talking shit about men is your favorite thing to do

[shaysh87]

[I never did ignore that fact whatever i already explain how that 88% of worldwide single parents are actually women which still has something to do with evolutionary psychology and that women are wonderful explained.]

has it ever occurred to you that evolutionary psychology makes mothers better parents?

[I'm not even saying dads are better parents but i'm saying they can be better. So do you think moms would abuse of their kids if they were better? parents i don't think so]

you offered studies insisting that dads are better parents? now you're saying all those so called
" facts" are actually lies now?

if the evidence you presented was already a lie, what convinces me all the other shit you splattered on here are not lies?

videos created by male rapists do not count as evidence. go look for some real numbers from a legitimate source.

[Aiko_E_Lara]

Providing is also a part of parenting skills which dads are better which is what evolutionary psychologists talking about so that would mean dads are more willing to endanger their lives for their kids also because of their physical capabilities. So yes the fact is that both parents are good their own ways.

However did i say agreed with a study i offered? That was a counter argument for all the claims you gave saying that women are better parents. So it's more like you are insisting that mothers are better parents.

You know i can also ask you the same thing, if your evidence is a lie then what convince me all the other shit you splattered on here are not lies?

And if he really was a male rapist then it would it be the case that his video would be taken down by youtube and he gets jailed for posting something like that? But in the end it is so much easier to accuse anyone as rapist who actually makes a valid point. So how about if i say those articles are made by female misandrist and accusers? Oh don't worry i'm just trying to sound like you do.

[shaysh87]

if dad's loved their kids more, then why are 88% of all single parent households around the world made up of SINGLE MOMS?

[Aiko_E_Lara]

Again. Evolutionary psychogy and women are wonderful effect in the name of society's law. But also again, i never said dad love their kids more. I'm still giving claims as a counter argument. Do you even what counter arguments mean?

[Aiko_E_Lara]

Also the family violence like what the video is talking about may also affect the kids. Im still saying they love their kids as much. If you like to insist women do more, then i give you the other side of the story

[shaysh87]

i think women tend to be better citizens of society than men. better parents, dont abandon their kids, don't commit nearly as much crime or violence as men. women also tend to be more compassionate and respectful.

[Aiko_E_Lara]

You "think"? Well that's not even a fact anymore. Sure less wars may happen if only women are in this world but that would also mean slower economic growth, slower development, slower technologocal advances and by 2020s, it would still be like medieval times due to the lack of risk women take

[Aiko_E_Lara]

I still agree with the video about what would happen if men disappeared

[shaysh87]

[Sure less wars may happen if only women are in this world but that would also mean slower economic growth, slower development, slower technologocal advances and by 2020s, it would still be like medieval times due to the lack of risk women take]

who cares about tech growth if there is no war, nobody dies, everyone is happy? take a look at what is happening in the middle east. The US pentagon estimates that ISIS terrorists will attack / bomb the us within 6 -12 months. If there is no life, there is no point in advancing tech. because you will never live to see it.

[Aiko_E_Lara]

@shaysh87 Lol easy for you to say when you're basically using it right now. And sure who cares about those techs keeping us alive? So your logic is who care if we all go extinct by natural causes as long as there's no war lol. Basically contradicts your notion saying "If there is no life, there is no point in advancing tech"

[shaysh87]

there are females in tech. there are female doctors, scientists etc. Women are more important than men. Women are also the ones giving birth. If you eliminate women, the population would cease to exist. Its a better choice to kill off more men than women. Because women control reproduction. Its better to have 10 vaginas to 1 penis than 10 penises to 1 vagina.

[Aiko_E_Lara]

And whoever said there are no women in tech? Nobody is saying it but not doesn't remove the fact that male dominates that field because they are the one supposed to be endangering their lives for the sake of women. So if there is no one making women's lives easier than there would be no women in tech in the first place.

[Aiko_E_Lara]

Also because technology of got develop because of war happens so even if women starts to develop their own technology and trades without men, chances are there are always disagreements, political issues and other death risky stuff men do. So it doesn't make much difference if women became men anyways

[shaysh87]

there are women who are already in trades. I have originally thought about going into a trade too. But I didn't go into it because it looked like a "boys fraternity club" that didn't welcome girls. you need to realize that there are a lot of women who want to go into trades but are discouraged by the lack of women. I didn't feel welcome there.

[shaysh87]

men can't become women. the human population will cease to exist if there weren't any women. there's no way men can give birth.

[Aiko_E_Lara]

Or maybe that's just your excuse because you cannot handle how men do their jobs? Like what i said before nobody is saying that there are no women in trades or in technology, but that still doesn't remove the fact that men dominates those fields. So yeah men had been told shit, had been told to "man up and be strong or else" but that's stopping to you? That's another way to prove my point that most women just chose not to do those jobs because their "feelings" matter more.

[Aiko_E_Lara]

Another thing a woman can't do is impregnate another woman so they can't be men so the point is?

[Aeyes]

Because beautiful, smart and kind is not all what people look for.. their is more to attraction then reasoning with it..

[Tonita91996]

Because they can and nothing is going to change this society likes to see drama. They get bored and like variety.

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

Variety. Desire to experience something fresh and new. You get tired of the samething over and over. Humans are like that.

[ImmortalHanma]

Most guys don’t cheat up looks and personality wise but when we do cheat it’s mainly for sex

[Shihab91]

😈😈😈 just kidding ,
Because peopld who cheat are garbage

[Cubus]

People are weak and it's hard for them to be faithfull.

[KellyTarrel]

Because no matter how good what they have is, some guys always want something they can't have.

[This_Is_My_Opinion8]

Or because they are in some way unhappy in their relationship. Not that it excuses cheating of course.

[KellyTarrel]

Right, if they are unhappy just be a big enough person to end it.

[This_Is_My_Opinion8]

Exactly.