Do real men have a protective instinct that kicks in when they see women they care about cry?

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MrOracle · Accepted Answer

Yes... assuming she's not one of the women who cry at everything, and that she's not a "manipulative crier." I think we all know someone who cries crocodile tears whenever they don't get their way or they want something.

But, yes, if a woman we love is crying about something, and there's something we can do to help - whether that's a hug or a talk or actually doing something to fix the problem, we usually will do so. We don't want to see our loved ones in pain.

Mehzmeh · Accepted Answer

Yup!!!

Sarahr123 · Answer

If it’s their daughter or a wife they actually love or their mother and sometimes also sisters (usually younger sisters) then yeah I guess they do feel protective. Some men do. It depends on the nature of the relationship. Not everyone has a good relationship with their family members.

As for seeing stranger women cry, they probably find them to be absurd and drama. Especially if they cry hysterically on the streets. When a person is genuinely crying and it’s just tears and you can literally feel their pain then anyone feels some sort of protective instinct regardless of the sex of the person. It’s like your heart breaks a little for them and maybe you also feel like crying with them.

Finchie40 · Answer

Yes, i am very protective to a girl that makes me feel loved and valued to a certain extent , that stands by my side like I do to her , even if she is going off the deep end and saying some crazy shit to someone , I will let her go off verbally on them but the second it’s about to escalate into a physical fight I will intervene and protect her , My ex had no filter when it came to saying what she needed to say and if she was pissed off she would verbally attack , Even if I thought she was being out of line I had her back. By her knowing I was there for her got me some amazing sex lol shit I even knocked my oldest brother out for her when he got in her face

Shizunk · Answer

This depends on context. Usually I will just be uncomfortable. A protective instinct may kick in if it's someone I care about and the reasons for crying are reasonable. There is a very real possibility that I may instinctively think "calm down, you are being pathetic."
And I had male friends cry and appreciate my empathy so it's not purely a white knight syndrome, part of it is just response to human emotions.
With all that out of the way, yes, a woman is going to get a stronger reaction from me and the impulse to hug her and destroy anyone who hurt her.
Those two last things will never happen if a man cries.

Ghostlock · Answer

We don't want to see anyone cry, man or woman. However, in my experience most women you can't help when they cry because most of the time the anguish they are feeling is something that they brought on themselves... most of the time. For an example, when I told my ex wife to go to rehab or our marriage was over... she acted like a tough guy and said F Rehab... so then I filed for the divorce and she cried. In her situation she expected me to just deal with whatever she felt like doing and I should never want to leave her over it. She was wrong.

Middle-aged_maniac · Answer

A little late to the party here, but I tend to do that with all women, not just ones I'm close to. I know that some women are manipulative and some are taking advantage of some guys just trying to be gentlemen, but my mother raised me to do it anyway. Protect a woman even if she's a miserable you-know-what.
You know, we hear a lot of talk about boys needing fathers, and I agree, but in the area of treating women, my Irish Catholic mother who's almost seventy taught me far more about it than my dad ever did.

Rob596 · Answer

At least I do. I do everything I can to comfort them. Even to my female friends. I hate seeing women cry. Like my female friend was crying a while ago because her grandma past away. At first, she didn’t want to tell me why she was sad, so I made her a letter to cheer her up. She said it made her day, and I gave her a hug. Sometimes, I don’t think about anything else till they’re better.

ReneD13 · Answer

I would say yes. I don't know if it's a protective instinct or that men tend to be fixers. They like to figure out whats wrong and solve the problem so that everything is fine. Sometimes this leads to problems because it's hard for men to understand that sometimes you can't just fix it, or that the women they care about don't want a fix they just want a shoulder to cry on.

worldscolide · Answer

Uh fuck yes. That and if my wife cries, she's either sad, over whelmed, or it's my fault. In all of those situations I do what I can to take care of her.

crazy8000 · Answer

A lot of people are pretty tired of crying female's since to many have used it to manipulate their way to something.
Because of that it rarely kicks in no matter how someone cares for someone.

If you are into blaming you can blame other female's for that and maybe yourself too.

AndrewMG · Answer

Oh I'm not good with tears regardless of gender lol... I think I'm a nice guy but I panic when someone cry's in front of me and just help out regardless. I've literally had a customer on the phone with me today who've I've arranged all sorts of stuff for as it stopped her crying. It's basically my Kryptonite lol

humpbackjack · Answer

Of course hell it bothers me to see any woman cry but there can be a point where the crying gets old like if she keeps causing whatever she’s crying about and I’m not talking about domestic violence I’m talking about say she’s sick and keeps doing whatever is making here sick or a girlfriend that keeps cheating on her boyfriend but cries her eyes out when he catches her but for the most part I’d say our natural instinct is to want to fix it

_piotr · Answer

No. The willingness to help can kick in regardless of gender. In fact, many women (especially young) are entitled manipulators that think they are superior beings. This does not does not encourage me to help them. But then, I am probably a 'fake man' according to WowGirl's contrived, made up standards.

MJtheCoach · Answer

Since feminist has made us feel like shit for having testicles. NO!

I was raised in Canada and after extremely amount of male bashing and me being humiliated and made fun of by women.

I don’t give a FK if I see those local Canadian bitches in trouble.

I’ll just walk away.

Jayplays900 · Answer

My reaction is more "Oh god, is everything okay?"

I sometimes freeze up as I don't want to make it worse, but I try my best to do something. Maybe just let them lay on me. But that doesn't make me a 'ReAl mAN', that just makes me a decent friend/partner.

SpiderManFan2002 · Answer

I’m not sure I’m not a dude, but I think it’s just the human thing to care about an upset person- especially if it’s someone you know, and even if it’s a stranger I wouldn’t want to just leave them there if they were alone- I’d feel so bad.

TallAnon · Answer

The phrase "real man" is a bit weird, in my opinion. But yes, that's the feeling I get.

ChiTown33 · Answer

I wouldn't call it instinct more of a learned response. Women teach their sons that. And inthe current climate it's best if guys just unlearn that response. Most women of today exploit that.

fonduegirl · Answer

You ask the funniest questions. But yeah, as far as I have observed, a man is more likely to comfort you than a woman would if you were found crying. I guess they're just nicer that way. :)

WhoRtheseGuys · Answer

Actually studies show that women’s tears turn men off. So I think it makes them want to get out of the situation quickly.

xwmiku · Answer

If I see a woman cry and she is not already being attended to by friends, I will drop everything to go and comfort her or see if she needs assistance. Do with that what you will.

GoodGuyBreakingBad · Answer

Yes, I love to comfort a girl, when I see a girl cry

Juxtapose · Answer

When I cry about 6 times a year it is hard to take frequent criers seriously. I have a lot more respect for mentally tough women who can control their emotions.

boomstheory · Answer

Yes and y'all get silly as hell when y'all start crying so a lot of times we try to stop you ahead of time so you don't embarrass yourself 😉

ohshee · Answer

Yes for sure even girls that I don't know and depending on how stress they are is the level of instinct then I get

VanillaSalt · Answer

Do real women have submissive instincts that make them wanna cook and clean for a real man?…

TonyMetal___86 · Answer

If a woman cries than a man should be there for her to comfort her and solve her problem, the same way she does with him!

A real man won't let anyone makes a woman cry because if she cries than she's hurt and feeling pain...

Hairylegs222 · Answer

No, depends on the reason for me. If it's something trivial then her little emo episode will pass and I'll be annoyed. Something important then I'll want to comfort her.

Lionman95 · Answer

Yes especially if he knows her better and he didn't meet her randomly.

DonRollins · Answer

In public I am repulsed by it. If it's someone I care about I just want to hold them and let them cry it out. Make them feel better.

Archipelago2000 · Answer

Yeah. I guess it also depends on whether she cries a lot or if it's a rare thing. And it's not just for women, I'd probably react the same way with a male friend too.

loveslongnails · Answer

I wouldn't call it protective. I'd be more "concerned" if I cared about the woman.

Guanfei · Answer

I don't know about the others, but I do. To a ridiculous point sometimes, like missing an appointment just to check on a complete stranger I've seen crying.

DexWest · Answer

I certainly do to a certain extent. I’ll sit their and listen, being the shoulder to cry on, but then at the end, I’ll put a boot up you butt and encourage you to put yourself back together.

Xoirwinkan · Answer

Not really since it's not a 'protecting situation'. Men might actually feel rather useless in that situation, which might be part of why men hate when women cry.

cth96190 · Answer

The answer to the question is yes.

Alvin1997 · Answer

If I see a strange woman crying, all I can do is offer a bottle of water and I can hear her out at least. And I'll drop the lady to her house.

MrJMM · Answer

For me, it's my mom. If I see my mom cry and someone made her cry you better prepare for the negative talkbacks and maybe a kick in the face or more.

Open2It · Answer

I have a protective instinct, particularly with women in distress... but then, I'm the type that will run into the fire, not away

FireFox001 · Answer

I have a protective instinct that kicks in when I see any of my people suffer. Reason why I joined the military.

EnglishEuropean · Answer

Real men? As opposed to those cardboard cutouts we see everywhere now?

Joshua0213 · Answer

If there's actually a reason definitely but if she cries always for no reason then no

msc545 · Answer

No, we are all "real". None of us seem to be aliens from another planet.

misterCage4 · Answer

Definitely. Might make me lose my shit if it's too serious the thing she's crying about

OddBeMe · Answer

I guess. But most crying chicks are strangers I’m public. Kinda awkward…

Iron_Man · Answer

Yes of course I would want to help you out

imfreeze95 · Answer

I do if my sister called me crying I’d be ready to be at the he// out of someone

noohair · Answer

Men to have the instinct but how it is triggered is not clear.

Snakeyes7 · Answer

I think so. Many panic because they don't know what to do to calm the woman down.

admles · Answer

Yeah, I do, I've always been that way, even as a boy, it just kicks in.

Joker_ · Answer

Couldn't care less when women cry, but when a homie cries it hits me right in the feels

jennifer_Hanmabloom · Answer

I hate the sound of a woman crying it infuriates me not because I care about why she’s crying the actual sound it self drives me nuts

Talea · Answer

I can't speak for all men, but I certainly do.

Razor8 · Answer

Yep, I know I become very protective

exitseven · Answer

Yes, You are not crying @wowwgirl are you?

FunkyMonkee · Answer

Not just the ones they care about.

jasco · Answer

No why would they have that?

abc3643 · Answer

Yes.

TheFlak38 · Answer

both real and fake men have it.

NightOwl8801 · Answer

I do feel a need to check on a woman that's crying

DJB72 · Answer

Absolutely

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